4 years/now its probably over - SuperiorMuscle.com

The_Grinder · #1 03-22-07, 11:05 AM

So I've posted about my girl on here before. We were two months away from our 4 year anniversary when she decided last week that she wasn't sure I was the one for her. For the last 4 years, we've had up and downs like every other relationship, but I thought she was the one. This girl used to cry on my shoulder whenever I would have to go without seeing her for a week. She had our wedding date planned and everything, for right after we got out of college. (One more year) I was literally less than a month or so from proposing to her. Anyway, she is going through a lot with school and some family problems, and all of the sudden she says even though she sees us getting together sometime in the future "in the back of her mind", she isnt sure about anything anymore and she needs her space. Everyone keeps telling me that she will probably come back, and its just a break, but I could hear something different in her voice. Just have a really bad feeling that it is over. I'm going to give her the space she wants, and hopefully she will realize how fucking good she had it. How I treated her like a fucking queen, even when she didnt act like one. Oh well, just blowing off some steam I guess. 4 years then a sudden stop is kind of a shock. Whats even more frustrating is hearing people tell me there are so many other girls out there, but I look around and see nothing but skanks who cheat on their BFs every chance they get. Anyway, sorry this was so long, I just had to get it off my chest.

rado · #2 03-22-07, 11:13 AM

I feel bad for you bro...But why would you post this in the sex forum

babyblues · #3 03-22-07, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by rado

I feel bad for you bro...But why would you post this in the sex forum

Sex and RELATIONSHIP forum, dumbass.

I feel for you too man. There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better so I'll just empathize with you.

The_Grinder · #4 03-22-07, 11:19 AM

Appreciate it. Its just a good thing I got my friends here at school. Its times like these you learn who you can really count on and I'd be a fuckin wreck without em.

fog_hat1981 · #5 03-22-07, 11:26 AM

The good ones come back - they always do if they're who you really think they are - if they aren't then you don't need them...

Good luck brother - keep your head high no matter what....

grnmchn · #6 03-22-07, 11:46 AM

Man, went through pretty much the same thing. With a girl for 3+ years, then she needed time/space to make sure I was the one. Needless to say, I was not, and we moved on. I was a wreck after that for like a year! But time does heal all wounds. I found the real girl of my dreams. We're married now and just had baby girl. Anyway, hope she comes back, but if she doesn't you never know who is out there waiting for you. Keep your head up.

rado · #7 03-22-07, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by babyblues

Sex and RELATIONSHIP forum, dumbass.

I feel for you too man. There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better so I'll just empathize with you.

lol...Whatever

Well I do feel for you bro; sorry you have to go through it.

NYCmitch25 · #8 03-22-07, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by babyblues

Sex and RELATIONSHIP forum, dumbass.

LOL

hey bro sorry to hear that... its rough now but it will get better soon.

**FitnessBrat** · #9 03-22-07, 03:30 PM

I've never really understood the whole "taking a break" thing - but I hope it works out whatever way is best for you both. Keep your chin up....

ROCKILLER · #10 03-22-07, 09:01 PM

I know exactly where youre at bro, my ex left for the second time last year (first was my fault), then came back in december and decided that she just didnt have those feelings for me anymore. meanwhile I'm a yo-yoing mess. Youre better off saying it IS over and just moving on. If for some reason years from now you get back together, you'll have moved on and be ready to start again.

I know what you mean about the other girls too. Thiink about it this way, you and I both had great girls, there have to be a few more out there.

**Shibby** · #11 03-23-07, 04:42 AM

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Originally Posted by fog_hat1981

The good ones come back - they always do if they're who you really think they are - if they aren't then you don't need them...

Good luck brother - keep your head high no matter what....

I second this and just keep in mind that college is a confusing time. You got so many things pulling you in every which way. She's not a bad person for trying to figure out who she is and what she wants, it's no one's fault. I know it hurts a lot and you feel lost right now, but take advantage of those friends who are there to help you through this. It's hard to see it through all the pain, but those guys really make the transition easier. Through the first month or so it's going to be important to keep yourself distracted from your own mind. This way you can find out who you are without her, if need be. Best of luck.

