Why do guys ask a girl for their number... - SuperiorMuscle.com

Puddles · #1 09-12-04, 08:16 AM

but never call them?

I have a friend who this happens to a lot. No matter where we go, guys will always wind up asking her for her number before we leave, then, most of the time they never call her back. She winds up dissapointed and it's getting old. Why do guys ask for a number from a girl but then they don't ever call?

sunkiss · #2 09-12-04, 08:25 AM

Good morning Puddles, How have you been?

If they had been asking while drinking, could be liquid courage. Then the next day they may think she is too pretty for them, and not bother. That or they were just after sex, and have a partner, so decided against calling.
Or they just wanted to see if they could get her number to help their self-esteem.
Why do men do anything at all is beyond me.. Lol. Jk.

Stonecold54 · #3 09-12-04, 08:27 AM

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Originally posted by Puddles
but never call them?

I have a friend who this happens to a lot. No matter where we go, guys will always wind up asking her for her number before we leave, then, most of the time they never call her back. She winds up dissapointed and it's getting old. Why do guys ask for a number from a girl but then they don't ever call?

I can't answer that because if I ever did the foot work to get a girls number then I would use it. Otherwise I wouldn't waste my time in the first place. She might be in the wrong scene to meet guys who actually WANT to talk to her. Obviously most of these guys either have girls already and are playing the field still or they get mutiple numbers in a week and just don't give a shit about the ones they don't use. I don't like guys like that because it makes all our reps bad. I love treating women like the wonderful creatures they are. To see their faces light up when I do something nice for them or tell them they look nice or anything at all makes my day as well as theirs. There is no reason to treat anyone bad .

Stonecold54 · #4 09-12-04, 08:29 AM

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Originally posted by sunkiss
Good morning Puddles, How have you been?

If they had been asking while drinking, could be liquid courage. Then the next day they may think she is too pretty for them, and not bother. That or they were just after sex, and have a partner, so decided against calling.
Or they just wanted to see if they could get her number to help their self-esteem.
Why do men do anything at all is beyond me.. Lol. Jk.

ummm...I was kindof wondering...if maybe you would want to...I just wanted UMMM...to see if I could... Have your Number??

That was me like 6 years ago. LOL

Seriously can I have your digits? I will call you in like 5 minutes.

sunkiss · #5 09-12-04, 08:33 AM

Aw. see that is nice to hear from a man.
Have had a guy actually ask for my number, and then while I was standing there, he took out his cell, called my number and leave me a message on my machine. That was funny and a bit too much for me. lol.

**Shibby** · #6 09-12-04, 08:41 AM

It goes both ways. A girl will be interested but has a man so nothing will come of it. They just want to keep there options open. Some think they would like to just have some fun with you but want more and don't relize it or vice versa. So they are just confused. A few give a number but the girl was to nice to say they weren't interested. Either way that's why I don't ask for phone numbers. I will wait until they give me there number. I know I don't lead on and wouldn't take a number if I don't want it. So if they give it to me then that's one bit of less bullshit I have to deal with usually.

Stonecold54 · #7 09-12-04, 08:41 AM

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Originally posted by sunkiss
Aw. see that is nice to hear from a man.
Have had a guy actually ask for my number, and then while I was standing there, he took out his cell, called my number and leave me a message on my machine. That was funny and a bit too much for me. lol.

Stonecold54 · #8 09-12-04, 08:43 AM

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Originally posted by Shibby
It goes both ways. A girl will be interested but has a man so nothing will come of it. They just want to keep there options open. Some think they would like to just have some fun with you but want more and don't relize it or vice versa. So they are just confused. A few give a number but the girl was to nice to say they weren't interested. Either way that's why I don't ask for phone numbers. I will wait until they give me there number. I know I don't lead on and wouldn't take a number if I don't want it. So if they give it to me then that's one bit of less bullshit I have to deal with usually.

adding to this girls that I really want to talk to I will find what they are interested and make it a point to see them in person and get to know them. I hate the phone honestly. if they all fell off the face of the earth tomorrow I would be happy.

soprano9mm · #9 09-12-04, 10:42 AM

Sometimes I'm really drunk and the number goes through the wash and gets ruined, or I simply misplace it because I'm drunk...

It has happened a few times to me.

YellowJacket · #10 09-12-04, 11:59 AM

I never call because the next day Im sober and realize Im married.....

soprano9mm · #11 09-12-04, 12:06 PM

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Originally posted by YellowJacket
I never call because the next day Im sober and realize Im married.....

lol ....Thats so the truth.....

