Is this normal..

[Puma]

Well,

My GF came over this weekend, and unfortunately, was having her period (very strange, because she just had it 2 weeks ago, but this happens to her from time to time).. Sucked; I don't mind having sex with her on her period, but I don't want to eat her out..

Anyway, on to the story. She brought her vibrator over for the first time. It was alot of fun, we played with it, and she put it on her clit while we were having sex.. It felt great for me, but I think that she was too caught up in trying to have an orgasm to make me happy, and wound up not having one.

So, afterwards, we were talking about her vibrator, and she was telling me that she can make herself cum in 30 seconds usually with it when she is by herself. She said that she has had some orgasms from it that made her fall asleep so fast she still had the vibrator in her hand when she woke up in the morning.. So, I am thinking all of this is cool by me..

Then I started talking to my gym partner (a girl) and she told me about her vibrator.. She said she would not even want to have sex without it, and confirmed the 30 second orgasm thing. She said that she has the best orgasms from her vibrator..

Now, this is the part where I started to wonder. Do girls even like it when guys make them cum? Does it feel good when we eat you out and make you cum? Or would you rather just have your vibrator and be done with it in 30 seconds?

I am sure any guy will back this up, when we are horny and beat off, we can cum really fast too.. But the orgasms are almost never as good as they are with a girl.

So, I guess what I am getting at is.. I am kind of jelous of her vibrator. I want to be able to make her cum that fast too.. And am I just a poor second best to a piece of vibrating plastic?

I need some girls to chime in on this one..

And, before anyone flames, I realze I am total lunatic to even worry about something like this..

Puma

[Puddles]

Although I enjoy my toys a lot, they are a poor substitute for being with my man. Yes, I can cum faster just using a vibe alone, but it's not nearly as satisfying as being with someone you care about.

Just like guys can have regular orgasms or prostate stimulated orgasms, women have different kinds of orgasms too, depending on what is being stimulated. That's where the fun of using a vibe while you're having sex comes in, if a woman is lucky, she can experience two kinds of orgasms at the same time...talk about intense!

Guys can usually get off with manual stimulation alone when they masturbate, women usually like the help of something electronic since it takes most of them longer to cum than guys.

Don't worry about making her cum fast. Orgasms that are built up over a longer peroid of time are usually more intense and satisfying. Just enjoy being with her and doing for her what only you can do. The emotional satisfaction a couple gets from having sex together can not be compared to the more simplistic physical satisfaction achieved from using vibes or masturbating, they are two different things.

[Puma]

Thanks for the words Puddles.. That does help a bit..

Its just a bitch to think that she might be getting off better if I was not there at all.. That sucks, and it just does not hold true for guys at all.. Although I can jerk off and get a good orgasm, its nothing like the one a girl can give me (esp from oral sex)..

Damn it.. They need to come up with something as good as a vibrator for a guy.. I want to have orgasms in 15 seconds..

So, any suggestions on using the vibrator and sex at the same time? God, I was SO shocked when she put that thing against her. Not only can I feel it inside of her, but it feels really good.. I was stunned.. I did not think that it would really feel like much of anything.. Its pretty intense..

Also, any words of advice for what I should be doing as she is using the vibrator on herself during sex? What feels best, fast short strokes, long slow, a mix, just having a guy inside....

Need some help here! Got to hold on to this gf.. She can make puddles on my bed! :)

Puma

[Puddles]

Well, what kind of vibrator is it that she's using and how did she use it when she was with you? And...does she enjoy anal sex?

There is a good vibe that can be used by men and women, it's called a Hitatchi Magic Wand. It's used externally usually but there are attachments available for it too. It's got a high and low setting, and it's got a big soft head, probably 3" in diameter.

[TheStromba]

*Homer Simpson voice*

MMMMMMM Hitachi Magic wand.


Bro. don't worry about it. Nothing can replace being with and touching another person.

Most of us cum faster when we are alone for 2 reasons. IF you are by yourself you know just where to put the stimulation and when. There is also more tension when someone else is there and that usually slowes the orgasm process a bit.

For me, the Magic wand (yes you can use it too) is more stress relief than sex.

It is just not the same as being with someone you care about.

[Puma]

Well, that's a bit comforting.. Its just hard to understand how its possible to get off that fast for anyone.. I would love to be able to do that.. :)

My workout partner in the gym is a fucking headcase, and I realize this.. But she is always telling me she would never have sex again if her vibrator was not there. That's the thing that worries me. I think that sucks that the vibrator feels that much better for a girl then actual sex does (or oral sex, anyway)..

Every guy strives to give a girl the "best" orgasm she has ever had. And to think that your second not to a guy, but a little piece of plastic is a bit hard.

I'm sure its just the girl I workout with that fucking poisoning my head. She is in a shitty relationship and she just never has anything good to say about her partner or sex in general. So I can understand why she would never have sex without a vibrator. And I don't think that she ever gets off from oral sex, so that would be another reason..

So, anyway, I am done worrying about this.. I am just going to try to do the best that I can, and try to keep pushing her over the edge harder and harder as I learn her body better...

At least I have one thing over the vibrator.. It never makes her squirt.. :)

Puma

[redMachchick]

Re: Is this normal..

