Monogamy

[VeggieLifterGal]

Thoughts on it?

[Puddles]

I think it can work well for most people. Stromba and I were monogamus for about 18 years and verry happy with it. Then a couple of years ago we both agreed that we'd like to try having another woman join us. I've been bi since I was very young but I never acted on it after we got married. And just like any normal guy, who wouldn't enjoy having 2 women in his bed on occasion? Our relationship is solid and built on years of love and trust. So, here we are 2 years later, happier than ever occasionally enjoying some playtime with friends.

I didn't grow up with a normal family life. My father was married before he met my mother but they wound up having an affair which wouldn't end. My father loved two women and his children equally. He never divorced his wife but upon retirement, he moved in with my mother and then only visited his wife. He passed away last June and my mother and his wife are on amicable terms and I've become close to my sister who I hardly even knew until my dad passed away. Before that I was an only child. So...although my father is gone, I now have the sister I always wanted.

Life isn't always black and white. While most people only see monogamy as being the right way to live, other situations can work well too. It's a very individual thing though.

What's happening, VGL? What's not making you happy?

[6p6]

in the long run it is the only way to go! Single life eventually catches up to you....

[jipped genes]

been with my wife for 12 years she has kept me on the straight and narrow so its been good to me. but damn there are some hot women out there, but alas i am not allowed to indulge

[Stonecold54]

Originally posted by jipped genes
been with my wife for 12 years she has kept me on the straight and narrow so its been good to me. but damn there are some hot women out there, but alas i am not allowed to indulge

poor guy. LOL I like monogamy because i am to lazy to try and have sex with other women. plus I got the good stuff at home why would I need something that would make me lose my lifestyle. of course there is that hooters waitress that is just aching to be bent over but all I can do is imagine.

[VeggieLifterGal]

MrsP-

I'm just noticing a whole lot of hotties that I could have fun with if I were single, and it makes me feel like I got the shackles on. But I guess that's mostly because my boy is away (for 6 months and counting), so monogamy means celibacy. And I have a strong sex drive. In short, the current situation sucks!

[ixoye66]

I think one woman is enough for me.

[Racer814]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
MrsP-

I'm just noticing a whole lot of hotties that I could have fun with if I were single, and it makes me feel like I got the shackles on. But I guess that's mostly because my boy is away (for 6 months and counting), so monogamy means celibacy. And I have a strong sex drive. In short, the current situation sucks!

I have those feelings sometimes too..as I'm sure everyone on here does..but all I have to do is think how I would feel if the situation were reversed..

[jipped genes]

VLG i know what your sayin, 6 months is a damn long time to go. evaluate your situation and decide if your relationship is worth waiting for or break up with him. my 2 cents. good luck sweety rough situation i wouldnt wanna be in. hang in there and do whats right for you!

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by Racer814
I have those feelings sometimes too..as I'm sure everyone on here does..but all I have to do is think how I would feel if the situation were reversed..

good point...though I'm not that jealous a person and I actually think I could handle it. unless of course the girls were a lot hotter than me.

[Racer814]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
good point...though I'm not that jealous a person and I actually think I could handle it. unless of course the girls were a lot hotter than me.

hey girl..I've seen your pic....they aint gonna be hotter than you...you are pretty smoking..

[VeggieLifterGal]

awww thanx

[Puddles]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
MrsP-

I'm just noticing a whole lot of hotties that I could have fun with if I were single, and it makes me feel like I got the shackles on. But I guess that's mostly because my boy is away (for 6 months and counting), so monogamy means celibacy. And I have a strong sex drive. In short, the current situation sucks!

That's tough but when you make it through, you'll both be closer and appreciate what you have in eachother even more.

In the meantime, get yourself a good toy with lots of batteries, get him a big bottle of lube and have pleanty of phone sex.

