My delima. Would really like input from some ladies.

[Shibby]

I met a girl(lets call her L) about 4 weeks ago. We have been seen each other 6 times. Things were going great. Earlier last week I was let known that a girl(Lets call her M) that I have basically been waiting for, told me she was single now. M and I went out friday and had an absolute great time. I would say it was everything I had been hoping it would be. M and I will be spending the day together on Saturday. Now what I would like some help with, is there any way to explain L that I want to end things but have her know that it was just unfortunate timing for us to meet. I'm not really wanting to tell L that I just simply met somone else, becuase it is more than that. If things with L had gone on longer before M became single, we may have been together for a while.

[Shibby]

P.S. I am not wanting to just date them both. I really want to put it all into M. I'm not one to be heartless, so any "typical" guy responses can be kept to yourself. Thanks

[Puddles]

Start out by telling her that she's a great person but deep down your heart belongs to someone else and you don't think it would be fair to lead her on or lie to her and then explain the situation. You haven't been seeing her very long and she should be adult enough to understand and appreciate your honesty. Good luck, suff like this is never fun to deal with.

[sana]

i'm with MrsP. be honest, open and tell her that you have been waiting for M... explain it like you explained it to us. if i were in the situation, actually - i was L at the end of last year for someone - i very much appreciate candor and honesty. and it left room for us to continue to be friends afterwards.

and as always, if things don't work out, you got the whole rest of the alphabet to meet ... N, O, P, Q... X, Y, Z...

[The_Jarhead]

Just tel her the truth. this same thing happened when my wife and I started dating. she knew I was dating other people and I told her that I thought she was great but I really wanted to spend all my time with this other girl. later on down the road when things didn't work out my wife and started dating again and things worked out great for us.

[new231]

I personally don't like the idea of you waiting for M to be ready to date you and then going out with her. There are plenty of other reasons besides just the rebound effect that flaw this idea. I was in a similar situation about three years ago and I found myself waiting for this girl. I waited about four months and then she became free and actually wanted to go out with me and start being more than just friends. But guess what happened? About two weeks before she approached me and wanted to start going out, I met someone else that blew me out of the water. I ended up telling the girl I was waiting for that I had found someone else and I think I am falling in love. She responded by saying this: "If you go out with me tonight I will f*ck your brains out and make you forget all about that girl." It was VERY tempting (she was damn hot, looking like Britney), but I knew where my heart was and told her I couldn't. I still don't regret the decision, even though me and my girl are currently getting over some difficult times.

[Tinfish]

Originally posted by Shibby
I'm not one to be heartless, so any "typical" guy responses can be kept to yourself. Thanks

Well then fuk, i got nothin to say.

[Shibby]

Originally posted by Tinfish
Well then fuk, i got nothin to say.

^^^


Well thanks everyone. I actually talked to her this morning before I even got a chance to visit the board. I just told her that I can't see her anymore. She asked if she could know why and I just told her that I am looking for a type of feeling in a relationship and that it wasn't all there and I'm not one to keep something going if I'm not totaly into it. Went on to tell that I was trying to be honest with her and not put her trough anymore if I'm not totaly into it. She was cool about it. She apprecitated me telling her instead of just trying to let things fade out. It was kind of wierd at the end when she said it cool and good luck.

[Gongshow]

be honest with the first girl bro, just my opinion

[JUICE]

Originally posted by Gongshow
be honest with the first girl bro, just my opinion

agree

[Bruce Banner]

Honesty never works.........






j/k Bro Glad things worked out for you.