^ No point in that other than to just help distract you and it's always a little funny to see that smiley.

cajunfreak · #12 03-23-07, 08:52 AM

Keep ur head up no matter what happens with you and your girl! Everything happens for a reason and the though it is hard to understand why things happen like they do sometime time is the only thing that can solidify the relationship of your dreams.

trip · #13 03-23-07, 09:56 AM

sorry man,

all good points and post

wow, fog hat, i really like that, a very real KISS way too look at it

fog_hat1981 · #14 03-23-07, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by trip

wow, fog hat, i really like that, a very real KISS way too look at it

Too bad it's easier said than done - especially when you're in those shoes - I've been guilty of much worse

trip · #15 03-23-07, 12:06 PM

lol, i know if fog, sad but true, got a little of it goin in on right now

was talking to the ex & emailing over last several months, totally friends, last month out of blue, i'm moving, why?, getting married

lol, she'd been dating this guy for 8-9 months, never mentioned it once

of course weird is the word, and her quirks like this were always a major problem for us

good luck all

bhcpp · #16 03-23-07, 02:11 PM

You were probably too nice to her and too predictable. Women respond to challenge and mystery. PM me for more information.

Bob :hmmm:

The_Grinder · #17 03-23-07, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by bhcpp

You were probably too nice to her and too predictable. Women respond to challenge and mystery. PM me for more information.

Bob :hmmm:

You're probably right. Personally I'd love a GIRL that catered to my every need. Oh well, I know shell regret it eventually. I treated her great and did what I thought was right so I dont have any regrets. Like yall said though, friends are the fuckin greatest. I'd be done without em. I've never believed the bros before hoes thing before now. Haha i just found her bottle of vodka in the freezer and im killing it as we speak. Time to have some fun tonight and start moving on. Thanks all for the good words...

**Shibby** · #18 03-24-07, 06:08 AM

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Haha i just found her bottle of vodka in the freezer and im killing it as we speak. Time to have some fun tonight and start moving on. Thanks all for the good words...

Enjoy it and have fun, but be careful it doesn't consume you and become your crutch. I went through a period like that and it's was very difficult to get out of.

For me I used alcohol as a way to empower myself, regain control of my feelings, or so I thought. Anytime I would start getting stressed about loosing her I would drink. It gave me the feeling that I had control of my emotions since I knew I would forget about her. It developed into other bad times making myself feel like I was loosing control of my life and I would drink to "feel better". It go to the point where every stressor in my life would make me want to drink and most of the time I would if I wasn't at work. I luckily never got so far as drinking while at work, but the nights before did effect my performance.

**Shibby** · #19 03-24-07, 06:09 AM

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Originally Posted by bhcpp

You were probably too nice to her and too predictable. Women respond to challenge and mystery. PM me for more information.

Bob :hmmm:

Ok, Bishop Don Juan

**FitnessBrat** · #20 03-24-07, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Shibby

Ok, Bishop Don Juan

That's Archbishop Don Magic Juan

Gods Son · #21 03-25-07, 12:46 PM

itll be ok bro..this is something we have all been through

Gods Son · #22 03-25-07, 12:49 PM

Grinder I just saw your location.. Newberry Indians huh? Tymere Zimmerman is from my hometown.hell Zak Willis too.

The_Grinder · #23 03-25-07, 10:47 PM

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Grinder I just saw your location.. Newberry Indians huh? Tymere Zimmerman is from my hometown.hell Zak Willis too.

Man its a small world. Yeah we had a hell of a season this year. Coach Willis has really helped out and Tymere is just superhuman. Between him and Stepp at QB, it was a deadly combo. Well just see what happens next year when they are gone....

Anyway, back on topic. I've been doing so much better. Had a lot of fun this weekend. More fun than I've had in a while. Its nice not to have anyone to answer to. Not to say it doesnt still hurt, it does. I wouldnt be human if it didn't. But looking back, I have no regrets. I loved her, and I treated her so good. The way I see it, its her loss.

**Shibby** · #24 03-26-07, 03:01 AM

Is that her in your avatar? If so, I know it would help the healing process to post all the scandalous pictures you can of her.