Q for the ladies...

[wrath_of_con]

When you are in a relationship, bf or married, what are your feelings regarding your guy jacking off?

[TrippersGirl]

I think its ok. My thoughts are, if I can masturbate then so can he and even if he gets a lot of action from me I wouldn't think anything of it...Actually, I kind of like it

[wrath_of_con]

Well I was just curious what the ladies thought.

Here's my point of view...

Sometimes I just feel like busting a nut quickly... couple minutes tops. Bam I'm done. Got that release now its all good.

If the only time I bust a nut is during sex, then another persons pleasure is also considered. There may be more time and effort involved. Dont get me wrong I LOVE making love to my lady, there are just times I feel like a quick release.

How about this analogy... sometimes I may want a cold beer. A nice, cold, quick beer. But suppose now the only way to have a beer is to have one with someone else who drinks there beer real slow. and You cant fully enjoy yours until they are done with theirs LOL.

Just some thoughts.

[sana]

i don't know why women find it offensive. i actually like to watch

you got fluid build up and you gotta release, by all means go ahead. sometimes i don't want to have to oblige. so, use your hands, use your feet, if you're flexible, use your own mouth, i don't care :p

[wrath_of_con]

Sana - if I could do some of that stuff... I wouldn't leave the house! ;-)

[Faye]

I'm with Sana on this one, I can't always be bothered with it, so I don't care if he take care of himself.

[dreamgirl]

i think it's fine... I like to watch too. I know he likes to watch me do that to myself.

[Taleigh21]

I also like to watch, but he barely does it when I ask him to watch. I find it interesting...wish I had a schlong sometimes!

[wrath_of_con]

Sometimes its different if she is watching... thats almost like foreplay.

I'm curious how you feel about, for example, waking up one morning and hearing your guy spank his monkey in the bathroom without you?

[Puddles]

I don't mind him jerking it if he's getting me off equally or letting me get him off as much, but if he's jerking it more than half of the time I get pissy. I have a very high sex drive but I don't get myself off nearly as well as he can get me off so I get jealous that he can get himself off and be satisfied. I'd rather give him a blowjob than know he's just getting off by himself. I don't mean that I don't want him to never get off without me, but at least let it be equal to the time he's with me.

On a PMS rampage a few months ago I flipped out and destroyed almost all of his porn movies on video tapes. Sometimes I just get really pissed off if I'm not getting it as much as I'd like to and when I know he's been getting himself off alone a lot it pushes me over the edge. That has been the only thing that's pissed me off enough to fight with him for years. I know it's silly, but it's how I am. When I look at it with a clear head I know I shouldn't be this way, especially when my orgasms are 10 to 1 compared to his when we're fucking, but it still gets my goat at times.

Other times it's a turn on when I know he's horny and is taking matters in his own hands and it just makes me want him even more. I'll see the history on the computer and I love it when I can see what movies he's downloaded. I'll watch them myself and get off too, but it's never nearly as good as being with him. Maybe if he wasn't such a good lover I wouldn't mind as much.

This is a very touchy subject for me. Grrrrrr!

[hitmansb]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
When I look at it with a clear head I know I shouldn't be this way, especially when my orgasms are 10 to 1 compared to his when we're fucking, but it still gets my goat at times.

Glad to see that you realize this...

So, technically, he's entitled to get off 9 times without you for every one time he gets off with you.

Of course, if you're right there and willing and he choses to get off without you instead...THEN, you gotta problem. But if you're not around, or not in the mood at that given time...it's only fair.

[Puddles]

That's the thing...I'm rarely not available and I'm always in the mood (baring surgery or hospitalization, something major to keep me from being myself). I'd be happy with him getting me off once or twice to his one time...he's the one who continues to get me off before him getting off when we're together. If he got me off once or twice and then wanted me to blow him, I'd be absolutely fine with that. It's his choice to keep me cumming over and over again. I'm usually the one who says it's time for a break...which means gimme a few minutes to rehydrate and let me finish him off.

This morning I took a drive to do stuff because I knew he hadn't had time alone in the morning in a while...figured he'd want some private time. I called him to tell him I'd be gone for a while. I could have been back in 5 minutes but I gave him an hour alone. I'm not stingy. I understand a guy wants time alone. It's just when the proportions get outta wack that I get pissy.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by hitmansb
Glad to see that you realize this...

So, technically, he's entitled to get off 9 times without you for every one time he gets off with you.

Of course, if you're right there and willing and he choses to get off without you instead...THEN, you gotta problem. But if you're not around, or not in the mood at that given time...it's only fair.

I think what gest me most about the situation is that he gets off easilly alone, whereas I don't. I mean, yeah, I can cum in a minute if I want to usually, but it's not nearly as intense as when I'm with him. It does not satisfy me. Does that make sense?

[wrath_of_con]

Thanks for sharing MrsPuddles. From the little time I've been on this forum you seem to be super open with your husband, swingers, etc. So it surprised me when you described your episode of getting so pissed off. Something similar happened awhile back with my lady and I. In my opinion, that level of being pissed off is uncalled for in that situation. It wasnt like your guy (or me with my girl) was having sex with anyone else without you(her) being there.

So that has been in my mind for awhile and thought I'd get other ladies opinions of it here. And I appreciate everyone's input.

Ladies we arent trying to hurt you when we are polishing the german helmet... we maybe just want a quick burst.

[tantra74]

As long as it's not replacing sex it doesn't bother me. I like to watched but he gets embarrased if I sneak in and watch so he doesn't do it if i'm around. His loss.