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This was in a baby board that I am on today. I'm not shocked that this would happen. Here's what she said:
"I am so torn up over what I found out this morning. I just found out that my DH has been subscribed to this internet site where you can hook up with other people who just want to have sex. I saw a charge on our credit card recently for that site and asked him about it and he said that he was just checking it out because he suspected a friend of ours using our computer to go to porn sites. He said it needed a credit card for you to be able to check it out and that he already tried to cancel the charge. I didn't think anything of it until I decided to check out the website myself and found his profile with his picture in it. To make matters worse, I managed to get in his web-based email account and saw where he's been emailing these women that has responded to his ad & vice versa. He basically tells them that he's involved with somebody else but that "sex is the last thing in her mind right now" and that he's just looking for discreet casual sex.
I was crying about that this morning and I'm still trying to keep myself together at this point. I'm due pretty much any day now, and my DH has been the sweetest and most supportive person throughout the whole pregnancy. He's always reasssuring me how pretty I still am (I didn't really get fat, just gained normal pregnancy weight), never lets me carry anything, always helping me get up, gone to all the birth classes with me, etc. I just don't know how to take what I discovered this morning. Now, everytime I look at myself and my big belly I feel like bursting into tears because my condition is keeping us from having sex and now he's looking elsewhere for it and lying to me about it.
Should I confront him about it or just pretend I don't know and try to somehow not give him a reason to look elsewhere? Is this a typical male reaction or am I just overreacting to the situation?"
"I am so torn up over what I found out this morning. I just found out that my DH has been subscribed to this internet site where you can hook up with other people who just want to have sex. I saw a charge on our credit card recently for that site and asked him about it and he said that he was just checking it out because he suspected a friend of ours using our computer to go to porn sites. He said it needed a credit card for you to be able to check it out and that he already tried to cancel the charge. I didn't think anything of it until I decided to check out the website myself and found his profile with his picture in it. To make matters worse, I managed to get in his web-based email account and saw where he's been emailing these women that has responded to his ad & vice versa. He basically tells them that he's involved with somebody else but that "sex is the last thing in her mind right now" and that he's just looking for discreet casual sex.
I was crying about that this morning and I'm still trying to keep myself together at this point. I'm due pretty much any day now, and my DH has been the sweetest and most supportive person throughout the whole pregnancy. He's always reasssuring me how pretty I still am (I didn't really get fat, just gained normal pregnancy weight), never lets me carry anything, always helping me get up, gone to all the birth classes with me, etc. I just don't know how to take what I discovered this morning. Now, everytime I look at myself and my big belly I feel like bursting into tears because my condition is keeping us from having sex and now he's looking elsewhere for it and lying to me about it.
Should I confront him about it or just pretend I don't know and try to somehow not give him a reason to look elsewhere? Is this a typical male reaction or am I just overreacting to the situation?"
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