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dreamgirl · #1 02-08-05, 10:32 AM

We've been talking to this couple about swinging together for a couple of months. We've gone out 2 times and even ended up at eachothers houses, but no one knows how to start it all. Were all new to this - never tried- and everyone was nervous the last time, and no one wanted to step up. WEll, we have a date for this Saturday scheduled. I promised the other husband that I would start something... any tips?

GreekTank · #2 02-08-05, 10:40 AM

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Originally posted by dreamgirl
We've been talking to this couple about swinging together for a couple of months. We've gone out 2 times and even ended up at eachothers houses, but no one knows how to start it all. Were all new to this - never tried- and everyone was nervous the last time, and no one wanted to step up. WEll, we have a date for this Saturday scheduled. I promised the other husband that I would start something... any tips?

So that's what you've been up to

bad14u · #3 02-08-05, 10:42 AM

Turn down the lights, put on some music and slip into something very comfortable! Don't forget to take pics!

Puddles · #4 02-08-05, 11:03 AM

Make the first move and kiss the girl...everything else will fall into place from there.

Don't forget to bring a supply of condoms.

BBAddict · #5 02-08-05, 11:11 AM

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Originally posted by bad14u
Don't forget to take pics!

Congratulations-let us know how it goes!

bonebreaker · #6 02-08-05, 11:30 AM

Sounds like a fantasy come true, huh? Just make as sure as possible that everybody can handle the after the deed part. These things have a reputation for going south after the fact if everybody isn't pretty certain how they'll be, mentally, after its all said and done. BB

bad14u · #7 02-08-05, 11:42 AM

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Originally posted by bonebreaker
Sounds like a fantasy come true, huh? Just make as sure as possible that everybody can handle the after the deed part. These things have a reputation for going south after the fact if everybody isn't pretty certain how they'll be, mentally, after its all said and done. BB

urso8up · #8 02-08-05, 12:01 PM

Congrats to you and like others said make sure everyone can handle the after effect.

Good luck..........

And forget the Pics we want video.....

psyko1 · #9 02-08-05, 12:05 PM

sounds like alot of fun. maybe you could start out with a sexy game of truth or dare to spicen up the evening. i hope it works out for you. you are married so you have more to lose than most others, so keep that in mind. if either of you aren't ready just postpone it for a later date. but if you are then enjoy.

dreamgirl · #10 02-08-05, 12:58 PM

thanks... actually all 4 of us have talked about trying this. we've always been true to our feelings and expectations. We've taken all of this pretty slow. I'll let you all know next week if anything happened. Hopefully only all good things.

I am most looking forward to watching my hubby with the other woman... I can't wait.

voneber · #11 02-08-05, 01:06 PM

I was involved with a couple that was into swinging and went to a few private "parties" with them... it usually began with either playing cards or darts with dares being the prize for certain hits on the dartboard or certain card hands for the shy people. Where for other people that had been into this before it started with a playful dare or just pairing up.

Drinks can always help

V

meat12 · #12 02-08-05, 03:21 PM

let us know how it goes dg

GreekTank · #13 02-08-05, 03:37 PM

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Originally posted by bonebreaker
Sounds like a fantasy come true, huh? Just make as sure as possible that everybody can handle the after the deed part. These things have a reputation for going south after the fact if everybody isn't pretty certain how they'll be, mentally, after its all said and done. BB

decadecadeca · #14 02-08-05, 03:56 PM

I vote for a live webcast.

GreekTank · #15 02-08-05, 09:53 PM

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I vote for a live webcast.

Pumpdogg · #16 02-09-05, 10:45 AM

Never read that anywhere in the marriage vowels. I thought you were a respectable woman DG who always talked abput her kids etc.. What a shame. I assume I will be the only one to say i think it is a bad idea and sick

PD

***THE BOUNCER*** · #17 02-09-05, 10:51 AM

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Originally posted by Pumpdogg
Never read that anywhere in the marriage vowels. I thought you were a respectable woman DG who always talked abput her kids etc.. What a shame. I assume I will be the only one to say i think it is a bad idea and sick

PD

All I know is, I wouldnt look up to my parents the same way if I found out they did something like that. I think its a bad idea also.

