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The_Grinder · #1 10-06-08, 07:48 PM

Striking up conversations with a female who is a stranger that is. I just realized that I have had a mere month of being single in the past 5 years. Now I did pretty well in that month, but it was at college. This meant two things. First of all, I was drunk. Second of all, I already knew the girls i hooked up with ahead of time. So basically, the last time I had to go up to a girl I didnt know and strike up a conversation, I was 17.

My problem isnt being shy or anything. It just now that I'm single, all of the sudden I become aware of all the shit coming out of my mouth, and I start thinking. This stiffens me up and I'm just not myself. Alcohol is the only thing that seems to help me loosen up. My goal is to make a good confident impression without alcohol. Let the advice flow.

alwaysgrowing · #2 10-06-08, 07:55 PM

I have two ways. If it is during the day, and your not out at a bar, I'll be direct. I'll catch a girl walking towards me a I like, and just as they are about to walk by my, lightly touch their arm. "excuse me, I just saw you walking by, and would kick myself all day if i didn't stop to tell you that you are beautiful. Hi my name is..." Yes it sounds gay, but it works when you sound sincere.

If i'm out somewhere, I simply say to girls, "hey, i need your honest opinion on something..." make up the rest as you go. They love giving their opinions

ROCKILLER · #3 10-06-08, 07:56 PM

YOU DON'T CARE....... Thats the key.

Theres a million girls out there and many of them want you but if this one doesn't you can just move on. I know exactly what you're talking about, including the alcohol part, but your goal should be to act like you already have a girl. You will get to the point that you need to make a move but for the most part you just want to have fun and relax and be yourself. Easier said than done but thats the goal.

**Shibby** · #4 10-06-08, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ROCKILLER

YOU DON'T CARE....... Thats the key.

Theres a million girls out there and many of them want you but if this one doesn't you can just move on. I know exactly what you're talking about, including the alcohol part, but your goal should be to act like you already have a girl. You will get to the point that you need to make a move but for the most part you just want to have fun and relax and be yourself. Easier said than done but thats the goal.

I agree. That's why people always say it seems girls want them when they are taken. One being a lot of girls want what they can't have. But most of all if you seem "safe" talk to, as in not trying to just use them or move to fast into something, they will be more open and relaxed with you.

The_Grinder · #5 10-06-08, 08:10 PM

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I have two ways. If it is during the day, and your not out at a bar, I'll be direct. I'll catch a girl walking towards me a I like, and just as they are about to walk by my, lightly touch their arm. "excuse me, I just saw you walking by, and would kick myself all day if i didn't stop to tell you that you are beautiful. Hi my name is..." Yes it sounds gay, but it works when you sound sincere.

If i'm out somewhere, I simply say to girls, "hey, i need your honest opinion on something..." make up the rest as you go. They love giving their opinions

I'll definately have to work up some bigger nuts before I try that first one. The opinion thing sounds good. Any example questions to ask? Knowing my dumb drunk ass, I'll probably say something like, "I need your opinion, do my shoes match my belt?" or some shit.

The_Grinder · #6 10-06-08, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ROCKILLER

YOU DON'T CARE....... Thats the key.

Theres a million girls out there and many of them want you but if this one doesn't you can just move on. I know exactly what you're talking about, including the alcohol part, but your goal should be to act like you already have a girl. You will get to the point that you need to make a move but for the most part you just want to have fun and relax and be yourself. Easier said than done but thats the goal.

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I agree. That's why people always say it seems girls want them when they are taken. One being a lot of girls want what they can't have. But most of all if you seem "safe" talk to, as in not trying to just use them or move to fast into something, they will be more open and relaxed with you.

Hell yeah, I'm actually good as hell at talkin to girls when I don't really care or I'm attatched. Maybe I should start off banging one of the girls I work with for a little confidence boost!

ROCKILLER · #7 10-06-08, 08:36 PM

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Hell yeah, I'm actually good as hell at talkin to girls when I don't really care or I'm attatched. Maybe I should start off banging one of the girls I work with for a little confidence boost!

Been there, done that, its a good idea if you're not too attached to your job. My situation worked out fine but it could easily have gone very bad.

The_Grinder · #8 10-06-08, 08:47 PM

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Been there, done that, its a good idea if you're not too attached to your job. My situation worked out fine but it could easily have gone very bad.

Nah im just kidding. Most of the girls I currently work with are 17 or so.

redback · #9 10-06-08, 09:07 PM

why in such a hurry so soon bro, have a break

COLOSSUS · #10 10-06-08, 09:26 PM

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why in such a hurry so soon bro, have a break

word

The_Grinder · #11 10-06-08, 09:38 PM

i'm not looking for another relationship. i'm kinda thinking about taking the alwaysgrowing approach to life for a bit....

**blm** · #12 10-07-08, 05:41 AM

"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal."

