FYI

[sana]

aye, mornin'

[trip]

Morning it is, and a good one to you.

[trip]

Sorry folks, the club story will have to be tommorrow.

I'm having connection problems and I've got some stuff that needs attending too.

[trip]

Sorry, been super busy.

Well, still not up for club story, yet got another one.

Rarely do I discuss clients, yet, I'm going to make an exception here, because by gosh, I'm just so damned James Brown about it, ie, feeling good.

This woman in her 40's comes to me 1.5 years ago. After thinking things over for several weeks she decides to become a client.
What she wants to have success in is, "Show Me The Money." These were her words, and coming from her, spoken like she really meant it, was in a way funny. Now, of course, money is pretty obvious request when it comes to success, and have no problems with that whatsoever.

One thing did discuss with her was this. Often times a believe system that is the most demoralizing is this, "If I could just get here, ( insert any goal, money, honey, new job, 50 lbs. of muscle ) everything would be okay."

Well, what often happens when that is the goal, a person puts massive energy out there, tries and tries, struggles and struggles and finally gets to goal, and lo and behold they feel no different about themselves. And because they put it all on the line thinking this one thing would happen, and then it doesn't, real dissappointment and sorrow sets in.

So, I have too pre-warn them and teach them about this and what it is all about etc. This usually takes a few weeks and 4-5 hours of teaching, of course along the way we learn all kinds of cool stuff. And this is a good thing because it is all in preparation too get the money, and to enjoy the journey, cliched I know, yet there is a way too show people how it works.

Anyways, after about 6 weeks this woman is rocking, her life according to her, never been better, everything's great. She hangs with me for another 5-6 months. Around 3 months in, obviously at this point getting to no her very well. The last 4-5 times she had been in to discuss things I'd been noticing a weakness in her though process, which my guess was probably habitual for a life time, yet it was probably holding her back in a major way. Now, of course really don't know this cause only see her in one controlled setting.

So, next time we meet, ask permission if we can discuss this possibility. She's happy too, we'll we do and low and behold, major breakthrough. We've just eliminated one of her greatness weakness's in about a half hour. And like most it was something very very simple.

Anyways, she shoots off like a rocket after that. She's a sales rep and she starts smashing records. She negotiates, on her own, which she'd never done before, a 40% pay raise in a down economy. She get's a huge bonus, she becomes companies no. 1 resource. Along the way she's helping other folks out, and because she knows lot's of folks in her business she starts doing referalls for others. Now she's getting 2-3 royalty checks a month from different sources. Not gonzo money, yet she'd put in a days work, and now she is seeing anywhere from 300-800 a month in additional checks, not related to her job.

Beginning of year she is really busy and decides, well, she want's to do more with me, start her own business etc., her dream for the big money, except like most of us life get's in the way, she's real busy at work, personal life etc. It's important, yet, it will have too wait 5-6 months.

Of course fine with me, know she will follow through.

Well, about March she gets into an accident and hurts her neck. Now it's doctor and lawyer time, constant pain. Along the way, notice she is not making wise decisions in references to doctors and lawyers, ( oh, by the way, while she's not a client, do talk to her 2-3 month in passing so know what's what ). Which, when you are in lot's of pain is tough.

Now, the hard part for me, is I can't say anything. I can't say, "you're messing up, you should do better," that just can't be done. The best way for a person to learn, is to make their own decisions and take their own actions, which is one of the things we went over extensively.

I give a few suggestions, gentle ones along the way, yet have too stand on sidelines.

In June, she tell's me this. "Met a guy on line. He's a christian, almost a minister. We've been e-mailing for six months, went and spent my vacation with him a month ago. One week. We're in love. We're getting married in August, and I'm moving several states away."

Are you shocked? Have you heard this one before?

Of course, I've got a really bad FEELING about this. I want to grab her by the shoulders and shake some sense into her. This is vehemetly opposed to everything she says she stands for, everything she's built a life around, taught her children.

Yet, again, I can't.

Well, the only thing I can do is say, "Congratulations. Good luck, and wish you a long happy life."

Over summer talk to her few times, nothing of consequence.
Well, last week run in too her, she says, "Got a minute, let's talk."

"Okay, there is something that is wrong that I can't go into. Yet, need to talk about something."

I say, "fine." ( what else would I say, how's that for drama)

She get's into this thing, without giving details, about how people sometimes are evasive in their communication, and what does that mean. Now, we've already learned this and know this, so, I'm guessing here, that she's in a pickle and want's to be a hundred percent sure.

Time was short, so we go are seperate ways after ten minutes.

Today around lunch time get a phone call out of blue, it's her.
She starts chit chatting. Finally I just go, would you like to go to lunch, I'm hungry. So, was she. I'd promised I'd take her out too lunch for her wedding present so I'm just following through.

About 15 minutes into lunch, the story starts too unwind. She's made a big mistake, guy turned out to be pretty much a liar, a bullshitter and an alchoholic too boot. Since she is a christian and tee-totaler, she's never been around alkies, she told me a few times he'd get up and start sipping in the morning, she asked me, because she's never been around drinkers if that was normal, ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Anyways, long story short, she'd made the decision yesterday to get the marriage annuled. She's back in town on business, staying with her daughter and she is not going back.

She's happy that she knows has the guts not too make a bad situation worse. She said, she'd made a mistake, and that is fine because we all do that, the successfull ones get out of them quick, before they get worse.

It was a grade A day for me, it is insipring too see good people do great things under difficult circumstances.

SHE'S BACK!!!

And she's damn happy about it.

PS-Broke the nutrition mold today, not too bad, I think I'll do another two a day, feel it coming on.

Hope All Are Well