Orgasm issue

[redsquirrel]

Ok, so here's the problem. First of all, I am the heaviest I have ever been...(not fat, but made great gains with current cycle), and I do have a very sensitive clit right now.. Well, my husband and I have had sex twice now this week. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to climax. When we get into my favorite assumable position, (On top) it's just really awkward and somewhat painful on my hips. See, I like to rub the clit (especially now that it is super sensitive) simultaneously as I get to orgasm. Well, it's obvious there is a detrimental effect on my ability to orgasm. Now, my husband isn't the largest...and Tuesday, he got in the shower and I got my toy out to orgasm, and did. Tried sex again last night, still not able. Only this time, he didn't get in the shower.....and yes, I am too shy to do it in front of him.

Does anyone have any other suggestions? It feels the best when I am on top...but I feel so huge and it is almost cumbersome to have sex. My sex drive is through the roof, and I can't cum!! WTF!:cursin:

[believer]

What about oral? Works like a charm for my wife.

[bonebreaker]

If you use and depend on your"toy" too much, it will desensitize your clitoral area and normal sexual activities will fail to produce enough stimulation to give you the desired effect you want--TO CUM. Use toys sparingly, otherwise this problem will get worse. Also, you're thinking too much about being too large and that's putting a block on your ability to finish. Men create a similar problem when they masturbate. Usually when a guy masturbates he wants to "get there" asap. This creates a problem with premature ejaculation when he has real sex. So guys, if you whack off too often, it gets harder to maintain any length of service for your partner, unless you're taking an hour to whack off and are training yourself to last longer. BB

[redsquirrel]

I'm not a big oral person. I really prefer intercourse.

[redMachchick]

You sound like you definately have to have your clit stimulated to cumm....I am the same way.

try this...

While in the missionary position, rub your clit (masturbate) while he is inside you....I like my man to thrust SLOWLY, while I am squeezing him tighter and tighter with every thrust....it gets me off really hard and quick LOL. I think you should cum but also feel him better in this position. I know missionary sounds boring, but I think it feels the best to me, when I am in missionary position I feel like I can feel everything and I'm laying on my back and can play with myself easier. Works everytime for me!! LOL

Don't be shy to pleasure yourself in front of your man!!!! Its fun and he'll like it!! Just tell him if hes going to watch you, then you get to watch him!!! And thats pretty fucking HOTT too!! Anyway hope this helps!!

:D

[redMachchick]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
If you use and depend on your"toy" too much, it will desensitize your clitoral area and normal sexual activities will fail to produce enough stimulation to give you the desired effect you want--TO CUM. Use toys sparingly, otherwise this problem will get worse. Also, you're thinking too much about being too large and that's putting a block on your ability to finish. Men create a similar problem when they masturbate. Usually when a guy masturbates he wants to "get there" asap. This creates a problem with premature ejaculation when he has real sex. So guys, if you whack off too often, it gets harder to maintain any length of service for your partner, unless you're taking an hour to whack off and are training yourself to last longer. BB

I wouldn't say that...we both masturbate alot...especially him and he still lasts a LONG time, sometimes it takes him FOREVER to cumm!!! I love my vibrator, but still enjoy the real thing better...I can get off both ways....LOL But everyone is different.....

[redMachchick]

ooh that just made me think of another one!!!

try this one....

either missionary or spoon position(laying down, him behind you, you on your side). I think it is easier like this when we are spooonin.... Get your vibrator and WORK IT girl while he is thrusting inside you...let me tell you it feels SOOOO good!!! I can cumm all day like this!!! :D :3some:

[redsquirrel]

Originally posted by redMachchick
You sound like you definately have to have your clit stimulated to cumm....I am the same way.

try this...

While in the missionary position, rub your clit (masturbate) while he is inside you....I like my man to thrust SLOWLY, while I am squeezing him tighter and tighter with every thrust....it gets me off really hard and quick LOL. I think you should cum but also feel him better in this position. I know missionary sounds boring, but I think it feels the best to me, when I am in missionary position I feel like I can feel everything and I'm laying on my back and can play with myself easier. Works everytime for me!! LOL

Don't be shy to pleasure yourself in front of your man!!!! Its fun and he'll like it!! Just tell him if hes going to watch you, then you get to watch him!!! And thats pretty fucking HOTT too!! Anyway hope this helps!!

:D

I have came like that before, but you're right- it is a bit more boring...But, on the other side of the coin, it can be very passionate. In fact, it sounds almost identical to what I suggested or thought of post non-orgasm. I told him tonight or tomorrow we are doing it that way!!!

In all honesty, I have no desire to watch him choke the boloney poney....LOL..

[redMachchick]

I didn't say it was boring...it is my favorite....there is nothing sexier than seeing my man on top of me and having him close to me body to body....yum:D

[lxorl]

:worthless :)

[drgoodbody]

Missionary and rub your clit - does it every time for MrsG and it excites the hell out of me too!

Sometimes she'll also stick a finger in her ass while I'm in her missionary and be rubbing her clit with the other hand! HOLY SHIT that gets me QUICK and I usually last a good long time. Something to think about (if you like anal too that is).

DrG

[redsquirrel]

I DO like it when he plays with it...But I'm trying to visualize how she can get her finger into her ass lying flat on her back. I have gotten off that way before, but it just seems to take longer, and it doesn't to seem to go quite as deep.

BUT, I'd obviously rather orgasm than not!!!

[redMachchick]

DRGOODS also got a good one!!

Its possible....you just gotta know where to place your arm and hand. I do it kind of from the side, (kind of) its not the most comfortable though. Or just have your man do it for you, I love it when he plays with my ass while hes on top of me.... :D

While we're still on the anal subject, what about a toy in your ass (I prefer a butt-plug) and to be fucked at the same time....I betcha you will cummmm!! I do anyway.... its just another suggestion....:D

[Puddles]

Red, since you're bigger, being on top may not be the easiest way for you to climax. You need to relax, so get on your back, spread your legs, rub your clit, play with your nipples, and let your guy pound into you. Then after you've cum, go for another, only this time, use your toy on your clit instead of your fingers while he's thrusting deep inside you at the same time (don't forget to play with your nipples some more).

If this doesn't work, let me know and I'll come over and help out. ;)

[drgoodbody]

Red got it right! That's basically how she does it, from the side reaching around, while I keep her knees pinned up high. Mrs & I also have used a set a of graduated (the go from small to big) anal beads in her ass while I hit it missh. I can also feel the pressure from the beads or her finger under my cock and oh god it makes it hard for me not to cum.... :)

Try a few things and let us know how it goes.

DrG

PS: Red your pix are too hot for words!