~40 Year Old Virgin

Timma · #13 10-07-08, 08:27 AM

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why in such a hurry so soon bro, have a break

I know what he means. When I went through the same thing I just wanted to get laid and have someone on the side just to be there. Not the relationship thing though. When you've been with one person so long it's hard to just go to nothing.

But i'd like some ideas too cause the women i've been meeting are asshats.

Timma · #14 10-07-08, 08:29 AM

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"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal."

~40 Year Old Virgin

When they said that I almost died. That movie is so great.

3v1lj03 · #15 10-07-08, 09:48 AM

I am not single but, I would say stop looking. I always find what I want when I stop looking

Timma · #16 10-07-08, 10:06 AM

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I am not single but, I would say stop looking. I always find what I want when I stop looking

That's very true. When you're out there looking and searching you just don't find anything, but the minute you stop something comes along.

alwaysgrowing · #17 10-07-08, 01:00 PM

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Nah im just kidding. Most of the girls I currently work with are 17 or so.

Most states, 17 is above the age of consent

alwaysgrowing · #18 10-07-08, 01:05 PM

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I'll definately have to work up some bigger nuts before I try that first one. The opinion thing sounds good. Any example questions to ask? Knowing my dumb drunk ass, I'll probably say something like, "I need your opinion, do my shoes match my belt?" or some shit.

You'll be surprised how often the first one works. The first time I ever used it, I was at the mall. I saw this smoking hot girl walking in my directioon from the opposite end of the mall. Just before she walked by, I decided I had to do something, so I did exactly what I wrote. It worked. she was probably the hottest girl I ever slept with.

As for questions, something stupid works. I like asking, "Guys, I need your honest opinion, I know I try to dress nice, but do I look gay b ecause of it?" The laugh and go from there. Or since labor day just passed, "Guys,I need your honest opinion, is it okay to wear white after labor day?"

And never say girls. I always call them guys until one of them calls me on it, then I'll smile and come back with a quip along the lines of, "I only call intersting people guys, are you saying your not interesting?" Again, try this. For some reason it works.

alwaysgrowing · #19 10-07-08, 01:29 PM

Almost forgot, if you go with the gay question, no matter what answer you get, interpret it as if they think being gay is a bad thing. Make them self conscious about it, then just go from there. Do it in a funny manner and you have two things going from you, confidence and funny

The_Grinder · #20 10-07-08, 04:38 PM

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You'll be surprised how often the first one works. The first time I ever used it, I was at the mall. I saw this smoking hot girl walking in my directioon from the opposite end of the mall. Just before she walked by, I decided I had to do something, so I did exactly what I wrote. It worked. she was probably the hottest girl I ever slept with.

As for questions, something stupid works. I like asking, "Guys, I need your honest opinion, I know I try to dress nice, but do I look gay b ecause of it?" The laugh and go from there. Or since labor day just passed, "Guys,I need your honest opinion, is it okay to wear white after labor day?"

And never say girls. I always call them guys until one of them calls me on it, then I'll smile and come back with a quip along the lines of, "I only call intersting people guys, are you saying your not interesting?" Again, try this. For some reason it works.

Hell yeah thanks.

Nah I'm sure the first one works wonders, I just don't have the nuts for it right off the bat. More power to you for having confidence like that. I'll try to work my way up to shit like that.

And as far as the "opinion" thing, I think I saw that on that VH1 show, "The Pickup Artist", with that tall dude who can supposedly pick up anyone. Anyone know if that show is still on? It was funny as shit.

The_Grinder · #21 10-07-08, 04:40 PM

I definately think I have the ability to loosen up, and make a strange girl feel comfortable. My only challenge will be material. I find it hard to hold conversation with anyone, male or female, for more than 2 or 3 minutes. Also, I'm funny as fuck when I'm around people I know, but being witty on command will take some practice.

alwaysgrowing · #22 10-07-08, 07:57 PM

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Hell yeah thanks.

Nah I'm sure the first one works wonders, I just don't have the nuts for it right off the bat. More power to you for having confidence like that. I'll try to work my way up to shit like that.

And as far as the "opinion" thing, I think I saw that on that VH1 show, "The Pickup Artist", with that tall dude who can supposedly pick up anyone. Anyone know if that show is still on? It was funny as shit.

Just go for it. The first time was great. The next few times I did it I crashed and burned. I got too worried about it. The girl who I did it to the first time said I wasn't her type, not all preppy. But she said i seemed so sincere when saying it, so it worked. Its trial and error. gotta fail to learn.

And you get desensitized to rejection eventually. I still blush when a girl says no, I just get over quickly. No one has a 100% success rate. It is all a numbers game. Hit on ten girls in in a week, you should get two numbers minimum. Do that for a month, you have eight new friends.

MOst importantly, be honest with them. Tell them you just got out of a long term relationship, don't want to rush things. They will eat it up