Anyone in a relationship ever venture into a 3-some once?

[rvgfrth4g]

1. Just curious if anyone here thats been or in a serious relationship has had a 3 some with there significant other (but only once)? And how did it turn out? I mean can you just have a 3 some once then it'll be like, "Been there done that." But I have a feeling if it is done once then it'll happen again.... And then if thats the case it could end up messy in the end with the relationship.

2. Also has anyone been in a relationship where ya'll had 3 somes when you're younger then later you grew out of it and you're still together?

Wanting to hear some people's experience....

[Puddles]

Can it be done only once? Sure. Will you feel satisfied with only doing it once? Probably not unless one or both of you didn't enjoy the experience. If you both enjoyed it, you'll want to experience it again. The couple could make an agreement beforehand to only do it once but if the experience was good, it'll be just like a bag of chips and having only one. Also, the first time you try it there will be some nervousness but subsequent times will be better and after your first time you'll sense that and it will weigh on ya to want to do it again under more relaxed circumstances if the first one was fairly good.

As for part 2 of your post, personaly, when we started we did it a lot more often than we do now. Although we haven't stopped, we've slowed it down quite a bit recently. Because of other things going on in our lives, I told Stromba that I'm not really interested in hooking up with anyone new right now and I don't even want to hook up with some of our usual friends. He understands and hasn't pushed me to change my mind although I know he'd enjoy it if I did. And even though I said I wanted to slow things down right now, I get the itch and want to be with a woman too.

Being involved in 3-somes isn't black and white. There are a lot of things that come into play. The couple has to be very open with eachother and completely honest in order for it to work well, your partner will know if you're not being open with them no matter how well you think you're hiding your feelings. There will be times when you both want it bad, other times either one or both of you will not want to be involved in it for one reason or another. You have to play it by ear and always respect your partner's wishes and feelings.

[lxorl]

done it in one way shape or form a couple of times.... couples mainly... and would say have more or less grown out of it. not agains it now, but not really looking for it anymore.

[Stonecold54]

both my last girlfriend and my now current wife seemed open to it but it is a lof about finding the right third person. I don't know if it will ever happen for me. I can only hope!!!! :D

[Tinfish]

I do not have any experience with this (unless paying for it counts)

But I felt compelled to post a reply. ;)

[Stonecold54]

:agree:

[Stonecold54]

Originally posted by Tinfish
I do not have any experience with this (unless paying for it counts)

But I felt compelled to post a reply. ;)

ya little bastard beat me too it. LOL

[Scotland]

Does the cat sitting at the end of the bed watching count?

Damn cat! He knows I have mad skillz! What's up kitty kitty.

[speedracer59]

My girl and I want to find another girl but it aint easy.

[rvgfrth4g]

Yeah, no kidding bro.

[dreamgirl]

we've talked about it, but it's like who could be the 3rd person? Then do you trust them not to say anything to people?

[bigfilla]

that was a correct statment by dreamgirl,
tried it once and it was great but i think you got to keep your focus on your wife so her feeling dont get hurt or just dont over persue the other woman.

[DangerousGround]

well 3 times but the girl in my relationship never knew.
We had sex in front of couples never penetration.

[VSweet]

We've been married for three years and together for six. We've had a number of threesomes and moresomes. It has really energized our lust for each other and I think that's why we keep doing it. But it involves a lot of trust. A lot. If we weren't confident in our relationship, I can see it being weird and becoming a mess. We've been lucky to hookup with couples and women who aren't in bad relationships and who don't have any hangups, but I think that is as big a question as whether or not your own relationship can handle it. You don't want to have an encounter with a crazy person or a couple with an abusive relationship. We've never really had a pre-arranged thing. It's always pretty much been random . . . out at a bar or restaurant, see a hot girl, etc. But we have been to a few "swinger" type clubs and parties where it was kind of expected and that definitely helps with the awkward "breaking of the ice." The other times it was just having drinks, hot girl dances with me, we kiss, kiss more, kiss and grope, grope more, and then I asked if she wants to go home with me and do it! hahahaha