lets pull together our resources guy's.

[Tall_Guy18]

Ok....I just recently started being sexually active again after 7 months. Lets just say that my last relationship really fucked me up, plus she turned out to be bisexuall. (plz no jokes) Well anyway i have been having trouble keepin an erection, i get hard and then soft, hard n soft hard n soft. Wtf! this didnt happen before. Well to try yo fix my prob i started using dif kinds of creames and herbal supplements, there are allot i havent tried, and thats where i need everyone here to fill in. What creames, or gels, or herbal supplements have u guys used? Have they worked? Plz dont discuss viagra or cialis, im much too young to need that stuff. Basically i just need something that'l get me back to my oll self. I recently tried vigrx oil and it didnt work for me. I have also ordered this stuff called instanterect. Ill update and tell u guys if it works.

[psyko1]

well, first off get rid of all that crap, it's all unnecessary. it's all in your mind bro. you're 18 i'm assuming, so there should be nothing wrong with you physically. it may just be the girl you're with now, you might not be all that into her. it's happened to me when i really didn't want to be with a girl but did it anyways. and what's the problem with her being a bisexual? i'd have no complaints at all. unless you meant transsexual? but seriously, it's all in your mind. especially if your last relationship was shitty and you got hurt.

[Face]

Seriously, I would try counselling instead of all these herbal medicines. Your problem is in your mind. Nothing has changed since your last relationship, so physiologically, there is no reason why you can't get an erection, voiding the use of all the "alternatives". Instead, I'd try to confront the feelings you still hold from your past. Its possible that you sub-consciously feel that having sex with this new partner will make your relationship even closer; and of course after your previous relationship, you expect this one to end in a particularly gruesome manner, so why let this girl get closer to you if it means more heartache in the long run?

You'll have to try to get out of this mode of thinking if this is the case; I don't blame you if you think like this at the back of your mind, thats what bad relationships do to you (past experience).

[Tall_Guy18]

well thats a tough one. Ill make this even more complicated, i am sleeping with two dif girls, not together. But the same thing is happening with both. Im actually more into the other one but i still cant keep it up. I thought some dif supplements might help, because im not nervous or have anxiety before the luv makin. Im totally fine, i just cant fuckn keep it up! As far as physiologically......well my last relationship did leave some good scars that i though have healed. How am i gonna get councelling though. Shist isnt there another way. I would rather deal with alternatives than go to councelling. Im only twenty this shouldnt be happening to me. (I hate my ex!!!!)

[Face]

Well, thats the whole point about the subconscious, you don't necessarily have to feel it, it could still be there and you could still feel completely normal. You haven't filled us in on what exactly happened between you and your ex, but i presume its bad. If thats the case, I think its gonna take longer than just 7 months before your completely over all the bad feelings. And no, counselling at 20 is not as bad as you may think.

If all else fails, I suggest trying some relaxation therapies like yoga. And you may wanna try not to screw yourself up even more by sleeping with 2 girls at the same time.

[Megiddo]

Dude in the words of the great Tucker Max, "all women are whores, exept our mothers"

The thing is this, don't get into any chick at this moment. at your age you should be out laying pipe everynight or so (safely of course). Don't let the greedy switch hitter fuck you up for the rest of your life yo.

Oh yeah and if possible try to lay some pipe to her girl.

[psyko1]

blah, blah, blah. you don't need counseling all you need is some porn. yes seriously, we've all been heartbroken and we've all gone through the same shit you'll get over it. you have to get over your own hang-ups, the most obvious one is your anger that she was bisexual. what's the big deal? did it ever occur to you that you could be nailing her and another girl at the same time? that's actually what most men dream about. the second is you saying "i hate my ex!!!!" why? why do you still hate her so much? how do you think she feels about you? was she your first? it's been 7 months no matter what she did you shouldn't feel that much anger towards her. now i'm not saying you two should be best pals but she shouldn't be affecting you as much as she is. let me give you a word of advice, stop thinking about her as much as you do. counseling won't do you wrong but it's not as if you were married, or were together for 20 years. you're young, and in your case counseling would be a waste of money. if your immediate problem is losing an erection but being able to get it back, then when you go soft focus on kissing and oral sex until you get hard again (her and you), then pick up where you left off. don't just stop, and throw in the towel. they'll like you more for the "extra" attention and the sex will last longer.

oh and btw, maybe porn isn't the best idea, if you've been beating off too much over the last 7 months then that's your problem, you're going to have to program your winky to be able to maintain and reach and orgasm through sex with a woman, not your hand.

[sunkiss]

Maybe your just not the type of guy that should be sleeping around. You may need more from a girl than just sex to be your full self.

