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bjbabe · #1 09-01-05, 01:08 PM

So i went to my OB Doctor, cause i was getting the worst stomach cramps which hurt so bad. I was worried that something was wrong with the baby. I am five months pregnant, and scared to life cause i have had miscarriages and i am so worried that something will go wrong. Anyways, the baby is ok, but i am not according to him. I am really depressed cause i cry all the time. Let me tell you why maybe you will also be depress if you were in my shoes. I am stressed out cause my parents are somewhat upset with me, i am stressed at work. The father of my child (boyfriend) has not called me in the last four days to see how i am doing, or if i need anything. He won't answer my calls or call me back. My birthday is next week and none of my so-called friends since they found out i was pregnant have called me at all to see how i am doing. My roommate is making my life miserable and we are always arguing cause i am pregnant, i told her that i was moving out but i first need to find somewhere to go. Well she wants me out right now. I feel like my whole life is collapsing and the one person that i want by my side other then my parents won't call me or answer my calls.

Now, what would you do when it seems like your whole life is falling apart, and all you want to do is just disappear, where no one will ever find you.

Sorry but i just need to talk!

Taylor · #2 09-01-05, 03:04 PM

ride to your boyfriends house and lay it out on the table and tell him how you feel

wheyman · #3 09-01-05, 03:13 PM

I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going your way right now. It can be easy to fall into a depression when nothing is going your way, but remember this...You are carrying a baby and right now that baby is depending you and you alone so why should you depend on anyone else? If anything your baby should be enough to get you through this.

Your friends are obviously not friends so don't sweat it, you don't need them. As for your boyfriend, when he does decide to contact you then set it straight. Either he is in or not, there is no half way. It's time to grow up on his part and if it's too much to ask then move on. Sometimes us guys need a little kick in the balls to jump start things ya know.

I hope you get through this ok and keep us posted!

WM

***THE BOUNCER*** · #4 09-01-05, 04:56 PM

So your parents, friends, and boyfriend wont call you back.

Im going to be blunt here like always so please dont take offence.

From what I know of you from this board, your with a different guy every time I read a post from you, your having sex with one guy and then having sex with someone else. I think you have been pregnant 2 or 3 times since you have been on this board and your still going from man to man. Just going by what I know of you on this board, if I was your parents I wouldnt be very happy with you either. If I was your friend I wouldnt want to be around you because you seem to make the wrong decision with everything. As a roomate I would have booted your ass along time ago. And as a man I can tell you that I have zero respect for a girl like you come across as on this board. Now your going to bring a child into this world.

Im sorry to sound so harsh but you need to get your act together.

INTIMID8OR · #5 09-02-05, 07:11 AM

I think the doctor is correct in his diagnosis ...you sound depressed to me as well ...Take your medication before you do something silly ....AND IM SORRY YOU'RE SO SAD, for such a young lady with so much a head of you ...

bjbabe · #6 09-02-05, 07:14 AM

I am sorry bouncer,

But you have always assumed that it was or has been a different guy, its not. The guy that i have been pregnant with before is the same guy, we have been together for actually more off then on, for five years. You have no right to judge someone without really knowing them. These is the first pregnancy that my parents know about, my roommate is mad cause i did not tell her right away. You are right that after five years if he has not change he never well. Thats something i have to live with i just thought that the love that supposedly was felt for me was real, come to realize that it wasn't.

My friends won't call me cause i can no longer go out with them i am no longer fun, when i call them and ask why they don't call.

Bouncer, i have nothing against you at all, you are someone that people admire and look up to. But sometimes you have to realize that your words hurt people more then you think.

***THE BOUNCER*** · #7 09-02-05, 09:00 AM

Maybe sometimes my words that hurt people will be enough to make some people wake the fuck up. You dont need a baby at this point in your life and yet you seem to be hell bent on having one. The father that you have picked has done this how many times before and yet you keep getting pregnant with him? WAKE UP FOR HELLS SAKE!!

Scotland · #8 09-02-05, 09:05 AM

bjbabe,

You need to go back home until the birth of your child is complete. You are obviously on the outs with everyone but your parents. You have more to think of than yourself. That child's welfare is more important than your realtionships withthese other people. Women experience dysphoria during pregnancy due to hormonal changes. Worry about the life inside you not about the ones around you. Get physically healthy and let your parents assist you. Start there. Then re-assess where you are and how your life is going to be. Some of these peope you may not need in your life.

twizzbeats · #9 09-02-05, 09:20 AM

From my experiences with people I must say. you my dear need to make your self happy first. it's obvious you are looking to other people for your happiness in your life. You must be looking to get pregnant from guys so they'll have to stick around. You need to find what it is that will give you the strength to stand on your feet.

I have an X gf from high school that is the same way. going from guy to guy and now she is pregnant from some guy she hardly knows. She did it purposely and the guy wants nothing to do with her. She is depressed, self centered and is like it's all about me me me.