Originally posted by Puma
Well,

My GF came over this weekend, and unfortunately, was having her period (very strange, because she just had it 2 weeks ago, but this happens to her from time to time).. Sucked; I don't mind having sex with her on her period, but I don't want to eat her out..

Anyway, on to the story. She brought her vibrator over for the first time. It was alot of fun, we played with it, and she put it on her clit while we were having sex.. It felt great for me, but I think that she was too caught up in trying to have an orgasm to make me happy, and wound up not having one.

So, afterwards, we were talking about her vibrator, and she was telling me that she can make herself cum in 30 seconds usually with it when she is by herself. She said that she has had some orgasms from it that made her fall asleep so fast she still had the vibrator in her hand when she woke up in the morning.. So, I am thinking all of this is cool by me..

Then I started talking to my gym partner (a girl) and she told me about her vibrator.. She said she would not even want to have sex without it, and confirmed the 30 second orgasm thing. She said that she has the best orgasms from her vibrator..

Now, this is the part where I started to wonder. Do girls even like it when guys make them cum? Does it feel good when we eat you out and make you cum? Or would you rather just have your vibrator and be done with it in 30 seconds?

I am sure any guy will back this up, when we are horny and beat off, we can cum really fast too.. But the orgasms are almost never as good as they are with a girl.

So, I guess what I am getting at is.. I am kind of jelous of her vibrator. I want to be able to make her cum that fast too.. And am I just a poor second best to a piece of vibrating plastic?

I need some girls to chime in on this one..

And, before anyone flames, I realze I am total lunatic to even worry about something like this..

Puma

I like my toys, they are fun to play with, and this is going to sound weird, but I hardly EVER masturbate by MYSELF!! Its usually always with my man! Vibrators ARE fun, for me, from time to time...but I prefer to be with my man any day over a inanimate object. I would rather feel flesh against my body and warmth inside of me intead of a cold piece of plastic, but thats just my 2 cs. The orgasms are great from a vibe, but for me don't produce an orgasm like the ones my hunny can give me! Unless he is inside me and I'm using it on my clit, then they are out of this world!! Usually when I feel the need to use a vibe is when its late and I'm going to bed and not really sleepy...

Anyway I am sure your girl feels the same and would rather have you than a stupid old vibrator anyway. Maybe you guys should find ways to incorporate it into your sex life. Maybe the only reason your girl couldn't cum that night was because she was nervous about you watching her please herself??

Maybe you should try eating her, or fucking her WHILE using the vibrator on her clit, that way you both can be stimulated. OR have mutual maturbation sessions....you know, where she is pleasing herself while you are pleasing yourself! I gurantee she will forget all about you watching her please herself because she will be SoOO turned on watching YOU stroke yourself! Try it, its FUN!! Just a thought:D

[Puma]

Continuing adventures..

Well, I do kind of feel better. She was over last night, and finally off her period (she has a crazy cycle) so I ate her out like a madman and she came hard.. Really hard.. Didn't squirt, but she was ripping the bed apart when she came. It took her a long time, and she said she was upset about that, but I told her I like to do that to her.. And she was so wet afterwards that sex was like a dream..

We played with the vibe together the other night (not last night).. She could not cum but I think it was just because she was worrying too much about it. I was inside of her from behind, and she put the vibe against her clit. I have to tell you, that feels really, really fucking good for us.. Its makes your whole insides vibrate, and it was very difficult to control myself when she was doing it..

Kind of want some words of advice on that.. If she is using the vibe on herself, and I am having sex with her at the same time, what should I do? Should I be going fast or slow? And special technique I should be using to help her get off the best?

She is coming over tonight again.. I can't wait.. This girl is really awsome.. :) I love hanging out with her, and she is a fucking superstar in the bedroom..

Thanks for the advice everyone!

Puma

[redMachchick]

Re: Continuing adventures..

Originally posted by Puma


Kind of want some words of advice on that.. If she is using the vibe on herself, and I am having sex with her at the same time, what should I do? Should I be going fast or slow? And special technique I should be using to help her get off the best?

She is coming over tonight again.. I can't wait.. This girl is really awsome.. :) I love hanging out with her, and she is a fucking superstar in the bedroom..

Thanks for the advice everyone!

Puma

Puma....sounds like you really like this girl!:inlove: She sounds great! I can't really give you advice on how to please her because every girl is built different and we all have different ideas of what feels good or not. ( Personally I like it slow with or without a vibrator, and then after I've cummed I like it hard!) You should just ask her what she likes or even better when you are doing it...she'll let you know!:D (I'm sure you've already figured out the up and down part anyway) The most important part of having great sex with someone is being able to communicate and express to each other what you like and dislike and of course each others fantasies.

[Puma]

The up and down part? I am assuming you mean eating her out, and flicking my tounge like that against her clit.. Funny, that usually gets her off, but last night she was having trouble getting off like that, I started to go from side to side, and wham.. Like a frieght train..

Well, I am not sure she knows exactly how she likes it.. She says she has not had much experience with a guy and her vibrator at the same time. I will try the slow technique tonight with the vibrator tonight... I can't wait to see her.. 10 cannot come fast enough! :)

Puma