i think i'm doomed to be alone

[psyko1]

well people i'm alone again. it seems that i'll just never be happy. it's a shame really, i actually cared and LOVED this girl more than i ever have for anyone else. but you see i had to end it. what would you have done? if you see the person you love be so unhappy all the time. complaining about your relationship and how "we suck" every other day. i feel it was only a matter of time before she went out and hurt me so i had to say goodbye. i'm a strong believer in that if you really love someone then sometimes you just have to know when to let go. what scares me the most is that i'll not see her or talk to her again. i really miss her already but i guess i just have to grow up and walk it off. i mean there's no point in dwelling over it is it? i know she'll have a mourning period of about 10 minutes, then she'll probably go out and have fun. throughout all this i know she'll be happy so in a strange way that makes me feel good. i hate for her not to be happy. sorry to just go on about this, i just had to get it off my chest.

[meat12]

Hey bro went through the same thing a little over a year ago, it gets easier with each passing day. Time heals all wounds... good luck to you

[beefcake]

It's a never ending cycle when you're a bachelor. If she doesn't give a shit about you then you gotta hang it up. Good thing you were able to see if wasn't right and just buried it. In the long run, it would just be a waste of time for the both of you. It may sting a little, but you'll pull through.

[bad14u]

Been there and done that! Sorry to hear about it Bro! You think you hurt now...wait til you see her with someone else! Might as well prepare for it so when the time comes and it does happen you will be emotionally ready! Good luck finding Mrs. Right!

[FX4]

Keep your head up bro...plenty of fish in the sea! Go pack the mass for a little bit and next time you see her she'll be the one who's jealous

[bjbabe]

Its going to be hard but at the end you will be happy. There had to be a cause on why she was so unhappy, did you try everything in your power to also make the realtionship work. The reason i ask is that my guy also broke up with me according to him cause i nag all the time but i really don't believe that to be the cause. Just wondering if you tried your hardest to also make the realtionship work then she just did not appreciated you. But if you also had a fault on why the realtionship went sour then its also your fault. If you really care about this girl and she means a lot to you, then don't let her go show her and tell her that you do love her, Maybe she is just insecure and she might think that you no longer care. My ex and i lost the communication we once had and if there is no communication then there is no realtionship. Good luck i know what you are going trough. Don't get upset, Just remember the good times that you and her shared.

[beefcake]

Originally posted by bjbabe
Its going to be hard but at the end you will be happy. There had to be a cause on why she was so unhappy, did you try everything in your power to also make the realtionship work. The reason i ask is that my guy also broke up with me according to him cause i nag all the time but i really don't believe that to be the cause. Just wondering if you tried your hardest to also make the realtionship work then she just did not appreciated you. But if you also had a fault on why the realtionship went sour then its also your fault. If you really care about this girl and she means a lot to you, then don't let her go show her and tell her that you do love her, Maybe she is just insecure and she might think that you no longer care. My ex and i lost the communication we once had and if there is no communication then there is no realtionship. Good luck i know what you are going trough. Don't get upset, Just remember the good times that you and her shared.

Oh shit. I hope you got them tapes.

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by beefcake
Oh shit. I hope you got them tapes.

No he won't give them back to me, he says he wants something to remember me by, But he does not want to be with me does that make sense. If you break up with someone its cause you want nothing to do with that particular person. So why would you want to keep the tapes of that person. Wouldn't it remind you of him or her.

[beefcake]

Originally posted by bjbabe
No he won't give them back to me, he says he wants something to remember me by, But he does not want to be with me does that make sense. If you break up with someone its cause you want nothing to do with that particular person. So why would you want to keep the tapes of that person. Wouldn't it remind you of him or her.

Memories. I still have pictures of old g/f's. Is it a friendly break up? Are you guys still going to remain friends? If not then I have a bad feeling about what he'll do with the tapes. I'd keep em to rub one out to every so often.

