Question for the Fellas, and the Ladies of SM.

[Gongshow]

To the Fellas...

if u barely knew a girl, like u barely talked to her...but u say hi to her and shit everytime u see her....how would u ask her out....not tryin to fuck shit up, or scare her off.......and how would u ask her?


To the ladies...

What would be the best way for a random guy to approach you and ask you out one night...a guy that you have BARELY talked to...and your just acquaintences by just sayin hi when you run into each other, and nothing else...would it be best for the guy to come straight up and ask? or to go through one of your close friends??? what you all think

(Sana, I know your opinion on this matter )


LadiesMan, Feel free to chime in on this matter

[trip]

Timining, it's all about timing.

Meaning I'd be simple about it, next time saw her say say bunch of nice things then just ask her out, when I asked her out I'd have something specfic in mind, concert, dinner at nice restaurant, etc., shows you as a man of action and confidence

Key, is I'd do it at a time when you only are going to spend a few minutes together, this way if she wants to say no, it will be less uncomfortable, giving her an easy way out.

Also, the other thing is before asking her out, you could a few times hint around at what your doing and asking her what she likes to do, then you set some common ground, kind of like gently nudging her overtime of thinking in that direction so when you ask it is not a surprise.

good luck

[Starr]

Honestly, the best way to approach a girl is to just say Hi, just as you have been doing. No need for lines, those never work anyway. And like trip said, do throw in some small talk. But be real and don't get cheesy, just be real and ease into it. If you see her at a particular place all the time, maybe just say, "Good to see you again." And go from there.

Good luck! Don't get nervous. And remember you lose nothing for trying, and potentially gain everything.

[new231]

With Halloween approaching you should act very quickly. Say something like this: "So are you going to any Halloween parties this year?" No matter what she says just say that you have went to this great party the last two years but this year you didn't get invited so you have no plans. Then say that the person who normally invited you works out at the gym you attend and for some reason he didn't say anything to you this year. Then ask her if she attends a gym or works out. Then you can chat about that for a minute. Then say "Well if you are free this Friday/Saturday would you like to go out to dinner or get some coffee?" It works all the time. Just remember to always start off your conversations with something insignificant (Halloween) and lead it into something else that is significant (Working out). Then ask her out. She won't know what hit her.

[Shibby]

I agree with most everything here. I don't agree with new231 and try and blind side her. Make it comfortable to say no if that's how she really feels. No need to trap her into doing something. Because honestly do want her going if she isn't gonna be into it? Just remeber it's not suppose to be hard.

[new231]

The reason I suggested my gameplan was because I think men can look like asses if they just come right up to a girl they do not really know and ask them out. You need to have some small talk like I suggested and then ask her out. It will look like the asking out part is a byproduct (or indirectly related) to the small conversation you have going. I personally feel that if you come right out and ask her out that it may make her feel uncomfortable at that point and in any future meetings together.

Another thing that always works for me when asking a girl for her phone number: Don't ever say "Can I have your number and we can go out sometime." This makes it look like you are willing to go out with some stranger without getting to know her. I always say these words with much success: "Can I have your phone number and we can talk and get to know each other, and if we have some things in common maybe we can go out sometime." This shows the girl that I am interested in first finding out about their personality and seeing if we have any chemistry before we even go out.

[Auriflex]

Originally posted by Starr
Honestly, the best way to approach a girl is to just say Hi, just as you have been doing. No need for lines, those never work anyway. And like trip said, do throw in some small talk. But be real and don't get cheesy, just be real and ease into it. If you see her at a particular place all the time, maybe just say, "Good to see you again." And go from there.

Good luck! Don't get nervous. And remember you lose nothing for trying, and potentially gain everything.

Plagarist!

I 'was' going to offer my words of wisdom....but I see they were stolen from me. You owe me two bean burritos Starr. I'm going to have my counsel contact you.

[Gongshow]

bean burritos??? haha, how bout a custard donut?

[goliath]

'wanna go get some pizza and fuck.'

[Gongshow]

Originally posted by goliath
'wanna go get some pizza and fuck.'

so you dont think I should be blunt? LOL

[JUICE]

Originally posted by Gongshow
so you dont think I should be blunt? LOL

"u can do it"

[Starr]

You know, when I said "be real" I didn't mean blunt...

[Power Nutrition]

Don't wait to long or I might take her..

BK

[Nekrawulf]

Charisma is one of the sexist qualities a person can have. If you barely talk to her now, what will change if she agrees to your date. I can gaurantee that it wil be awkward with lots of silent moments.

You need to establish some sort of common ground with her in order to approach her as more than a common aquaitance. Appear to make a concerted effort to know her, but in a playful manner, one that doesnt seem imposing. Make little jokes to lighten the mood when you see her, but not obscene , rude, or distasteful remakes.

Just relax, I can tell that you seem to be sweating it too much, ever notice how you seem to find a girl when your not looking... there is a reason for that.