JUICE · #12 09-12-04, 12:22 PM

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Originally posted by Shibby
It goes both ways. A girl will be interested but has a man so nothing will come of it. They just want to keep there options open. Some think they would like to just have some fun with you but want more and don't relize it or vice versa. So they are just confused. A few give a number but the girl was to nice to say they weren't interested. Either way that's why I don't ask for phone numbers. I will wait until they give me there number. I know I don't lead on and wouldn't take a number if I don't want it. So if they give it to me then that's one bit of less bullshit I have to deal with usually.

shaguar · #13 09-12-04, 02:48 PM

I don't know why a guy wouldn't call. I mean I would if I had the number. The worst that I expect to happen is to find out that I made a mistake. But I can get too busy to call or lose the number.

The bigger questions is: why do women give out fake numbers? If a man is interested enough in you to ask for your number, have the decency to let him know you are not interested. Why yank his chain? You just ruin it for other women, because that's one more man who either won't ask or who won't call even if he has the number. The onus is on women to stop being superficial. No matter how society changes or how many women are working, that's the way it is. Ultimately, men have the power to choose. Deal with it, and you will land a sane man. Otherwise, chances are that you'll do the jerk circuit into your 50s.

And why isn't your friend asking guys out? Does she have a speech impediment?

soprano9mm · #14 09-12-04, 02:58 PM

I have never gotten a fake number......that would suck

Puddles · #15 09-12-04, 03:48 PM

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Originally posted by shaguar
And why isn't your friend asking guys out? Does she have a speech impediment?

She is pretty old fashioned when it comes to dating...she's from Spain and just wouldn't ever ask a guy for his number.

I remember one weekend about 2 months ago where we went to a resteraunt that has an outside bar on the water with live music and dance floor. Mostly people in their 30's - 50's which is perfect as she's 40. This younger guy (32 y.o.) and his friend ask us to join them for drinks and I say that I can't can't accept a drink because I'm married but my friend can. My friend had told me an hour before the guys walked up that they were looking at us. I don't even notice it when that happens because I'm married and just not interested in who's looking at who when we're out. Anyway, we spent the rest of the night bs'ing with them and the guy and her seem to be hitting it off well. He programs her number into his cell AND she gives him her business card. Well, all week, nothing. We wound up back there the following weekend and guess what...those two guys are there and each one is with a girl but you can tell it's not just casual, they are definitely attached. As we walk by my friend smiles at the guy she was talking to and he ignores her, just looks away. Obviously he is with his girlfriend and he does not want to strike up another conversation. The other guy came over a bit later and said they'd come over to chat in a bit but 30 minutes later they hadn't left their spot and I was ready to go home so we left. I'll never understand the whole dating thing, thank goodness I'm married. LOL

Puddles · #16 09-12-04, 03:50 PM

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Originally posted by INTIMID8OR
I wrote a number in a spare bedroom one time in the closet under a shelf only to have my g/f find it ..I tried to tell her it was there before we moved in but she proceeded to tell me "NO WAY" because I painted that bedroom last year ...I quit getting numbers after that

Naughty, naughty!

Breeze · #17 09-12-04, 04:44 PM

I absolutely hate talking on the phone, but if I ask a girl for her number then I am most definitely going to call her. I don't say crap like "I'll call you" just to be nice. I believe in honesty, even if it does piss people off. I hate it when people tell me they are going to do something and then don't. I make very few promises and commitments, but when I say I'm going to do something I always do my best to follow through.

**Shibby** · #18 09-12-04, 06:45 PM

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Originally posted by Puddles
She is pretty old fashioned when it comes to dating...she's from Spain and just wouldn't ever ask a guy for his number.

I remember one weekend about 2 months ago where we went to a resteraunt that has an outside bar on the water with live music and dance floor. Mostly people in their 30's - 50's which is perfect as she's 40. This younger guy (32 y.o.) and his friend ask us to join them for drinks and I say that I can't can't accept a drink because I'm married but my friend can. My friend had told me an hour before the guys walked up that they were looking at us. I don't even notice it when that happens because I'm married and just not interested in who's looking at who when we're out. Anyway, we spent the rest of the night bs'ing with them and the guy and her seem to be hitting it off well. He programs her number into his cell AND she gives him her business card. Well, all week, nothing. We wound up back there the following weekend and guess what...those two guys are there and each one is with a girl but you can tell it's not just casual, they are definitely attached. As we walk by my friend smiles at the guy she was talking to and he ignores her, just looks away. Obviously he is with his girlfriend and he does not want to strike up another conversation. The other guy came over a bit later and said they'd come over to chat in a bit but 30 minutes later they hadn't left their spot and I was ready to go home so we left. I'll never understand the whole dating thing, thank goodness I'm married. LOL

Well you never know how good the relationship with the guy and that girl was the other night, is now or what ever, unfortunatly. Also I don't know what she does for a living, but if it has anything to do with sales/getting clients, but giving her business card could have come across wrong.