Originally posted by bjbabe
No he won't give them back to me, he says he wants something to remember me by, But he does not want to be with me does that make sense. If you break up with someone its cause you want nothing to do with that particular person. So why would you want to keep the tapes of that person. Wouldn't it remind you of him or her.

didn't everyone tell you that he didn't love you and wouldn't stay with you after you blew his friend? That was definantly probably just a big joke between them now. He wants to keep the tapes so he can show everyone.

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by beefcake
Memories. I still have pictures of old g/f's. Is it a friendly break up? Are you guys still going to remain friends? If not then I have a bad feeling about what he'll do with the tapes. I'd keep em to rub one out to every so often.

It wasn't a very bad break up, i had no idea he was thinking about breaking up with me until it happened. I am very hurt about it. I really don't think we are going to be friends i love him way to much, its going to hurt if i ever see him with someone else.

[beefcake]

Originally posted by Keiser
didn't everyone tell you that he didn't love you and wouldn't stay with you after you blew his friend? That was definantly probably just a big joke between them now. He wants to keep the tapes so he can show everyone.

Yep, the outcome on this one is pretty much predictable. I would bet money that when him and his boys are kicking it at his house drinking, one of them tapes is gonna get popped in the vcr for shits and giggles. Well, I guess bjbabe and psyko should hook up now.

[lxorl]

everyone has that...... its the learning process of finding the right one.

Time heals all wounds and better things to come.... just dont look for it and it will find you.

[bonebreaker]

Originally posted by lxorl
everyone has that...... its the learning process of finding the right one.

Time heals all wounds and better things to come.... just dont look for it and it will find you.

Amen! I had been seeing this chick off and on for about 2 1/2 years. We'd hook up and be fine for awhile, but still in the back of my mind, I knew it would fail. She would call after being away for several weeks and I'd fall back into the same old routine. I liked it and hated it at the same time. Finally, after one of the away periods she called me and wanted to see me. I had made up my mind that I was never going to fall into that trap again. During our periods "together" she did some really evil things, but that's another story. Anyway, I realized I was going to have to do something to assure myself that she would never call back. So, when she did call and ask to see me I said NO. She kept asking me why, etc. and finally I said to her, and I think it's the most pointed and cruel thing anybody could say to another, but I did it anyway. I said, "I would rather spend eternity alone in Hell than in Paradise with you". The line was quiet, then click, that was over two months ago and I have been left alone since. Really, I think you're better off alone than to be with someone that doesn't make you happy. BB

[njlovehandles]

BEEN THERE, ITS TOUGH. FUCK ITS BEEN A YEAR FOR ME. STILL MISS THE GIRL A LOT, BUT I FELT THAT ALOT WASNT RIGHT AT THE TIME. LOVE, AS GREAT AS IT CAN BE IS ALSO A MOTHERFUCKER

sorry bout caps

[mastakillah]

bjbabe, you sucked off your boyfriends best friend...............of course he was gonna break up with you! hahaha j/k

[JUICE]

Hey bro but why did u all split. I know she would tell u bad stuff like the word "sucks' and all. Like me ive heard that from my girl at times. The im boring and we need to go out more. She would tell me all i think about is working out and my body. At times we wouldnt do stuff, I would take her out to eat, bowling, and maybe a movie or 2 a month. But , I also felt it like if it was too slow at times.

What I started doing is giving her space, to think about her too. Chicks need that, time to be alone. I dont mean not see her for weeks, but like a pattern 1 day yes, 1 day no, 2 days yes, and so on. She also would tell me that we would always do what i wanted and go where i wanted. I had to listen to her, when she wanted to go out somewhere I had too take her and took her. That in a way made it better.

Also what helps is not talking about the same things over and over. Thats something i learned bro, i did thta mistake, bored the hell out of her too. But now i talk about alot of things.

I try not to call her alot too, only 1 or the most 2 calls per day too. You gotta make her feel like if she needs u too, so therefore her calling u too. I love it when my girl calls me too.

But, there are alot of reasons why thinks happen and relationships end. All people are different. Like girls being like that, some guys are like that too.