[MarcusMaximus]

i think it was a good game in the beginning but the parker brothers lost me when they started licensing it out to everyone. I always wanted to be the tin cup or the race car. and everyone plays by different rules; some play together but then start looking out only for themselves. it is a fun game for the first several times you play it but after that it gets rather old and tiresome. always putting up the same hotels in the same spot. and what about the pot of money in the middle; some people decide to share it while others are so jealous of the other person's success, that they dont' put any money in the middle.
for me, i like hearts

[Puddles]

Originally posted by MarcusMaximus
i think it was a good game in the beginning but the parker brothers lost me when they started licensing it out to everyone. I always wanted to be the tin cup or the race car. and everyone plays by different rules; some play together but then start looking out only for themselves. it is a fun game for the first several times you play it but after that it gets rather old and tiresome. always putting up the same hotels in the same spot. and what about the pot of money in the middle; some people decide to share it while others are so jealous of the other person's success, that they dont' put any money in the middle.
for me, i like hearts

LOL I like hearts better too.

[MarcusMaximus]

Originally posted by fitness-girl
WOW you really losed me on that one lol

it is a play on words and a metaphor. monogamy or the " bored " game Monopoly. then i continued on talking about monopoly being the same thing as monogamy. some people got it, some people didn't .

[VeggieLifterGal]

Interesting thread this turned into.

I got over feeling like I was missin out. I got more pics of my bf, and realized he's hotter than anyone I see here. Waiting...waiting...waiting...

MrsP I liked your post: "
That's tough but when you make it through, you'll both be closer and appreciate what you have in eachother even more.

In the meantime, get yourself a good toy with lots of batteries, get him a big bottle of lube and have pleanty of phone sex."

[houseman]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
Interesting thread this turned into.

I got over feeling like I was missin out. I got more pics of my bf, and realized he's hotter than anyone I see here. Waiting...waiting...waiting...

So the basis of your relationship and whether or not you'd cheat is based on the fact he's hot and moreover, hotter than anyone you see here?

[MarcusMaximus]

well there now, don't we all feel special now? i think that she's talking bout the ppl at her gym.

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by houseman
So the basis of your relationship and whether or not you'd cheat is based on the fact he's hot and moreover, hotter than anyone you see here?

I was just saying I have something very good to look forward to, that anyway whatever guys are here don't compare to him. And they look good here.

I wouldn't cheat on him because I never want to lose him. Getting ass would come at far too high a price. The fact that he's hot is important to me, but it's only a bonus on top of how wonderful he is. He's a beautiful person inside and out, cool as hell, funny, sweet, intellectual... And I never lie to him. Never could.

Clear?

[dial_tone]

I'm actually a one-woman guy; never really wanted to be anything else. I like the idea of being tuned into ONE person. I'm in a relationship (if you can call it that) with someone I only get to see twice a year. We find ways to squeeze in some extra lovin either with the camera, phone or Instant messages. The only thing I really miss is the huggin, but we always make up for that pretty quickly.

[Blackdream71]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
And I never lie to him. Never could.

That's good to know

[houseman]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
I was just saying I have something very good to look forward to, that anyway whatever guys are here don't compare to him. And they look good here.

I wouldn't cheat on him because I never want to lose him. Getting ass would come at far too high a price. The fact that he's hot is important to me, but it's only a bonus on top of how wonderful he is. He's a beautiful person inside and out, cool as hell, funny, sweet, intellectual... And I never lie to him. Never could.

Clear?

Very clear. You no longer appear so shallow.

A

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by houseman
Very clear. You no longer appear so shallow.

A

[inkman]

Monogamy does not work for my girl and I. Too boring for people with our sex drive and our tastes. She is Bi and I will damn near try anyone once if it feels good and even more if I like it. With our life style we do not have to cheat on each other when we both have permission to play with others.

The only stipulation is that both of us have to be with in arms reach of each other when we play with other couples or singles.. We still have plenty of alone time together when we enjoy just each other to the fullest. It takes a very strong couple to be able to handle that life style and you have to be able to seperate love and sex or the jealousy will destroy you.

Monogamy sucks for us cause we could never enjoy the sexual combos that are only possible with 3 or 4 people when we felt the urge to murge

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by inkman
Monogamy does not work for my girl and I. Too boring for peo