In my life I used to be the same(down on myself not pregnant). Honestly body building is the one thing that straightened me out. It has been exactly 2 years since I started working out and I feel alot better about myself. It hads given me confidence, disipline and it helped me to get a job where I manage my own company at 25.

Some people are prone to being down on themselves and we look to other people to pick us up. I still do this in some instances. For me it's having a girlfriend, i couldn't go more than 3 weeks being single.

Whatever happens in your life, know that you have real value even when things are against you. You need to look in the mirror every morning and tell your self you are great, smart, lovable, confident and a person people love. Even when you don't think these things about yourself, you need to remind yourself. Trust me after awhile when good things start happening you'll believe in your self. it's a self fulfilling prophecy.

We are all not perfect, i'm getting divorced and probably going broke if I don't start making alot better money. BUt I know I will make it, I didn't always know, but if you tell yourself you'll be great it's bound to happen.

forget the past and focus on the future. Work on your self and make your self great then you'll land an amazing guy that will want to get you pregnant and marry you. Love you for you not your body.

**hitmansb** · #10 09-02-05, 03:29 PM

I'm with Bouncer on this...you've made a hell of a lot of foolish decisions. Well, guess what? Now that there is a baby in the picture, you can't get away with making foolish decisions anymore! You have to sit down and take stock of your life...and be brutally honest with yourself. You can't just go through the motions anymore, it's do-or-die time now...so make the decision to DO what's best for you and your baby. After that, everything else will take care of itself with time.

#11 09-03-05, 04:06 PM

Can people take depression meds while being preggo, I thought that was a no-no?

K

Puma · #12 09-03-05, 04:18 PM

Best of luck to you. I am just going to keep it at that.

As far as your depression, no crap your depressed. Your life is not going how you expected, and people you think are your friends are leaving you out in the cold. Here is the cold hard truth on that:

I don't have any friends. And I don't want any. I have one person in my life who has never dicked me over, and I do consider him a friend, but we almost never talk. Your friends all want something from you, that's the just the way it is. My friends want me to party with them, or help them get bigger, or help them with their computers, or something. There is no such thing as friendship in my experience, people are just around because they want something from you.

That's why I have taken much more to spending my time online, because even if you fucks want something from me, I can just ignore you.

I can actually ask for honest opinions here and people will answer honestly, because frankly, they just don't give a fuck. Its the only place I feel that I really have friends; people who will try to point me in the right direction for self-less reasons.

I know its sad, its just the way the world has become in my eyes. Everyone want's something from someone, if you didn't you would just move on to the next person who does have something you want. Learn to be alone and be happy with it. Learn to let people look at you and be jelous and just let that be enough. Don't let people in too close because they will, I promise you, bend you over and fuck you if they feel they need to.

Yeah, I am a hateful bastard. But this has worked for me for years now, and I really have been much happier after I realized why people act the way they do.

Puma

Oh, and for anti-depressants. I used to take Zoloft. I don't think it did anything for me, but did not have any bad sides. I know it helps some people though.

BodyJBbuild · #13 09-04-05, 10:46 PM

^^^Bouncer...good post. hope this young lady realizes this and wakes up and opens her eyes and puts more focus on her life.

**Shibby** · #14 09-04-05, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by bjbabe

So i went to my OB Doctor, cause i was getting the worst stomach cramps which hurt so bad. I was worried that something was wrong with the baby. I am five months pregnant, and scared to life cause i have had miscarriages and i am so worried that something will go wrong. Anyways, the baby is ok, but i am not according to him. I am really depressed cause i cry all the time. Let me tell you why maybe you will also be depress if you were in my shoes. I am stressed out cause my parents are somewhat upset with me, i am stressed at work. The father of my child (boyfriend) has not called me in the last four days to see how i am doing, or if i need anything. He won't answer my calls or call me back. My birthday is next week and none of my so-called friends since they found out i was pregnant have called me at all to see how i am doing. My roommate is making my life miserable and we are always arguing cause i am pregnant, i told her that i was moving out but i first need to find somewhere to go. Well she wants me out right now. I feel like my whole life is collapsing and the one person that i want by my side other then my parents won't call me or answer my calls.

Now, what would you do when it seems like your whole life is falling apart, and all you want to do is just disappear, where no one will ever find you.

Sorry but i just need to talk!

