Why do guys ask a girl for their number...

[Puddles]

Originally posted by bhcpp
You are married and not even in the dating scene so how would you know anything.

Well, I wasn't born married and had a single life before I met my husband. And I still date but they're other girls who we never had to play games with to get. I also have a lot of single female friends in the dating scene and they share their stories with me which is why I made this post to begin with.

I looked at doclove's site and I've seen other programs similar to it and quite honestly I think much of it is bullshit. Being a woman and having a lot of female friends (single and married), I don't think most of the games these kind of programs suggest would work for us. Of course there are women who like to play games, but maybe it's because my friends and I are more mature that we don't fall for the b.s. These programs are moneymakers for the sellers giving hope to people who can't just be themselves and find a good person to be with.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by jmac2222
1) CHALLENGE! LOL --FEEL THE FUCKING PUMP!

2) Puddles...you wont let someone buy you a drink? I can see explaining to them that you are married, but most of the time I wouldnt care, I'd buy it anyway just so that I could sit with a pretty woman, esp if you're as much fun to talk to as your posts. (Assuming that your husband isnt with you...then I can see telling somebody "no thanks".)

My thinking...If I'm sitting next a to a good looking girl who looks is fun to talk to, then who cares? That's more fun than standing around and who knows...maybe she has a friend. Most of the time, at a club, I'm happy if I just meet some new people, single or not. Just through networking alone good things can happen

#1 makes sense. LOL Just trying to see if you can get a girl's # gives a guy an ego boost and who doesn't need an ego boost once in a while.

#2 Nope, I won't accept a drink from a guy, I think that would send mixed signals as there are pleanty of married women who cheat on their husbands. Besides, I usually already have a drink and don't need another anyway. I don't go out alone, so if I'm with a friend and a guy starts chatting I enjoy the conversation and have a nice time just meeting someone new. I've learned to get my marital status out in the open right away so if the only thing a guy is looking for is to hook up, then I'm not wasting his time. The ring I wear on my wedding ring finger isn't a traditional diamond ring and wedding band so I just like to get that part over right way. This usually leads to a nice conversation and me introducing my friend to the guy.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by mastakillah
your asking about guys that get a girls number and never bother to call her? well i dont know about that, but why does a girl give you her number and you'll try and call her everyday for a week straight and she never answers her phone!
whats up with that puddles?
p.s. and you know its her number cause the answer service comes on and says her name.

That's the same kind of b.s. that I wouldn't bother with. If a girl gives her number, then she should at least answer the damn phone when a guy calls. If it goes to voicemail and the guy leaves a message and she doesn't return the call, the guy is just wasting his time calling her again because she's playing games. I can see not answering if you don't recognize the caller ID, but if a message is left and the girl is interested, she should return the call or expect not to be called back.

[Stonecold54]

Originally posted by bhcpp
Waiting a week to call is not a game it's called self control. You are married and not even in the dating scene so how would you know anything. Look up www.doclove.com and check out his materials and study them before you judge my post.

ahem... ....

[jmac2222]

Originally posted by Puddles
#1 makes sense. LOL Just trying to see if you can get a girl's # gives a guy an ego boost and who doesn't need an ego boost once in a while.

#2 Nope, I won't accept a drink from a guy, I think that would send mixed signals as there are pleanty of married women who cheat on their husbands. Besides, I usually already have a drink and don't need another anyway. I don't go out alone, so if I'm with a friend and a guy starts chatting I enjoy the conversation and have a nice time just meeting someone new. I've learned to get my marital status out in the open right away so if the only thing a guy is looking for is to hook up, then I'm not wasting his time. The ring I wear on my wedding ring finger isn't a traditional diamond ring and wedding band so I just like to get that part over right way. This usually leads to a nice conversation and me introducing my friend to the guy.

How true, I see it in the military all the time. When the WESTPAC fleet leaves dock in Honolulu you can go to a club and see all the women with tanline rings. We call them WESTPAC widows. It really hurts to see that because I'm sure thier men dont know what is going on. Then again when the WESTPAC pulls in for shore leave at the Phillipines they are probably doing the same thing.