Sorry to hear that bro, just stay strong and like the saying goes "oNLY TIME WILL TELL", in meaning that just wait she will come back to u bro. Try to call her once in a while too, keep in touch as friends, at least u have her there.

[7lok4]

Sounds like you made a move a lot of people don't dare to make. That takes guts. You will be better in the end for having done it. Most people let their relationships go down in flames until there is no choice. Keep your head up.

[bhcpp]

I had to do the same thing this week. I had to cut my girlfriend loose after being together for a year. She wasn't just my lover but my best friend as well. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in a relationship. Our relationship was not working and I knew it would never improve. It was rough I just disappeared out of her life. I won't have to see her again or worry about running into her with someone else because we live in different cities. So anyway I know what you are feeling, I love her and really miss her but I have to tough it out and not go back.

[Face]

Psyko, you did the right thing if you thought she would probably end up hurting you. Its better this way in the long run. I had a similar problem once upon a time, but i didn't break it off and she did end up hurting me, and I think its much worse that way.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by bjbabe
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j/k sorry to hear about that.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
and finally I said to her, and I think it's the most pointed and cruel thing anybody could say to another, but I did it anyway. I said, "I would rather spend eternity alone in Hell than in Paradise with you". The line was quiet, then click

try telling a girl that she's the worst thing that ever happened to you. that'll end the conversation real quick.

[psyko1]

juice i gave her plenty of space, hell i really only saw her on the weekends. and i wasn't up her ass either i'd call her maybe like once a week if that wow it never really dawned on me how that was kind of fucked up till i wrote it now. see she works mornings and i work afternoons. and for the last several weeks i've been working a hell of alot, like 60 hours a week so i'd never really have time till the weekend. but it's not like i didn't miss her, or think about her, she has strict parents so i can't really just see her at midnight during the week. i know the fact that i didn't really show my emotions hurt us too, it's amazing just how much it means to say "i love you" to someone. or tell them you miss them. well i do now. i actually saw her at the bar last night. she was with some of her friends who ironically were with some of my friends i was like when i saw her. like oh great i'm gonna have a fun time tonight. but we actually ended up talking the whole time we were there. it felt good to talk to her again.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by beefcake
Well, I guess bjbabe and psyko should hook up now.

well bj? we're both on the rebound

[JUICE]

Originally posted by psyko1
juice i gave her plenty of space, hell i really only saw her on the weekends. and i wasn't up her ass either i'd call her maybe like once a week if that wow it never really dawned on me how that was kind of fucked up till i wrote it now. see she works mornings and i work afternoons. and for the last several weeks i've been working a hell of alot, like 60 hours a week so i'd never really have time till the weekend. but it's not like i didn't miss her, or think about her, she has strict parents so i can't really just see her at midnight during the week. i know the fact that i didn't really show my emotions hurt us too, it's amazing just how much it means to say "i love you" to someone. or tell them you miss them. well i do now. i actually saw her at the bar last night. she was with some of her friends who ironically were with some of my friends i was like when i saw her. like oh great i'm gonna have a fun time tonight. but we actually ended up talking the whole time we were there. it felt good to talk to her again.

now thats tough bro. I understand 100%. Yeah im going through something similar right now, not in fighting nor ignoring her but our jobs, school, and stuff. I go to school on M,W,F and she goes all day. I only have one class with her on M,W,F. IM out of school around 12pm and shes out at 11pm. She goes to her house to rest, i go home to eat and get ready for work at 2:30pm. The sucky thing is she got a new job at the mall, Foleys. So now its a little harder for us to see each other like before. Im trying my best to keep us tight. I call her everynight now. Oh forgot to mention that she goes to the gym with us, me and my sister. So i see her for about 2 hours on the evenings. Since her new job, she will go to the gym 3 times a week, and maybe a weekend. So its hard bro, but im hanging there.

But dont worry bro, if its meant to be u will get her back if not theres other girls out there that wont mind u working hard. Even better they will miss u more.