I think it's finally gonna happen....

[cowgirl]

I wonder how many of the guy's that are condeming DG, are porn addicts?

[bonebreaker]

Originally posted by bad14u
People, people , people.......it takes all types to make the world work!

Everyone of us here has done something that others would say is wrong! Some have injected shit into their bodies, others have snorted , smoked and drank whatever! Others have invited whoever into their bedrooms!Others gamble...and so on! You live, you learn, you move on!

Not everyone can have an open mind! If we all did this world would go to shit and quick!

"Live and let live! I say.

And let he who hath not sinned cast the first stone!

Damn, what did I do with that stone, hmm? I know it's around here somewhere, I need to throw it! BB

[GreekTank]

Originally posted by bjbabe
Dreamgirl

I know that a lot of people here are judging you, But i just would like to say congratulations for having the courage to try something new. Good Luck with that! I have asked my boyfriend to swing with another couple but he wont agree. I hope its fun and exciting for you and your honey.

Let me know all the details, maybe i will be able to convince my honey.

Good luck

BJBABE

Who's judging her? people are just expressing their point of view on the situation as requested by DG. So you want to jump on the band wagon too now?

[Mr incredible]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
We've been talking to this couple about swinging together for a couple of months. We've gone out 2 times and even ended up at eachothers houses, but no one knows how to start it all. Were all new to this - never tried- and everyone was nervous the last time, and no one wanted to step up. WEll, we have a date for this Saturday scheduled. I promised the other husband that I would start something... any tips?

:worthless

[BENCH355ANIMAL]

Originally posted by psyko1
how the hell do you figure?

BenchAnimal why did she say no? because she was ass naked when you "yelled" for your friend all of a sudden. i'm sure she had no clue what was going on with you interrupting sex to yell for your buddy to come barging in the room and "look" at her tits. you said she was asleep so i'm thinking she wasn't drunk, it was all a shock and a surprise for her. the real test should've been done the next weekend when you, your friend, AND her were all drunk. think real hard about it, do you still think she would've said no after you already put the thought in her mind? and let me guess after you said "I was just drunk, and got a little too freaky" you never talked about it again did you? did you ask her again? of course she wouldn't request it afterwards it was something you did out of the blue for no damn reason (in her eyes). so tell me were you really satisfied with YOUR "test"?

Like I said.....this was years ago, and all three of us have been drunk around each other since. I didn't want this to happen, but posed a question. No she wasn't drunk, but I firmly believe it wouldn't have mattered. I have came to the conclusion, she just isn't like that, and I'm no longer concerned with the results of my test. Yes, we did talk about it....the next day after I sobered up, and she expressed her firmness about it. She wouldn't have done it, and I wouldn't have shared her. I also apologized for letting him see her naked, and that was that. I love her, and I'll be with her for the rest of my life. The whole point of this is whether I agree with sharing my partner with another man, not whether she would have said yes if intoxicated. She just isn't into stuff like that, because she has values.

[bad14u]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
Damn, what did I do with that stone, hmm? I know it's around here somewhere, I need to throw it! BB

[The_Jarhead]

Originally posted by Mr incredible
:worthless

So you slam her and say she and her husband must not "give a fuck about each other" and now you ask for pics.

What a hypocritical thing to do...............

[Mr incredible]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
So you slam her and say she and her husband must not "give a fuck about each other" and now you ask for pics.

What a hypocritical thing to do...............

I know I did that one one purpose, to foooool yoouuuu

[Mr incredible]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
So you slam her and say she and her husband must not "give a fuck about each other" and now you ask for pics.

What a hypocritical thing to do...............

Hey jarhead,

could you put this in a jar?

[dreamgirl]

this is hilarious... thank you all for caring... i am very secure in my marriage. I don't feel like my hubby is gonna leave me... I for sure am not leaving him. We've have lots and lots of conversations about this. And even more recently.

This is sex... it's for fun... for something different for both of us. It doesn't mean I love him less or he loves me less.