[Megiddo]

Dude you need to tag every peice of hot ass that comes your way. Do it for the male species and all us old married cats who are riding the bench. DO IT FOR THE TEAM MAN!!!!!

[Pcgod718]

Ok....I just recently started being sexually active again after 7 months. Lets just say that my last relationship really fucked me up, plus she turned out to be bisexuall. (plz no jokes) Well anyway i have been having trouble keepin an erection, i get hard and then soft, hard n soft hard n soft. Wtf! this didnt happen before. Well to try yo fix my prob i started using dif kinds of creames and herbal supplements, there are allot i havent tried, and thats where i need everyone here to fill in. What creames, or gels, or herbal supplements have u guys used? Have they worked? Plz dont discuss viagra or cialis, im much too young to need that stuff. Basically i just need something that'l get me back to my oll self. I recently tried vigrx oil and it didnt work for me. I have also ordered this stuff called instanterect. Ill update and tell u guys if it works.

Ok dude.. i'll give it to ya from my angle
i was married/together for 13 years. had 3 kids.. and i was still tappin that ass 2x a day (3x if the kids slept in a bit) . but as usual, shit didnt work out. Granted, im older than you, (got divorced at 32) and i had pussy walkin up to me left and right. Mostly my Ex's friends lookin to get a turn.

Guess what.. i had the same problem you had. I would get into it, and if i moved the wrong way, or the sun was shining or the tv was on, my shit would go down. Luckily for me, all the chicks thought it was THEIR fault, since me and my ex were so active. but i knew the truth..

Trust me.. ITS ALL MENTAL. you're associating sex with your ex, and then in the back of your mind, your anger and frustration build, then the steam goes out of the hammer.
Im assuming it was a long term relationship with this girl, and something tells me your momma raised you to be a GOOD, RESPECTFUL towards women type of guy. (i suffer the same problem. im jsut too nice).

Ok the fix. at least what worked for me.
After i got my hot lil 19yr old girlfiend (big boobs, nice butt, cute face) i thought my problems were solved.. guess what.. NOPE. Hammer go up.. hammer go down.. I suggested that we chill out, and watch some porn (that i picked out). and we did this for a few weeks straight.. my concentration was on the porn, that got me wood. if i felt like i was gonna lose it, i would just look up at the screen again and get myself aroused a bit and keep goin.
What this served to do, is associate sex with pleasurable thoughts. SEX=FUN. not SEX=MY EX, THAT BITCH, SHE CHEATED, blah blah blah.. aw shjit.. no more hardon
So my body is in sync with my mind.. i know.. how could sex NOT be pleasurable.. but trust me.. for those guys that have never experienced it, when you are NOT in the mood cause of stress or whatever.. it really messes with you, then its a downhill spiral..
So tall_guy,, trust me, i can relate 100% with you.. i thought i was damaged goods. i could lick pussy all night.. but any woman will tell you, thats great.. but i still need to get fucked!
Dont fall into the traps of creams and pills, cause whats gonna happen, is mentally, you THINK you wont be able to perform UNLESS u got pill in your system. at your age.. you dont need that stigma over your head

The prerequisite to my cure is
1) you have an open minded girl (in this day and age, almost anyone under 25 is a FREAK. so that shouldnt be a problem)
2) You have to like porn, and porn and porn alone should be able to get you hard. The female is just a means to an end.

ps IF you ABSOLUTELY have to have a magic pill, Try YOHIMBE-HCL in the and a ZMA before bed. Tehy are not expensive (prolly $35 for both items) will last u a month or so at full dosage, and are good for you anyways, its not just a dickfixer

Good luck bro. and keep it hard!

-pc

[Sigmund Roid]

As a comment on the reactions: If a girl is bi it is not much of a problem as long as she is monogamous, which she was probably not. Cheating is still cheating if it is with a man or a woman so of couse Tall Guy was hurt.

About your problem, I would dump one girl so you can focus on just one to ease your mind. Furthermore, you could try some viagra/cialis just once to get your self confidence back. From thereon you should be able to go on naturally.

Good luck

[dreamgirl]

ok, first off, what's wrong with a girl that is bi? I think every guy wishes thier wife/gf was like that... Also, these girls you are with aren't turning you on enough. I say get rid of both. You wouldn't have the problem if they were. Because like everyone is saying you are thinking of other things (example-ex-gf) and getting turned off... which means you really aren't into these 2 new girls. I say take a breather... date w/o sex, and work up some desire... you need to have lots of desire for great sex. Let us know what you decide.

