Alittle Mixed UP!

[DallasCowboy]

OK here it goes, I have an ex-girlfriend that ive known for about 3yrs now. We keep in touch and have been good friends for the past 2yrs. I recently(about 6 months ago) moved from DALLAS to Panama city beach FL. And in 2 weeks im going back to Dallas to visit family, old friends and such. Well, i told her that im coming down and asked her if i could take her out while im there. shes a beautiful girl, sex is the BEST ive ever had. And she is probably one of the worst break ups ive ever had too. but heres the catch, shes ENGAGED! shes been with this one guy for about 7yrs. And shes only 23. Anyways, just a few months ago she ends up getting engaged to him because she wants to get married. Well, now she doesnt know if she can see herself with this guy the rest of her life??? which, by the way, i told her exactly the same thing a few months back but she didnt believe me. Ive never met this guy, but he obviously puts up with alot i guess. because thats how we met in the passed. She said she wasnt feeling appriciated by him and was looking for someone else and met me. SOOOOO recently she has been sending me naked pics of her in thongs and such talking about how she wants to have Hot kinky sex!! which is fine with me!! but my problem is that im really emotionally attached to this one. And it scares me. Because i date pretty regularly and i dont have feelings like this for other girls i go to bed with. Now theres one side of me that says, yeah go down there and have fun with her but another side of me that says hey, watch out this could really mess u up! plus she is engaged??? i mean ive known her for awhile now and i know how she gets. Anyways any thoughts on which road i should take with this one would help!! ill also try and include alittle eye candy!

[SonofBone]

Dude...thx! Those pictures are going to make it easier for me to leave her now!

I'm kidding of course, but you already know the answers to these questions. If she'll do it to him, she do it to you as well. Unless you just like the drama, don't bother seeing her. If you date a lot, eventually you'll find the one w/out all of the hangups.

Anyway, just my .02.

[beefcake]

Well, either or you're going to get it on with her when you go down that's a definate. However, here are the dilema's that you'll be face with afterwards. Either she just wants to fuck and you'll be left in the dust all emotional and butt hurt, another one is she actually doesn't want to be with him anymore and she wants you instead, but very possible that since she just up and got engaged to dude, means she does want to get married and will possibly expect that to happen with you. So now are you down for either scenario? If you feel that you really get this emotional with her, then actually getting engaged to her may not be that bad of a commitment. Cause technically, the wedding can always be called off if shit doesn't go the way you like it. I say go down, do what you got to do, and just be ready for whatever happens afterwards.

[DallasCowboy]

OF COURSE IM GOING TO GO TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS, but being with her i take that chance of going down that path where things get alittle mixed up. I dunno, guess we will just have to wait and see. Im taking her out for sushi? she says shes never had it so im going to take her to a good place in Dallas. Any other suggestions???

[JUICE]

i would just leave her alone. I say that cause im not that type of a guy. First of all shes enganed and 2.) what if she decides to be with you, what if she does the same to you. Chicks like that are screwed up, not knowing what they want. The best thing for her to do is call it off with that guy, if she wants someone else. I dont know, she looks hot i can tell u that but i respect others people property. Ive been there before too when i was single, some chick that was taken wanted shit with me and she had a man. I was like nah, put her in her place. I wouldnt like knowing someone else has been with my chick while ive been with her. Do what u feel is right bro.

[Goosteady]

Is she the blonde with the tits on the left or the brunette on the right?

[Shibby]

Ok, it's an ex from 3 years ago, she has been with this guy for almost 7 years? Either way she wants to have fun and wants someone to come home to. Can't have both, do what you want and let her decide what she wants to do. But going into it, make sure you know what you want from your life.

[DallasCowboy]

yeah juice your right, she doesnt know what she wants. And ive put it in her face before but she admits it. She says shes crazy and blames it on being spontanious?? But she doesnt love the guy. Truth is, he her security, she has no where to go if she leaves him. So basically shes waiting for something better with security to come along and wisk her away. DOUBT THAT! Not this guy! Anyways, ive tried to explain to her how i feel and nothing changes so ill just go down there with full intention of having a goodtime and leave it at that. And if she makes it more than that then its all on her! But yeah she is the one on the LEFT in the picture.

Thanks for Imput guys!