Are your husbands going to touch each other and stuff?

**redsquirrel** · #18 02-09-05, 10:57 AM

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Originally posted by Pumpdogg
Never read that anywhere in the marriage vowels. I thought you were a respectable woman DG who always talked abput her kids etc.. What a shame. I assume I will be the only one to say i think it is a bad idea and sick

PD

I agree. I didn't see it in my vows, either. You have always talked about what great pride you take in raising your family. So I guess I just don't get how this all was generated, seeing as how it appeared that you had such strong family values. And I agree that if I found out my parents did that, I'd be pretty disgusted.

It's hard enough to be married and STAY married these days. When you start throwing in other people and all of the emotions that go with it, it seems like a death wish, and a recipe for disaster, IMHO.

Some people, like Puddles can handle it. There is a reason she does it, and it's because of her sexual orientation. It's not out of lust, but for lack of a better word- necessity. And they don't invite other men into the bedroom.

There is no way I would ever feel the same way about my husband if I were to watch him have sex with another woman.

Why get married then? I mean, people have children without being married all the time.

dreamgirl · #19 02-09-05, 11:04 AM

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Originally posted by Pumpdogg
Never read that anywhere in the marriage vowels. I thought you were a respectable woman DG who always talked abput her kids etc.. What a shame. I assume I will be the only one to say i think it is a bad idea and sick

PD

Sorry you think less of me because of this.

dreamgirl · #20 02-09-05, 11:15 AM

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Originally posted by redsquirrel
There is no way I would ever feel the same way about my husband if I were to watch him have sex with another woman.

Why get married then? I mean, people have children without being married all the time.

Well, to me, I can't wait to watch him with another woman. I'm actually looking forward to that part the most.

I've been married almost 8 years and we've been together for 10. We have a great relationship, family and we've also talked about trying this for years. I understand not everyone would agree with this. I love my husband and he is wonderful. There isn't a day that goes by that I ever question why I married him.

The couple that we have chosen is just like us. They have children and they didn't want to bring a stranger into their bed. We have had really fun times together this far and we have all talked about trying this together.

and no the guys aren't going to be together... but us girls, that may be another story... we'll see

***THE BOUNCER*** · #21 02-09-05, 11:17 AM

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Originally posted by dreamgirl
Sorry you think less of me because of this.

i dont think less of you. i think your still a good person but i think your making a bad choice. think about your kids. what happens if your husband and this other women actually really like each other and all of the sudden you feel like he likes her more then you. its a very dangerous game.

GreekTank · #22 02-09-05, 11:19 AM

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Originally posted by Pumpdogg
Never read that anywhere in the marriage vowels. I thought you were a respectable woman DG who always talked abput her kids etc.. What a shame. I assume I will be the only one to say i think it is a bad idea and sick

PD

It is. Sorry, for being honest!

**Shibby** · #23 02-09-05, 11:20 AM

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Originally posted by redsquirrel
Why get married then? I mean, people have children without being married all the time.

dreamgirl · #24 02-09-05, 11:22 AM

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Originally posted by THE BOUNCER
what happens if your husband and this other women actually really like each other and all of the sudden you feel like he likes her more then you.

I would assume he's gonna like her more right now because she is new and different. To me that's ok. I am not at all worried that he'll run away with her and I am not gonna run away with this other guy.

If he ends up running away, he probably would have done it in time anyway....

**Shibby** · #25 02-09-05, 11:22 AM

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Originally posted by dreamgirl
Well, to me, I can't wait to watch him with another woman. I'm actually looking forward to that part the most.

Be careful. It sounds great and all, but people like puddles that it works out for isn't as common as everyone's fantasy. The first time is never like you expected and can be very diffucult to get past once you have done it.