[Megiddo]

ok, first off, what's wrong with a girl that is bi?

Because people that are bi are just greedy and worse than free agents. Pick a team and don't put yourself in the draft pool until the end of the season.

[Tall_Guy18]

Well dont mean to bump this thread back up. But heres wut happened. In a nut shell the girl that turned out to be bi basically cheated on me with another girl. That was something very new to me and i didnt know how to handle it. I lost confidence and my pride was gurt. It sucked, try bein left for another fuckin chick. I would of rather she cheated with another guy than a girl. Ohh and by the way....i knew the other girl too. Theres allot more involved but ill just leave it at that.
As for me not being into these girls.....I mean i dont like em but we just have fun or try to have fun lol!!! I find them both very attractive. But there is one thing. Now i dont know if this might be anything but.....my ex had a very nice pair of boobs and im a boob guy. These current girls are not very big around the chest area and that gets me sad, cuz i like to play with em. Ohhhh!! i like boobs....(I hope i dont come of as a perv) Im fallowing all this psychological stuff and i have to say it does make allot of sense. Ill keep u updated on the situation.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by Megiddo
Because people that are bi are just greedy and worse than free agents. Pick a team and don't put yourself in the draft pool until the end of the season.

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tg ok i guess everyone is different. you say she cheated but did she actually leave you? you would rather have her leave you for a guy than a girl? i guess i'm opposite. if i was left for a girl then it wouldn't bother me because i'd know i was left for something i couldn't possibly give her. another guy however and i'm wondering where i failed or what about him was better than me. the boobs have nothing to do with it, it's all in your head. unless i'm wrong you weren't left but like you said you didn't know how to "handle" it. you blew up, you overreacted and you left her. now everytime you think of her and sex you get turned off because of your reaction and outlook on it. listen to dreamgirl, what she says makes alot of sense.

[Puddles]

Most of the time loosing an erection is mental but it can be physical no matter what your age is. Have you had bloodwork done to check your test levels? You didn't mention if you cycle or not...if you're just coming off cycle that could be an issue too.

If it's a mental issue, why are you so against something like cialis? Since you can achieve an erection but it goes away, half a tab of cialis would probably do the trick for ya and for most guys it's effects last for a day or more which would get you through the weekend and you'll feel better in the long run.

Do you only lose your erection during intercourse when you're doing the physical activity? Have you tried having her on top or just letting her give you head so you can just relax and enjoy it? Do you have any fetishes you can get going with either of the girls to help spice things up?

[DS-COUSIN]

It's MENTAL, but if you are having some issues and looking for something that is not intrusive.....go to bulknutrition and do a search for Long Jack...tastes like shit, but it works and won't harm your natural workings. Takes a few days to get rolling, but it increases libido and drive naturally. OH, and it's CHEAP!

I also agree with the PORN comment....

But the mature portion of me says get some counseling TOO....

[Tall_Guy18]

Well this has turned out to be more complicated than i imagined. Now I was talkin to my friends dad and he is a pediatrician. I talked to him about my problem and he told me that it could just be mentally. He sugested that I try some cialis or viagra just untill I can achieve an errection on my own. He said it shouldnt take long. Yet the problem is that im a college student meaning im poor, i cant afford it because its so damm expensive. Does anybody know of a cheap alternative to any of these? As for my errection problem...se im hard while we do sum foreplay but when it comes down to sex. I go limp. Thats wut confuses the shit out of me. Ohh and I totally agree with Megiddo's statement.

[lordikon]

Originally posted by Tall_Guy18
well thats a tough one. Ill make this even more complicated, i am sleeping with two dif girls, not together. But the same thing is happening with both. Im actually more into the other one but i still cant keep it up. I thought some dif supplements might help, because im not nervous or have anxiety before the luv makin. Im totally fine, i just cant fuckn keep it up! As far as physiologically......well my last relationship did leave some good scars that i though have healed. How am i gonna get councelling though. Shist isnt there another way. I would rather deal with alternatives than go to councelling. Im only twenty this shouldnt be happening to me. (I hate my ex!!!!)

Your problem sounds like confidence. You seem worried about having an erection, and that worry is probably most the reason you're not having one in the first place. When it comes time to have sex, does the worry of your erection "acting up" pop into your mind whatsoever? If the answer is yes, I would say that is at least half your problem. If anything besides stuffing your cock into a nice pussy is on your mind, then it's likely part of the problem as well. That's my opinion though, and I'm still young, so take it for what it's worth.

[GurlieGurl]

Just wake off less and maybe not do ne thing sexual so much. that way, when you do, do something..you havent done it in a while and youll go at it like jack rabbits!