[SonofBone]

Originally Posted by DallasCowboy

yeah juice your right, she doesnt know what she wants. And ive put it in her face before but she admits it. She says shes crazy and blames it on being spontanious?? But she doesnt love the guy. Truth is, he her security, she has no where to go if she leaves him. So basically shes waiting for something better with security to come along and wisk her away. DOUBT THAT! Not this guy! Anyways, ive tried to explain to her how i feel and nothing changes so ill just go down there with full intention of having a goodtime and leave it at that. And if she makes it more than that then its all on her! But yeah she is the one on the LEFT in the picture.

Thanks for Imput guys!

Dude...I don't have a problem w/anything you're saying there w/the exception of "And if she makes it more than that then its all on her!" The truth of the matter is that you have to show her that you're the one in charge. If you let her make the decisions, you won't be a challenge to her, and she will eventually get bored w/you...even if she leaves him for you.

You let her know that you're the one that is or isn't selecting her. If you go down there and pound her, then act like you couldn't give two squirts of piss over her she'll be the one that will be going crazy over you. She isn't messed up in the head. She just wants/needs what she can't have. If she can't control you, she'll want you more. She'll stay crazy over you as long as you're a challenge to her. Once she whips you into following her rules, she'll be gone.

My first inkling was and still would be to leave her alone, but if you do decide to go through w/seeing her, you need to be in control of the situation or you'll be the one left w/your pants down. Step outside of your situation and take a look to see where you stand and where you need to stand on the issue.

[Karde]

I've been in similar situations before. Don't forget that she is bringing more than a cute ass down to visit you, she is bringing a ton of baggage as well. This will not have a happy ending. There are so many gorgeous women out there, and some of them actually have their heads on straight. I would pass on this one.

[wheyman]

I would say don't expect it to be more than what it is...booty. If you can't sleep with this girl without falling for her then leave her alone or you will just make things harder on yourself later. I never understood this about guys. Most of the time all we want is a girl that is "cool" with no strings attached. Then when we find them we end up falling for them and wanting more. I would just tea bag her and leave it at that.

That's just my 2 cents, then again that's about all the sense I have so you decide.

[phatchopper]

Originally Posted by Karde

There are so many gorgeous women out there, and some of them actually have their heads on straight. I would pass on this one.

Oh really and where can I find one of these mystical creatures?

[Karde]

Originally Posted by phatchopper

Oh really and where can I find one of these mystical creatures?

They live across the street from the park full of unicorns and pegasus. All girls love unicorns and pegasus.

[Karde]

This is not Karde, it is his wife, chiming in under his handle not to confuse you, but to tell you he is lying. I for one HATE unicorns and pegasus. I do think that was a stupid joke, too, but I think he's cute for telling you guys stupid jokes. He makes me laugh, laughing is sexy, hence Karde is sexy. Karde is not only the nicest guy I've ever met but he absolutely rocks in the sack. And he's hooot.

We met, actually, on the internet. And I egotistically presume it was me he was talking about. We exist. Hold out or go for broke.

[DS-COUSIN]

Let me wrap this up. In a nut shell:

YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSE WIFE!

If you can't cut her loose emotionally, don't mess with her. If you can just "hit it," then do it and make an appointment at the clinic when you get back to FL.

[panasonicbike]

I wouldnt be worried about getting attached. I think its fucked up to be the guy she cheats with. On the other hand you would be saving this guy some pain later on if they ended up getting married because she is obviously a cheater.

[Control]

I just saw those pics and I think I'm becoming emotionally attached too. And I don't even have emotions.....

[Shibby]

I think it's been a little more than 2 weeks since AUGUST 12, 2005...

[Mr incredible]

Originally Posted by DallasCowboy

OF COURSE IM GOING TO GO TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS, but being with her i take that chance of going down that path where things get alittle mixed up. I dunno, guess we will just have to wait and see. Im taking her out for sushi? she says shes never had it so im going to take her to a good place in Dallas. Any other suggestions???

Man, I'm engaged and if that was my lady you were messin with, I'd cut your fuckin heart out with a jagged rusty blade nice and slow, and it wouldn't make any difference how big you were!!

food for thought :bbq:

[rado]

Originally Posted by Shibby

I think it's been a little more than 2 weeks since AUGUST 12, 2005...

Just to add my $0.02 here;


I have no respect for either person who sleeps with someone else when in a relationship....KARMA is a bitch....What goes around, comes around...