I'm an absolute mess.

[Timma]

Originally Posted by THE BOUNCER

your way is the wrong way. your going to listen to foghat? a guy that at any moment might jump off a bridge..

lol no im not listening to him. i'm listening to myself. And i feel it's the right way.

[THE BOUNCER]

Originally Posted by Timma

lol no im not listening to him. i'm listening to myself. And i feel it's the right way.

i just dont want you to get hurt if she is doing things different then she is telling you. i guess what i see from what you have posted is a girl that is controlling the situation because of your strong feelings for her.

[Timma]

Originally Posted by THE BOUNCER

i just dont want you to get hurt if she is doing things different then she is telling you. i guess what i see from what you have posted is a girl that is controlling the situation because of your strong feelings for her.

From knowing her for so long that's not at all what she is doing. She truly is not trying to hurt me. If she was her concience would get the best of her. She truly believes that we can work things out.

[THE BOUNCER]

she tells me different.

[Shibby]

Originally Posted by Timma

From knowing her for so long that's not at all what she is doing. She truly is not trying to hurt me. If she was her concience would get the best of her. She truly believes that we can work things out.

She's at least done a good job of convincing herself and you, she isn't intentionally hurting you and she's trying to figure things out.

[WonderWoman]

so you moved? to boston? Here I am thinking you are in NYC. aren't you from NYC? lol.. dam I am really lost.

Things happen for a reason. People change, feelings can often change and sometimes there are real obstacles and those that can be worked thru and overcome.

I think that when you care about someone, you will make sacrifices however they may be, etc.

I feel for you Timma - it sucks having these ups and downs, but keep your head up and what is truly meant to be will be. If its not then you know that it all ended for a reason.

lol on a funny note, I too met someone from Boston but I ain't moving nowhere. If we like each other - we are doomed

[Timma]

What happened was I met her in Buffalo but she's from Albany. So i moved to Albany for her, plus i have friends out here. She's going to Boston in August for school for 2 years. If I would have moved to Boston this wouldn't have happened. Her moving to Boston and going to school has her stressed.

We both look at it this way. Alot of people take breaks to make sure things are right. Most of the time those people don't talk to or see each other. We feel we have one up on those people since we can still talk to and see each other because we want this to work.

[Nekrawulf]

Fucking soap opera shit

[bigscott]

timma -- she is stringing you along bro -- so far all of the posts i have read is about what she feels --- what she wants to do etc etc --

maybe time to move on bro -- dont drag yourself through the mud forever -- in the end you will end up hating eachother

[Timma]

Originally Posted by bigscott

timma -- she is stringing you along bro -- so far all of the posts i have read is about what she feels --- what she wants to do etc etc --

maybe time to move on bro -- dont drag yourself through the mud forever -- in the end you will end up hating eachother

Nah man after talking with her and such for a while now, she's not stringing me along. We're both doing what's best for the both of us. She has clarified some of the things she said and i can see what she's saying and doing. We were great friends before this and that's what we're trying to get back to now. And by talking and being able to see each other without our emotions taking over shows we can still be friends. If more come out of it then it does, but im not just gonna wait around.

[Shibby]

[Shibby]

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[Alin]

Originally Posted by Timma

I think i've just about hit rock bottom. This whole girl situation has made me sick and it's very hard to get out of this.

It hurts because she wants to go back to friends and work on that and see where that goes. I'm just afraid that we go through all that and nothing more happens. Sorry to be such a pansy I just need to get it out.

relationships are TOUGH!!! Good luck!
keep your head high and DO NOT let this take control of your life.
I know easier said then done but it may be time to MOVE ON WITH YOUR life.
YOU MUST give her the space she is asking for,,,if it all works out after that and she returns, then maybe it was meant to be.

[Mr incredible]

Alins right, you need to put space between you and her bro, sometimes you have to close a door before another will open. Being around a broken relationship is like sitting next to a dead corpse, sooner or later its all you can smell.

Create space and in time something else will fill the void, if it didn't work the first time it aint gonna work the second IMO.

[FitnessBrat]

Originally Posted by Shibby

lol, that is so cute.

[Timma]

Wow i thought this thread died. Well at this point ive decided I need some time away from her. I told her I can't do the friends thing right now cause my feelings are still too strong. She also needs some time to miss me. She's been talking to me everyday so she hasnt had that happen yet. So right now i'm just doing my own thing and gonna see where it takes me.

[FitnessBrat]

Originally Posted by Timma

Wow i thought this thread died. Well at this point ive decided I need some time away from her. I told her I can't do the friends thing right now cause my feelings are still too strong. She also needs some time to miss me. She's been talking to me everyday so she hasnt had that happen yet. So right now i'm just doing my own thing and gonna see where it takes me.

Excellent idea - that part is very important....

[Timma]

Originally Posted by FitnessBrat

Excellent idea - that part is very important....

Yes and that is why im doing this. EVERYONE i know told me this needs to happen.

[FitnessBrat]

Originally Posted by Timma

Yes and that is why im doing this. EVERYONE i know told me this needs to happen.

It's hard, but you can't "know" that it is necessary until it's done and you see for yourself. She/you could realize you just can't live without each other, or it could go the opposite way and you find that maybe this was for the best after all. Either way, I hope it works out best for the both of you.

[Timma]

Originally Posted by FitnessBrat

It's hard, but you can't "know" that it is necessary until it's done and you see for yourself. She/you could realize you just can't live without each other, or it could go the opposite way and you find that maybe this was for the best after all. Either way, I hope it works out best for the both of you.

Thanks FB. You're not the only one wishing me the best. I'm just hoping this is a good thing and we do get back together. I just can't see myself without her. Either way we will be friends in the end. We can't throw that away.

[THE BOUNCER]

Originally Posted by Timma

You're not the only one wishing me the best.

am i the only one wishing you the worst?

[FitnessBrat]

Originally Posted by THE BOUNCER

am i the only one wishing you the worst?

LOL - you're such a nice guy