Trip...

[Shibby]

refering back to this thread Someone told my why kickboxing worked well for me is not that I have issues with uncontrolable anger but more I hold to much in until it errupts. What's this sound like to you.

[Doom]

hmmm, maybe I should start fighting again, indoors that is, with a ref

[njjuicer]

when i sue dot box i found i was gettin in less otuside (fighting)trouble i guess bettin ppl up regularly in the ring was good for me lol but i dont have add or anytihng liek that im sjut an angerifed person and it takes next to notihng to set me off hehe

[Doom]

yea, thats why maybe if I can let the anger out legally on a daily basis, I wont have the Chronicles of Doom, every other week

[Racer814]

Originally posted by Doom
yea, thats why maybe if I can let the anger out legally on a daily basis, I wont have the Chronicles of Doom, every other week

I enjoy the chronicles of doom...

[trip]

Holding too much in until it errupts?

Well, do you errupt? And if so how often?

Answer those and we'll see.

In general though, could be wrong, don't thing there's any real issues lurking here. Explain, later.

[Shibby]

rarely erupt. Usually I look at it not being worth it to get that mad about. But my dad will keep beating a dead horse and that's when I let go i guess.

[trip]

Shibby,

Without making a short story long, it's your father that most likely has a few issues.

He seems like he constantly tries to impose his value system upon you, that's very intrusive and emotionally annoying, so, yeah every now and then, on a bad day, your going to erupt a little. Since you don't do it elsewhere it's not a general problem, it's a specific problem, with only one person, and it's your dad's not yours.

In general his communication is not very good, he constatnly picks at you, which since your use to it, maybe kinda a feels like a mosquito buzzing around all the time, yet, eventaully every one tries too swat at the mosquito, perfectly normal.

Life in general is emotional not logical, and your fathers point of view is almost all logical, so eventaully there will be value conflicts, cause you have a sound basis and grounding of your emotions, which is fantastic at such a young age, and your father is different, and he constantly points out the logical.

Your all good.

Good Luck

[Shibby]

Thanks Trip. Maybe my dad and I should go see somone together. But at seperate sessions and let the professional give the input.

[trip]

Shibby,

Logical folks in general are not big on counseling, until they are in such enormous emotional pain due to the fact they have tried every logical solution and things just got worse, they end up at the end of the rope, and figure what the hell....

Don't think your dad is anywhere near that state.

Just try having a man too man with him, and point out to him, cause he is probably not aware, that 80% of the time he talks to you it is of a critical nature, always accusing you of being wrong, and that that hurts.......he should spend 80% of his time telling you what you do right, because that raises your confidence, creates trust in the relationship, and is a quicker way to help you grow, if he did this you would probably listen too a little of his advice, yet in general who listens to advice from someone who always criticizes.

And then, tell him you will point it out ever time he does it until it stops, cause it is only making your relationship worse not bettter, and doesnt' he want a better relationship?

Kinda catch my drift on that.

Now of course if his willing to go see someone that's cool, always opportunity to learn and grow.

any q's

[Shibby]

gonna send you a pm. Have something a little more personalt to add to this.

[Shibby]

done. Sorry, it's pretty lengthly but I figured I would just put it all out so we don't have to keep going back and forth and waste your time.

[njjuicer]

Originally posted by Doom
yea, thats why maybe if I can let the anger out legally on a daily basis, I wont have the Chronicles of Doom, every other week

what will we chat about then if we did such thigns LOL :angel:

[blm]

Originally posted by njjuicer
what will we chat about then if we did such thigns LOL :angel:

The Chronicles of njjuicer and the Killer Rats :rofl:

[Shibby]

Originally posted by blm
The Chronicles of njjuicer and the Killer Rats :rofl:

bwahahahha. Still one of my favorite sigs :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl: