Advice...breaking one of my main rules.

[Turbo3000]

I will try and make this as short as possible.

My ex and I were trying to work things out, we have a huge rocky past. I caught her the other day talking to a guy I told her she could never have contact with anymore. Considering she lied for two years about sleeping with him, to my face everyday. I do love her but I think it is more sexual the emotional.

I usually date girls my age or older. I have never liked younger girls because most of the time they are immature. I met this great girl the other day, she looks older then she is, but she is just great. We have great conversations and I just have had fun talking on the phone with her. She is in highschool though and I am 21.

This isn't a "I just want some sex thing", I know some people will perceive it as that. I do like this girl. We have talked and talked about the age situation and I don't care about it anymore.

Just wanna see what you guys think.

[K409G]

Thats funny, I was in the same situation. Im 21 and Ive always dated older girls. And although this girl was 18, legal and hot, ultimately I found out there really is a maturity difference. A 3 year difference is not much, but the difference from a high school chick and a 21 yr old is a big difference. My advice is to test it out for a while and dont get too involved. And remember that her friends will eventually become your friends. Do you really want to hang with H.S. kids?

[Turbo3000]

She doesn't expect me to hang out with her friends. We already established that. I am out of HS and I am not going back. She has her life and I have mine. The thing is finding a medium to bring the two together.

[beeza]

I don't see anything wrong with it. In fact I'm no longer in high school, but my girlfriend is 21 and im 18:D We have been together for almost 3 years, and have never had any issues with maturity. Although I dont act like most idiot kids my age either :)


-Brian

[Puddles]

Turbo...go for it. If she's sweet, if she's someone you like, then don't let the age difference stop you. I'm 2 1/2 yrs. younger than Stromba and we met when I was still in H.S. We had a connection though and even got married just a few months after I got out of school. That was almost 20 yrs. ago and we have no regrets. Getting together so young allowed us to grow together, we shared so many experiences together, it's now like we've always been in eachothers lives.

Good luck! :)

[BIKER_GIXXER]

Personally, If I was 21, I wouldn't entertain the idea of dating a HS girl, but that's 'me', everyone is different. Go 'slow', take your time. This is a situation you don't want to rush.

[TheStromba]

Make sure she is at least 18 if you are gonna give her the salami.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by TheStromba
Make sure she is at least 18 if you are gonna give her the salami.

Good advice but I'm glad you didn't wait!

Actually, find out what the laws are in your state...you don't want some angry parent pressing any charges against you.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by Turbo3000
She doesn't expect me to hang out with her friends. We already established that. I am out of HS and I am not going back. She has her life and I have mine. The thing is finding a medium to bring the two together.

well, why wouldn't you? they're only three years younger. i mean it's not like they won't be into some of the same things as you. not sayin to hang out with them everyday but once in a while ain't bad. k409 is right about getting too involved. she is 18 and will probably want to have fun especially out of high school. all the parties you ain't willing to go to she will be, and that may start arguments.

[GearTripper]

Originally posted by Turbo3000
She doesn't expect me to hang out with her friends. We already established that. I am out of HS and I am not going back. She has her life and I have mine. The thing is finding a medium to bring the two together.

would the happy medium be "sex"? ;)

[Turbo3000]

Originally posted by psyko1
well, why wouldn't you? they're only three years younger. i mean it's not like they won't be into some of the same things as you. not sayin to hang out with them everyday but once in a while ain't bad. k409 is right about getting too involved. she is 18 and will probably want to have fun especially out of high school. all the parties you ain't willing to go to she will be, and that may start arguments.

I never said only 3 years difference. A tad more.

She is very sweet to me, we are really hitting it off. We are going off tomorrow night to get some dinner.

My ex that I was talking about was just here picking up some stuff she left. I love this girl to death and would do anything for her. But we have hurt each other so much in the past. And then I caught her talking to the one guy on the world she wasn't suppose to talk to, just last week. I am pretty hurt by it. We have great sex but we usually fight everyday about something minor. She is beautiful and sweet sometimes but she is a firecracker. I just don't think her and I mesh together.

[Turbo3000]

bump

[Puddles]

Turbo, based on the lies and fighting I doubt that you can have a serious relationship with her, but it does sound like you two can have a good time together if you just see eachother occasionally and don't get possessive. Just dating eachother from time to time without any expectations of the relationship developing farther may work. It doesn't sound like she's ready for commitment. If you could handle just a friendship/fuck buddy relationship you could have a good time. Meanwhile, keep yourself open to finding a girl who's looking for the same kind of committed relationship as you are.

[Turbo3000]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
Turbo, based on the lies and fighting I doubt that you can have a serious relationship with her, but it does sound like you two can have a good time together if you just see eachother occasionally and don't get possessive. Just dating eachother from time to time without any expectations of the relationship developing farther may work. It doesn't sound like she's ready for commitment. If you could handle just a friendship/fuck buddy relationship you could have a good time. Meanwhile, keep yourself open to finding a girl who's looking for the same kind of committed relationship as you are.

Thanks MrsP. I was waiting on your thoughts. I think I have found a great connection with the younger girl. I just think my ex has a lot of problems and I can't solve them. I do love her and always will. It is just hard to say goodbye. This new girl is just been so great. We adore each other, and I have gotten over the age thing. Her parents are starting to warm up to the idea. They can see that I am a gentleman and I treat her good. I am usually all about the sex in a relationship, but for some reason I am not concerned about it with her. She is a virgin and I respect her decision, she knows I have had quite a few partners and is ok with that. She also knows that I would never pressure her into doing anything she didn't want to do. Her and I have been conecting on so many levels.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by Turbo3000
Her and I have been conecting on so many levels.

That's what will make it work in the long run. It's not hard to find someone to just have sex with, but it's hard to find someone to have a relationship with. Take it slow and enjoy your times together. :)