double rejection (old news, but still like input)

[Taylor]

this involves a girl, its old news, i've moved on..i've dated girls since this girl but me and my buddy got to talking about times of being rejected just cause we've both had our fair share i guess :thumbsdow

but i'd like input



last semester i was taking 4 classes, 1 girl out of all 4 classes i wanted to hook up with...as luck would have it the first day of group this specific girl and i were assigned to be partners all semester in english (a 4 person group), so the first week we talked alot things were going good, i felt like we would end up getting together...

the 2nd week of school comes around, we're working in our groups and finish up early...she asks me to leave with her, and at the time it was freezing outside, i had a class in 30 minutes or so and i didn't wanna stand out in the cold for 30 mins...so of course i told her that....its fucking cold!!! so she ight and left and that was the last time i saw her

when i got home i was kicking myself in the ass, because in hindsight i feel that she was wanting me to leave with her, not just a "i'm ready to go home" it was more of a "come with me and lets go"...but im retarted apparantly and i didn't get it until after the fact

so in a sense i kinda rejected this girl, whom i NEVER would've rejected if i was aware enough about my life to know what's going on...

so the next class comes around and i was hoping everything would be cool and she wouldn't think much of it...but she was a no show...friday comes she's a no show....so i call her friday night...we had talked a few times on the phone the first week just because of group work right away so i had her number...i called her up and invited her to come to a show with me and my buddy, a concert at a local venue....she sounded pissed! she was real bitchy, completely unlike how i knew her in the first week....she said no, and that was kind of it, i didn't bring up the whole me saying no to her earlier in the week...i dont know why, i just didn't

but i learned she DID drop the class, she said "she didn't need it"...but it was an english class she hadn't passed yet...so that was clearly untrue

i felt SO POSITIVE that she would come to the show, i felt more positive that she was into me then any other girl that i've DATED...cause even when i'm good friends with a girl up front and then we gradually advance the relationship i always have my nerves, this girl i was completely confident i KNEW she wanted me, and i wanted her....

BUT, she said no

i never called her again because i was so thrown off by her attitude and her not accepting my invite to the show...

did she feel rejected, could she have never been into me (couldn't be), was it payback, what was it?!?

now this girl is done with, and i'm never gonna see her again unless we happen to fall into class again, im not intending to call her and i dont expect her to call me....but in case this happens in the future, i wanna have an idea of should i go after her or should i do what i did and just let her go

if i ACCIDENTALLY reject someone, is it over before it begins or could it have still worked



i'm really not attracted to many girls at my school, maybe my standards are just way too high, or we're all just very ugly people but this girl was probably the most attractive girl i've moved on

i'm not the god of women by any means, im probably extremely low on the totum poll lol but i've been with a handful of very decent looking women, and this one was like *make you drool* hot

[Taylor]

too long?

U WANT LONG... read my clomid love letter hahaha
some people just catch our fancy, in terms of school theres always more but do that have that thing ure looking for, being particular is good it saves lots of trouble and lots of unneeded break-ups

K

[fog_hat1981]

You need to find someone with half a brain. Any girl that quits a class or refuses to stay in touch with you because you "accidentally" brushed her off needs to get her head examined. It shows a total lack of self-confidence and she probably would have been more of a pain in the ass than a nice piece of ass - she was a basket case.

In the future - try to be more aware of the signals girls put off. Most girls that are worth dating aren't going to play those b.s. games anyways so just chalk it up to a loss and try not to make the same mistake again.

Originally Posted by fog_hat1981

You need to find someone with half a brain. Any girl that quits a class or refuses to stay in touch with you because you "accidentally" brushed her off needs to get her head examined. It shows a total lack of self-confidence and she probably would have been more of a pain in the ass than a nice piece of ass - she was a basket case.

In the future - try to be more aware of the signals girls put off. Most girls that are worth dating aren't going to play those b.s. games anyways so just chalk it up to a loss and try not to make the same mistake again.

Yah but out of 100 girls u meet how many don't play games maybe 10-15... and the 10-15 that don't are usually hassles

K

[Shibby]

I found this post humerous. It has nothing to do with the topic at hand, except I found A bit of irony that you met her in english class. As I was reading the letter, I kept wondering if you passed the class

[Taylor]

Originally Posted by fog_hat1981

You need to find someone with half a brain.

where do you find them?!?!?!?!

[Taylor]

Originally Posted by Shibby

I found this post humerous. It has nothing to do with the topic at hand, except I found A bit of irony that you met her in english class. As I was reading the letter, I kept wondering if you passed the class

i got an A

but it was argument based research it wasn't grammar and puncuation class

[Shibby]

I'm just messing with you. I personally always proof read my posts to some extent. Just something I do.

[Timma]

Here's my advice. Don't date people from your classes. It's like dating a coworker. It just usually doesn't work out. If I were you, i'd just focus on my schooling and if something hapens, it happens. That's how I ended up getting through school. The opprotunity to do well in school comes around once. You'll have plenty of time to find a girl in between or when you're done. You did the right thing going to class.

[Shibby]

Originally Posted by Timma

Here's my advice. Don't date people from your classes. It's like dating a coworker. It just usually doesn't work out. If I were you, i'd just focus on my schooling and if something hapens, it happens. That's how I ended up getting through school. The opprotunity to do well in school comes around once. You'll have plenty of time to find a girl in between or when you're done. You did the right thing going to class.

all that knowledge and you became a golfer?