If this act would cause him to leave, then he probably would leave me anyway sometime in the near future. We're doing this together.

The other wife is cute... I would think I am better looking than her, but she's really cute don't get me wrong. I remember someone asking me this. My hubby is better looking than the other husband. The other guy is hot, but my hubby is for me. This isn't for a relationship, it's just sex. To have the thrill to be with someone else and to watch the other do that. My hubby shouldn't feel jealousy, because I'm not leaving him. I can't stress that enough to everyone who thinks that both of us have other motives... the other couple is the same. They aren't in it to leave their relationship either. We've all had extensive talks with eachother about all of this to make sure everyone is in this for the right reasons.

Never know, it may not happen, we'll have to see on Saturday.

[bad14u]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
Never know, it may not happen, we'll have to see on Saturday.

Well, best of luck to ya both!

[Mr incredible]

Originally posted by bad14u
Well, best of luck to ya both!

Ditto, sound like a nice couple anyways

[GreekTank]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
this is hilarious... thank you all for caring... i am very secure in my marriage. I don't feel like my hubby is gonna leave me... I for sure am not leaving him. We've have lots and lots of conversations about this. And even more recently.

This is sex... it's for fun... for something different for both of us. It doesn't mean I love him less or he loves me less.

If this act would cause him to leave, then he probably would leave me anyway sometime in the near future. We're doing this together.

The other wife is cute... I would think I am better looking than her, but she's really cute don't get me wrong. I remember someone asking me this. My hubby is better looking than the other husband. The other guy is hot, but my hubby is for me. This isn't for a relationship, it's just sex. To have the thrill to be with someone else and to watch the other do that. My hubby shouldn't feel jealousy, because I'm not leaving him. I can't stress that enough to everyone who thinks that both of us have other motives... the other couple is the same. They aren't in it to leave their relationship either. We've all had extensive talks with eachother about all of this to make sure everyone is in this for the right reasons.

Never know, it may not happen, we'll have to see on Saturday.

Best of Luck to you!

[voneber]

Have fun and be safe

[bonebreaker]

DG, you said one thing that concerns me for you, and it may not even be what you meant. You said, "This isn't for a relationship, it's just sex" That kind of sounds like that sex, whenever and with whomever is Ok, because it's just sex. Also, and this is not a tit for tat analogy, but; What if you came home after the act of the switcheroo one day, and your husband was having sex with this girl. You get upset and he says, "honey, what's the problem, I've been with her before and it was just for sex". Or vice versa with you and the other guy. Again, it's just for sex. I still say that you will never get over the thoughts of your husband, the man you love, being inside another woman, and the same for him. I don't think he will ever get it out of his head about some other guy being in you either. What if you drove up to fill up your car one day and your husband was sitting in a car with this girl. Maybe truly and honestly they had just bumped into each other and were indeed having just a conversation. Do you think there wouldn't be just a hint of suspicion in your mind. I know it's possible, and that suspicion grows with every little thing that doesn't sound quite right. I know you'll do what you want and think you'll enjoy. But I think the risk is just too high. Just my 2 cc's. I hope you don't do it, but if you do, I truly hope that it all works, especially long term. BB

[Face]

Yeah good luck whatever you do, fingers crossed....

[The_Jarhead]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
DG, you said one thing that concerns me for you, and it may not even be what you meant. You said, "This isn't for a relationship, it's just sex" That kind of sounds like that sex, whenever and with whomever is Ok, because it's just sex. Also, and this is not a tit for tat analogy, but; What if you came home after the act of the switcheroo one day, and your husband was having sex with this girl. You get upset and he says, "honey, what's the problem, I've been with her before and it was just for sex". Or vice versa with you and the other guy. Again, it's just for sex.

When swingers swing it's done together. When you are doing it behind the persons back as you explained above it's cheating weather or not you've swung with that person or not.