All I'm going to say as it dosn't get easier and your emotions are only going to become less controlable. You can't ever understand what everyone means about how it's life changing expierence until it does. I couldn't love anything more than my girlfriend and 4 day old son. Even with the strength we have in each other and the complete support of my family it can be hard. We were as prepared as can be and are taking it day by day. There are so many unique chalanges to everyones situtation. Even though you make your baby first, you can't forget about yourself or there won't be anyone to take care of the little one. It wasn't your babies choice to come into this world, so you better do your best to give him/her what it deserves. It's too late to cop-out and say it's too hard and it's not your fault you can't handle it. You have to toughen your skin, and get your mind and body ready to do what it takes.

psyko1 · #15 09-05-05, 07:12 PM

[quote=Shibby]All I'm going to say as it dosn't get easier and your emotions are only going to become less controlable. You can't ever understand what everyone means about how it's life changing expierence until it does. QUOTE]

a fucking men! :bravonew:
some people just don't understand this and imagine it being an easy thing to do. quite frankly it's the most difficult thing to do. your entire life changes and you no longer think of yourself. everything you do from the time it's born is for your child, not you anymore.

bj, you've got a lot to think about and deal with. hopefully you see by the several posts up above, that you getting help from your parents is VERY important! i'm also alot like puma, i've pretty much said fuck friends at the beginning of this year. no matter what bullshit they feed you most will NOT be around when you need them. no matter what you've done for them. apparently your friends are like this too. hopefully you see what they're like and LEARN from this, but most people don't and unfortunately it seems like you aim to please them.

there's really no helping you, until you help yourself. you need to not let shit get to you. your health AND THE BABY'S is far more important than any one else you may know.

**Shibby** · #16 09-05-05, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by psyko1

a fucking men! :bravonew:
some people just don't understand this and imagine it being an easy thing to do. quite frankly it's the most difficult thing to do. your entire life changes and you no longer think of yourself. everything you do from the time it's born is for your child, not you anymore.
.

I have already learned that if you do it right and it's a happy life, there is nothing a friend or party can do to make you near as happy.

tiny pinder · #17 09-11-05, 04:53 AM

i dont know any women that arent depressed some time or another, but you sound like you actually have a very good reason unlike the other 99%
if i was you id look to my family for help,they may be upset but theyd rather you come to them for help than dissapear.

SuKaDaddio · #18 09-22-05, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by THE BOUNCER

So your parents, friends, and boyfriend wont call you back.

Im going to be blunt here like always so please dont take offence.

From what I know of you from this board, your with a different guy every time I read a post from you, your having sex with one guy and then having sex with someone else. I think you have been pregnant 2 or 3 times since you have been on this board and your still going from man to man. Just going by what I know of you on this board, if I was your parents I wouldnt be very happy with you either. If I was your friend I wouldnt want to be around you because you seem to make the wrong decision with everything. As a roomate I would have booted your ass along time ago. And as a man I can tell you that I have zero respect for a girl like you come across as on this board. Now your going to bring a child into this world.

Im sorry to sound so harsh but you need to get your act together.

I agree. You can choose your actions but not your consequences. This will be a learning experience for you, be strong and handle your business.

mastakillah · #19 09-22-05, 03:03 PM

sorry bj babe, but i agree w/ everyone else.
there's nothing worse than when you see grandparents always taking care of a baby because the mom and dad are out partying. you seem to me like your gonna be one of those mothers - out partying w/friends while you pass your kid on to your parents.

**Shibby** · #20 12-12-05, 02:02 PM

It's getting close. How are things going now Bjbabe?

bjbabe · #21 12-12-05, 03:42 PM

Things are better now, thanks for asking, I only have five more weeks. Still have no idea if i am having a boy or a girl.

I have had the worst pregnancy ever: Let me explain why.

For the first four months i throw up every day none stop, that i lost a lot of weight instead of gaining it. On my six month, i ended up in the ER i was having contractions and i would not stop throwing up. After a week in the hospital the doctors still had no idea what was going on with me, i start throwing up blood that they decide to put a pump down my nose to pump my stomach, so i would not continue hurting my throat. The doctors recommended me to have one X-Ray done, i did not want to have it. I was scared and did not want anything to happen to the baby. I finally agreed and they told me that i had a bowel obstruction and it looked like it was about to burst, scar tissue had wrapped around my bowel intestine twice. I had to have an emergency surgery, if i had the operation i was risking losing the baby, he or she only had a fifty percent of surviving and if i did not have an operation i could lose my life. After much crying and talking to my parents about it i agreed. Thankfully everything turned out ok, i was there for two weeks. Now i am slowly recovering and i am gaining the weight that i am supposed to. Its been very rough for me.

**Shibby** · #22 12-12-05, 03:45 PM

Sounds intense, but it's good to hear everything is going well now. What about the father? Is he helping out at all? I take it your parents are being supportive now...

bjbabe · #23 12-12-05, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Shibby

Sounds intense, but it's good to hear everything is going well now. What about the father? Is he helping out at all? I take it your parents are being supportive now...

After i got really sick my parents wanted me to move back home. So they could take care of me, i agreed i am thankful that they are supportive and not that upset with me as i originally thought. The father is there sometimes i am lucky if i see him once every two weeks, he works a lot and when he doesn't work he has no time for me. When i was in the hospital for two weeks he went to see me twice, and his excuse was that he had no transportation. I really do not know if we are together or not, we are fighting a lot its mostly me arguing me with him cause he has no time for me.

Oh well, to late now to dwell over it.