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JUICE · #1 05-28-06, 10:09 PM

this is what happend about a week ago. Me and my ex have been talking a little more than before. I go over to her house and talk, watch movies with her, and go out more to eat breakfest, lunch, and even dinner.

Well last week i was at her house and watching a movie with her. We were just there talking to each other. She all of a sudden tells me she wants to hit me. I was like in a bad way, she goes no, just to hurt u, so we start wrestling with each other and tickling each other. We were liket that for a while. The all of a sudden we were just laying about 5 inches apart from each other and talking. We started talking about sex and stuff, since she tought wrong of something i said earlier. Well since the subject was brought up, she wanted to tell me something. She was too sky to let it out. So then she goes, what would happen if i were to come on to u, what would u do. I was like first of all, i still feel for u but i dunno. Not that im gay nor anything but i started thinking, i dont wanna ruin what we have build up so far. Where is this gonna lead to: is it gonna make it better or we will not talk after this.

To be honest, its been 1 year since ive been with her and so is she. So we both want it, but we dont know how to approach eath other in that way. I know its easy to just do it and all, but not just like that. I told her, look "Your cool, we went out for 4 years, i respect u, and all but dont wanna get a different image of you". We live in a close minded city, u fart and the other side knows 5 minutes later. U know how it goes. As much as i wanted to, i just holded myself back. The she goes, thats good that u think that way. I respect u for that she tells me. Im like ok.
The on my way out of her house, i ask her just to see what she says, I asked " I change my mind, I would actually do it". She was like, nah I was just testing u to see what u would do. SO I was like ok, same here. But I would but only if we were a couple again.

I dont know, maybe cause shes an ex and all. I know if it would have been some other girl me talking to, yeah i would have taken the chance too. But theres something that told me not to. If we would/or even will, where would this take us. Would it make her confortable with other guys too. I double think now about this girl, and to be honest, i lost a quite good amount of interest in her. I see around and Im like, hey theres other better and good girls out there. This one was not ambituous, at times boring, etc.

SonofBone · #2 05-28-06, 11:42 PM

Sounds a little like you've been thinking you two may get back together. Now that you see it might be easier than you think it sounds like you may not be too interested. I'm thinking you are ready to close that chapter of your life and might be better keeping her as a friend. Also, seems like you made the tougher probably wiser decision to not sleep with her. I commend you for not settling and recognizing that she isn't what you're looking for in a relationship. You'll find the right lady...just have to be patient.

JUICE · #3 05-29-06, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by SonofBone

Sounds a little like you've been thinking you two may get back together. Now that you see it might be easier than you think it sounds like you may not be too interested. I'm thinking you are ready to close that chapter of your life and might be better keeping her as a friend. Also, seems like you made the tougher probably wiser decision to not sleep with her. I commend you for not settling and recognizing that she isn't what you're looking for in a relationship. You'll find the right lady...just have to be patient.

the first months, i was like year thinking there was a chance but now its like if i go and just chill thinking nothing.
I guess all this was that it needed time to clear up from my head.

Im realizing, why bother with something thats not even there. Ive been opening up more with the ladies recently now thats ive been going out more and being more social again.

ROCKILLER · #4 05-30-06, 10:43 AM

I read it a little differently at first. As in, you want to build a better relationship with her that doesnt just revolve around fun and partying and sex. Do whatever makes you happy. You never know how things are going to turn out and even if you make all the right choices in life, you'll still wonder about the other things you could have done and every now and then, kick yourself in the ass for doing something a certain way. Keep doing what youre doing and enjoy yourself. You might realize, after some comparison shopping, that she is waht you want or you may realize she's not.