[Timma]

Originally Posted by Shibby

all that knowledge and you became a golfer?

Should I be a relationship counselor?

[Shibby]

Originally Posted by Timma

Should I be a relationship counselor?

You should be a family counsler.

[Taylor]

Originally Posted by Timma

Here's my advice. Don't date people from your classes. It's like dating a coworker. It just usually doesn't work out. If I were you, i'd just focus on my schooling and if something hapens, it happens. That's how I ended up getting through school. The opprotunity to do well in school comes around once. You'll have plenty of time to find a girl in between or when you're done. You did the right thing going to class.

I see people in my class more often then anyone else right now, that's usually why i used to hook up with classmates....

I'm rehabbing my shoulder for about 1 1/2 hours a day, doing my regular workout routine, practicing with my semi pro baseball team, i volunteer coaching a 13-14 year old team, and i work part time......in between all that i gotta study and cook/eat my food

doesn't leave me alot of time to socialize with people not in my classes

and on weekends half of my games end up being out of town with both my own and the team i coach

[Timma]

Originally Posted by Taylor

I see people in my class more often then anyone else right now, that's usually why i used to hook up with classmates....

I'm rehabbing my shoulder for about 1 1/2 hours a day, doing my regular workout routine, practicing with my semi pro baseball team, i volunteer coaching a 13-14 year old team, and i work part time......in between all that i gotta study and cook/eat my food

doesn't leave me alot of time to socialize with people not in my classes

and on weekends half of my games end up being out of town with both my own and the team i coach

Then it sounds like me you don't have the time for anything right now. I would not worry about finding a girl right now with so much on your plate.

[Timma]

Originally Posted by Shibby

You should be a family counsler.

LOL!

[Taylor]

Originally Posted by Timma

Then it sounds like me you don't have the time for anything right now. I would not worry about finding a girl right now with so much on your plate.

guess your kinda right, but in your excellent relationship counselor opinion...do you think i made that specific girl feel rejected?

I'm not completely heartless, even if a girl i'm not exactly into has the nerve to come up and talk with me i do my best not to brush them off and give them my time...so to kinda throw someone in the cold like that i felt bad about, still feel a little bad for her

[JUICE]

Originally Posted by Timma

You did the right thing going to class.

fuck yeah, i learned my lesson back in 2001. I was always in school with friends and chicks. Something similar happend and i just let go of school. Now im paying for it.

[Timma]

Originally Posted by Taylor

guess your kinda right, but in your excellent relationship counselor opinion...do you think i made that specific girl feel rejected?

In the girl's eyes, you did. In a guy's eyes you didn't. Girl's think we have this extra sense that picks up on their hints and subtleties (sp?). We do not and cannot read into these if we do not know the girl. Yet girls stil drop them on us waiting to pick them up. IMO I think you made the right choice cause this girl seems to have some issues if she got pissed off over that.

[Taylor]

the only girl i'm really interested in right now is my physical therapist....but i'm a bummy little college student, she's not much older then me but she's got a full time job and making 60-70,000 a year...me bringing in next to no money and her bringing in what she's bringing would never work would it

i'm 20 and i'd GUESS she's 25 give or take a year

i know i don't have the most time for her but once you've had a couple of good relationships in your life and then you don't have one i think inevitably you feel a little somethings missing

[fog_hat1981]

Originally Posted by Taylor

the only girl i'm really interested in right now is my physical therapist....but i'm a bummy little college student, she's not much older then me but she's got a full time job and making 60-70,000 a year...me bringing in next to no money and her bringing in what she's bringing would never work would it

i'm 20 and i'd GUESS she's 25 give or take a year

i know i don't have the most time for her but once you've had a couple of good relationships in your life and then you don't have one i think inevitably you feel a little somethings missing

That shit shouldn't matter bro - would you date a girl that was in school to get a good job later in life after you had already graduated?

I say if she digs you then ask her out, money shouldn't be an issue - at least not until you're married or living together

[Taylor]

Originally Posted by fog_hat1981

That shit shouldn't matter bro - would you date a girl that was in school to get a good job later in life after you had already graduated?

I say if she digs you then ask her out, money shouldn't be an issue - at least not until you're married or living together

to be honest i really don't know, i think it would depend on the girl and the entire situation

i guess since i've never dated anyone whose not in school, i'm not used to the idea of it all

[fog_hat1981]

Originally Posted by Taylor

to be honest i really don't know, i think it would depend on the girl and the entire situation

i guess since i've never dated anyone whose not in school, i'm not used to the idea of it all

Broaden your horizons bro...

[Puddles]

Originally Posted by Timma

In the girl's eyes, you did. In a guy's eyes you didn't. Girl's think we have this extra sense that picks up on their hints and subtleties (sp?). We do not and cannot read into these if we do not know the girl. Yet girls stil drop them on us waiting to pick them up. IMO I think you made the right choice cause this girl seems to have some issues if she got pissed off over that.

You're right.

Girls will be more subtle in expressing their attraction and desires for a guy. Why? Because if we're direct it generally makes us look like sluts.

This girls sounds kinda immature though...maybe it was best you two didn't hook up.