It takes a lot of trust. IMHOP Trust is the hardest thing to earn in a relationship.

[Scotland]

Damn this is all so confusing. I haven't read one consistent theme or strategy yet!

Fact is if you are interested you'll call. Bottom line. No contact = Hurts feelings and crushes dreams . . . I wish it didn't, truly. But it does. So roll on.

Philosophize all you want. Interest = call.

I say that and I have a married friend who plays "catch and release". He gets the girl interested and worked up then leaves them hanging. I always think now she is upset and some poor sap is going to see her as his own personal morning glory and she'll burn his ass because "hey, its happened to me" syndrome.

Aaaah a vicious cycle. Find a good one and hold on to them. Being a former Marine I take extra measures . . . I lock my wife in a steel cage whenever I am not around. LOL

Don't go calling 911 on me now . . . . because the cage can fit more than one. bwahahahahahaha

[dreamgirl]

I can't take this.... When I was dating if the guy didn't call me the next day I didn't go out with him. I needed a guy to be INTERESTED. If a guy called me a week later, I'd blow him off. I'm the type of girl that needs a lot of attention... if we were dating and I didn't get enough attn. I'd break up.

[jmac2222]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
I can't take this.... When I was dating if the guy didn't call me the next day I didn't go out with him. I needed a guy to be INTERESTED. If a guy called me a week later, I'd blow him off. I'm the type of girl that needs a lot of attention... if we were dating and I didn't get enough attn. I'd break up.

I agree. I've done this several different ways now and IMHO most girls like it better when you call the next day, just to see how they're doing. If you wait two days or a week it seems like you are playing a game (CHALLENGE LOL). If I like a girl I'll call her the next day and try to set something simple up for later on that week. (This was all before my g/f moved in, dont do that so much anymore )

[Puddles]

Well, this past weekend was a good one for my friend. I think I have some weird good karma thing going because every time I post about a friend having trouble, things get better for them.

Thursday a guy she's seeing who lives in another state called and said he was coming down next weekend. While we wre shopping on Friday after work she also got a call from another guy who was in town for business and they got together for dinner (he lost his wife a few months ago in a car accident, not looking for anything too serious, just some companionship to start but his business is bringing him to the area more often for the next few months at least). Then on Sat. another guy who she met at a wine tasting gathering called and asked her out for another wine tasting and when he dropped her off at home he asked if he could call her again to go out.

She had a good time this weekend and is looking forward to next weekend.

[bad14u]

Sounds like a player to me! Why is she worried if a guy doesn't call back anyway? Sounds like she has another man on the line anyway!

[Puddles]

Originally posted by bad14u
Sounds like a player to me! Why is she worried if a guy doesn't call back anyway? Sounds like she has another man on the line anyway!

She's not worried, just getting tired of it all. She would like to settle down and have someone by her side to come home to every day at some point.

The guy who's coming down next weekend is not able to be with her very often. He's got 2 kids and is in the middle of a nasty divorce (the ex-wife is making things drag out instead of making the divorce an easy one). They only get together maybe once a month. They enjoy eachother's company, but he's not going to be ready to commit to someone for quite a while.

She's 40 and twice divorced. Her first husband was an Olympic athlete who physically abused her so she divorced him (I think they were married less than a year). Her second husband is in prison for child mollestation of a family member (he claims innocence but she isn't so sure, they were only married for about 2 yrs. and during that time he was very possessive and controlling). My friend has definitely had her share of bad luck in relationships.

[bad14u]

Originally posted by Puddles
She's 40 and twice divorced. Her first husband was an Olympic athlete who physically abused her so she divorced him (I think they were married less than a year). Her second husband is in prison for child mollestation of a family member (he claims innocence but she isn't so sure, they were only married for about 2 yrs. and during that time he was very possessive and controlling). My friend has definitely had her share of bad luck in relationships.

Damn!!! She has definitely had her share of bad luck with men! I hope she finds what she is looking for!