JUICE · #19 09-12-04, 07:11 PM

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Originally posted by INTIMID8OR
I wrote a number in a spare bedroom one time in the closet under a shelf only to have my g/f find it ..I tried to tell her it was there before we moved in but she proceeded to tell me "NO WAY" because I painted that bedroom last year ...I quit getting numbers after that

busted

meat12 · #20 09-12-04, 10:47 PM

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Originally posted by sunkiss
Aw. see that is nice to hear from a man.
Have had a guy actually ask for my number, and then while I was standing there, he took out his cell, called my number and leave me a message on my machine. That was funny and a bit too much for me. lol.

OMG thats great, sounds like a friend of mine

bhcpp · #21 09-13-04, 12:07 AM

Asking a girl for her HOME phone number takes confidence. Women will not always give men thier HOME phone number when asked. Some women give you their cell phone number or their work number after you specifically asked for the HOME phone number. A woman who is not interested in you will never tell you that she is not interested in you. Instead she will give you her cell#, work# or say she does not own a phone or even worse she will ask you for your home phone number. She will NEVER call you. Many of the women who do give their home phone numbers will screen their calls and let you talk to their answering machine for a week and never return your calls. Or she will have her roomate answer the phone and tell you she never got the message.
A woman who is interested in you will make it easy for you. She will give you her HOME phone number, answer the phone herself or call you right back. She will NEVER cancel a date, she will touch you a lot on the date and laugh at all your stupid jokes.
It is a numbers game. You have to get lots of HOME phone numbers and weed out the wacko's wierdo's and feminazi's.
When you get the HOME phone number wait 5-9 days to call her. She will respond to a CHALLENGE because no one has ever waited that long to call her. All the other horndogs call her within 48 hrs if they call at all. The more beautiful she is the more she will respond to CHALLENGE.
If you want more information about how to be a CHALLENGE to women and have them chase you for a change checkout
www.doclove.com . He has the best information about men and the dating game. Stop making stupid mistakes and begin to win with women.

hlcn8 · #22 09-13-04, 01:21 AM

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Originally posted by bhcpp
Asking a girl for her HOME phone number takes confidence. Women will not always give men thier HOME phone number when asked. Some women give you their cell phone number or their work number after you specifically asked for the HOME phone number. A woman who is not interested in you will never tell you that she is not interested in you. Instead she will give you her cell#, work# or say she does not own a phone or even worse she will ask you for your home phone number. She will NEVER call you. Many of the women who do give their home phone numbers will screen their calls and let you talk to their answering machine for a week and never return your calls. Or she will have her roomate answer the phone and tell you she never got the message.
A woman who is interested in you will make it easy for you. She will give you her HOME phone number, answer the phone herself or call you right back. She will NEVER cancel a date, she will touch you a lot on the date and laugh at all your stupid jokes.
It is a numbers game. You have to get lots of HOME phone numbers and weed out the wacko's wierdo's and feminazi's.
When you get the HOME phone number wait 5-9 days to call her. She will respond to a CHALLENGE because no one has ever waited that long to call her. All the other horndogs call her within 48 hrs if they call at all. The more beautiful she is the more she will respond to CHALLENGE.
If you want more information about how to be a CHALLENGE to women and have them chase you for a change checkout
www.doclove.com . He has the best information about men and the dating game. Stop making stupid mistakes and begin to win with women.

wow, does it come with pills to give me a HUUUUGE wang too?

i agree with some of what you say. but i also advocate, in rape self-defense classes i teach, to NOT give out home phone numbers. the internet is an interesting animal, and it includes tools whereby the whacko men (yeah, there are whacko women too) in the bars and clubs can perform reverse searches of the phone number and obtain addresses and other personal information. sometimes standing up to stalkers is the real........ CHALLENGE!

in all seriousness, i once wrote down a girls number at a party, and i had placed the paper on my knee to write it. the next day I went to go look at it and i had written half of it on my pants, and the other half on the paper (damn alcohol....) i even had a few friends look at it and try to help me figure it out, and i tried a few combinations of what i figured it might be. a week later a girl i met at the same party asked me why i never called her friend and we had a great laugh about the story. I got the correct number and brought her flowers and an apology. and while nothing happened b/w us it was a chance to be honest and make her feel better about the experience as well.

Puddles · #23 09-13-04, 08:34 AM