[bonebreaker]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
When swingers swing it's done together. When you are doing it behind the persons back as you explained above it's cheating weather or not you've swung with that person or not.

Yeah, I know, and I said it wasn't a tit for tat analogy. But the thing where they may have just bumped into one another, innocently, may or may not cause problems down the road. Suspicion, imagined or real leads to the same result, lack of trust. Once that's gone, it cannot be retrieved. BB

[The_Jarhead]

IMHO if that were to happen there was an under laying trust issue to start with.

again thats just my 2cc's your results may very.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
IMHO if that were to happen there was an under laying trust issue to start with.

Exactly.

When a couple is into this stuff honestly and openly with one another there is an increadible amount of trust between them, I would imagine more trust than the typical marriage has.

Stromba and I don't swing but we play TOGETHER with other girls. I know I can leave him alone with a friend and not worry. If I was jealous or insecure about our relationship I'd probably freak when I saw him with one of our friends alone. Similarly, he trusts me not to do anything without him when I'm alone with our friends.

Swinging is done together. Cheating is done seperately without the partner's consent.

When couples go into this with a lot of thought and clear rules laid out beforehand it can be a lot of fun. It's not for everyone, but for the people who enjoy it, it's awesome. If a problem arises down the road, rules can be changed, nothing is set in stone. If one partner (or both) feel it's not right or they change their mind, the other partner has to respect their wishes. If the relationship is solid, this is not difficult because the reason they started this in the first place was to have fun, when it's not fun, that's when it ends.

I had some problems with other areas of my life (having lost some relatives and had surgery, just not feeling myself) and I told my husband that I wasn't up to playing with other girls. I'd basically lost interest and needed some one on one time with him. I told him I didn't know when or if I'd be up to it again. He supported me and never made me feel bad about my decision. When I was ready to go back to playing, I got the ball rolling again and we continued to have fun.

It's that kind of caring and communication that is needed to make this stuff work, if you don't have it, I'd advise against playing around together because problems will happen.

[bonebreaker]

Originally posted by Puddles
Exactly.

When a couple is into this stuff honestly and openly with one another there is an increadible amount of trust between them, I would imagine more trust than the typical marriage has.

Stromba and I don't swing but we play TOGETHER with other girls. I know I can leave him alone with a friend and not worry. If I was jealous or insecure about our relationship I'd probably freak when I saw him with one of our friends alone. Similarly, he trusts me not to do anything without him when I'm alone with our friends.

Swinging is done together. Cheating is done seperately without the partner's consent.

When couples go into this with a lot of thought and clear rules laid out beforehand it can be a lot of fun. It's not for everyone, but for the people who enjoy it, it's awesome. If a problem arises down the road, rules can be changed, nothing is set in stone. If one partner (or both) feel it's not right or they change their mind, the other partner has to respect their wishes. If the relationship is solid, this is not difficult because the reason they started this in the first place was to have fun, when it's not fun, that's when it ends.

I had some problems with other areas of my life (having lost some relatives and had surgery, just not feeling myself) and I told my husband that I wasn't up to playing with other girls. I'd basically lost interest and needed some one on one time with him. I told him I didn't know when or if I'd be up to it again. He supported me and never made me feel bad about my decision. When I was ready to go back to playing, I got the ball rolling again and we continued to have fun.

It's that kind of caring and communication that is needed to make this stuff work, if you don't have it, I'd advise against playing around together because problems will happen.

I understand that and I agree, BUT--"The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry". "What can go wrong will go wrong". My only point here is that why risk something so wonderful for something that is fleeting at best. IMHO, there is nothing morally wrong with what she intends, people should be able to do what they want with their bodies. I just wonder if the risk is worth the reward. BB

[GreekTank]

Originally posted by cowgirl
I wonder how many of the guy's that are condeming DG, are porn addicts?

I like porn, I'm not an addict though

[GreekTank]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
people should be able to do what they want with their bodies. I just wonder if the risk is worth the reward. BB

Yeah I agree!