honesty

[psyko1]

hypothetically speaking how many of you would tell your significant other if you cheated on them. would you keep it from them and hoped it went away? would you keep it from them to not hurt anyone's feelings, or would you come out and be honest about it? personally i have been cheated on and have cheated on some of my g/f's in the past. i really was never honest about it until i absolutley had to be. deny, deny, deny, i always thought, but i feel now that my next relationship i will be monogamous and should it ever occur i will be honest. it's only fair. just want to hear some opinions. (not get anyone in trouble)

[redMachchick]

Re: honesty

Originally posted by psyko1
hypothetically speaking how many of you would tell your significant other if you cheated on them. would you keep it from them and hoped it went away? would you keep it from them to not hurt anyone's feelings, or would you come out and be honest about it? personally i have been cheated on and have cheated on some of my g/f's in the past. i really was never honest about it until i absolutley had to be. deny, deny, deny, i always thought, but i feel now that my next relationship i will be monogamous and should it ever occur i will be honest. it's only fair. just want to hear some opinions. (not get anyone in trouble)

I don't think I'll ever cheat on my man, but if I did, I would tell him...I love him too much not too.

[JUICE]

Re: Re: honesty

Originally posted by redMachchick
I don't think I'll ever cheat on my man, but if I did, I would tell him...I love him too much not too.

same here, i would cheat no matter whta on my girl

[TheStromba]

I could never cheat. And theoritacally if I did, It would show on my face right away.

I could never live with baggage on my conscience like that.

[redneck99]

Originally posted by TheStromba
I could never cheat. And theoritacally if I did, It would show on my face right away.

I could never live with baggage on my conscience like that.

No doubt, totally guilty conscience with me too.

I don't think I could cheat at all, anyway. I've been cheated on way in the past, fuckin' sucked. Shitty feeling.

[bad14u]

I have cheated on just about every girlfriend I have ever had!!! I have always gotten away with it too!!! Just in my nature I guess!!! I can't help it!!!

[Lexi]

I always find out if I have been cheated on. Has something to do with intuition, but whatever.
I did cheat on past bf's (I was young as hell) but when I got cheated on, I didnt like the feeling, so I decided I'd never make someone feel that way.

Plus mister Doom would have me "wacked" as I'd do to him if I ever caught wind of him doing any of that LOL
:rofl:

[Lexi]

Oh and to answer the question, I prefer the person to be honest because either way somehow, I will know.
If he's that good of a player, then I will figure that out too...
I spend NO time on anyone who disrespects me that way.
Cant keep your dick in your pants? Then you wont be getting in mine.

[candle25]

The idea of being honest is a noble and comendable one, but some things do more harm than good. I understand that if you did creep, and your partner found out about it from someone else, it could get very ugly but that is just something you have to consider before doing it. Unles one is bound by a religious faith, all that is left to dictate monogomy are moral standards. I personally do not overthink things I do. If I were being Freudian I'd say I function mostly from the Id...lol. If it feels good, looks good, or I like it....I do it. I think it is totaly possible to have a great relationship with more than one person as long as everyone understands the boundries and limitations of such.

To answer the question: If your partner won't freak and you are ok with her/him doing the same, tell them. If not, you better keep it on the low and keep your game tight...lol.

[TheStromba]

Originally posted by bad14u
I have cheated on just about every girlfriend I have ever had!!! I have always gotten away with it too!!! Just in my nature I guess!!! I can't help it!!!

What goes around comes around bro.

Perhaps when you least expect it.

[LOCO]

Originally posted by Lexi
I did cheat on past bf's (I was young as hell) but when I got cheated on, I didnt like the feeling, so I decided I'd never make someone feel that way.

that's pretty much what happened in my case too...

[bad14u]

Originally posted by TheStromba
What goes around comes around bro.

Perhaps when you least expect it.

Me being cheated on first by the girl I thought I was going to marry is what I believe started this whole viscous cycle!!! So I know how it feels Bro!!!

[RobertEAustin]

the best way to eliminate the idea of cheating is by exploring your fantasies openly with your partner. that way each of you are honest about your desires, you get to act out your fantasies together, and by doing that your relationship grows and becomes stronger. just my two cents.

i could never cheat, though. i can't lie worth a damn.

[Shibby]

Originally posted by TheStromba
I could never cheat. And theoritacally if I did, It would show on my face right away.

I could never live with baggage on my conscience like that.

I don't think you count in this thread :3some: <----- duh. You have a great woman.

[Shibby]

As far as telling or not, you might as well. You never would have done it if you cared that much about loosing the significant other. I guess my point is, if you go through with it in the first place, something is a disconect with your relationship anyways and maybe it's not ment to be.