sex problem!

[andrewherkert]

Hello everyone,
I’m new on the forum and I’ve seen that you all are very intelligent, and I was wondering if I could get some help on a problem I have. I just got married to this wonderful girl. Her and I were both virgins and now that were finally having sex I can’t last longer than maybe 3 min. I always cum but my wife just doesn’t seem to.. I’ve done some research but to no avail. We’ve been having sex for at least 4 months now and I’m afraid she’s going to get bored of just me having all the fun…. WHAT CAN I DO!!!??

[Puddles]

That's fairly common in younger men and for men who have not been sexually active for long. This will pass in time. For now, you could try a few things. Wearing a condom will help cut back on some of the sensations you're feeling. There are also numbing creams like Delay that may help. You can try masturbating before you have sex with your wife. You can also strengthen your PC muscles to help gain control of ejaculation. You can change positions to find what is less physically stimulating for you. You can focus on giving her a longer session of oral before intercourse. You can practice holding back when you're alone and masturbating (this will take some practice but it's often the way to go). You can do this with your wife...learn to recognize the signals from your body and when you feel yourself getting close to the point of no return, stop intercourse and pleasure her differently, either with your fingers or orally or with a toy. It will take some work but your wife loves you and she understand what's going on, just make sure you talk to her about it. If while you're making love to your wife and you cum quickly take a break for a few minutes, do something to pleasure her (even erotic foreplay like sucking on her nipples, kissing her other body parts, etc. will keep her level of arousal up while you recover) and then try again after you've had enough downtime to regain an erection.

I'm sure the guys here will come up with other ideas. You can also do a search on Google for pemature ejaculation and you'll find a lot of info.

Congradulations on your recent marriage! :)

[dreamgirl]

i agree with Puddles... stimulate her before you cum... then you can last longer... and maybe she will cum. I am so glad to hear that she isn't faking an orgasm with you... that way you can learn what makes her feel really good. And you know that it's working!!! Oral to me is the best... it's really the only thing that makes me cum... fingers will to, and also if i rub my clitoris up against the outside of my husbands penis... i know that is graphic, but it feels good and it really hits in the right place... have her try that...

[JUICE]

Re: sex problem!

Originally posted by andrewherkert
Hello everyone,
I’m new on the forum and I’ve seen that you all are very intelligent, and I was wondering if I could get some help on a problem I have. I just got married to this wonderful girl. Her and I were both virgins and now that were finally having sex I can’t last longer than maybe 3 min. I always cum but my wife just doesn’t seem to.. I’ve done some research but to no avail. We’ve been having sex for at least 4 months now and I’m afraid she’s going to get bored of just me having all the fun…. WHAT CAN I DO!!!??

at times i cum around 3-5 minutes into it but because of all the foreplay and oral. But after that, nothings stops me, i keep on going and going. If I cum , i could go for another round or two. The most ive gone is 5 times cumming and still had energy to go on but no more time.


Just try to make her cum before sex, like orally or ever pleasure her without having intercourse. Because the thing is u gotta find ways, like finding ways on what works on her and what doesnt. Try different positions, angles, or even when she thinks shes coming dont stop go. She'd love u for that:)

[Tristram]

is this on or off cycle you that you can last that long iwth out a break?

[BIKER_GIXXER]

Have a few drinks so you don't cum so fast and 'talk' to her. Find out what she likes, what turns her on, any fantasies she might have. Don't assume you know what women like or want, they're all different. It's all about communication bro.

One thing I know women like is anticipation, drives them wild. Find out what she likes, do it for a little bit, then take it away. *wink* Trust me on this one...

[psyko1]

try taking yourself to edge. right beforeyou cum your heart starts beating faster and you start getting a little shorter of breath. focus on breathing in deeply and slowly through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. make sure you DON'T cum, the point is to get yourself to that point but not go all the way. squeeze you pc muscle as hard as you can to keep yourself from cumming. when the sensation ends do it all over again. it's good that you waited till marriage, i wish i would have. and don't worry about it. it's mostly all mental, just go into it not worrying if you'll make her cum or not. not all women cum ALL the time. you're getting too anxious, and nervous and that's making you not last too long. do what the above said and just focus on the intimacy. good luck.

[soprano9mm]

1. start jerking off all the time
2. use condoms
3. eat her pussy before sex
4. lick her taint and ass before sex

[jmac2222]

Re: sex problem!

Originally posted by andrewherkert
Hello everyone,
I’m new on the forum and I’ve seen that you all are very intelligent, and I was wondering if I could get some help on a problem I have. I just got married to this wonderful girl. Her and I were both virgins and now that were finally having sex I can’t last longer than maybe 3 min. I always cum but my wife just doesn’t seem to.. I’ve done some research but to no avail. We’ve been having sex for at least 4 months now and I’m afraid she’s going to get bored of just me having all the fun…. WHAT CAN I DO!!!??

I dont see the problem here?

[Puma]

Ok.. I agree with all but number 4.. I have never fucked around with licking someone's ass.. Do girls really like it that much? I would not really mind doing it, especially since I am pretty much convinced that if my girl shits, she takes a shower at the same time.

Ladies, need an opinion here.. Do you like it that much, or is it a waste of time. Also, is it going to flip my girl out (in a bad way) when I do that for the first time..

Thanks,

Puma

Originally posted by soprano9mm
1. start jerking off all the time
2. use condoms
3. eat her pussy before sex
4. lick her taint and ass before sex

[BIKER_GIXXER]

Originally posted by Puma
Ok.. I agree with all but number 4.. I have never fucked around with licking someone's ass.. Do girls really like it that much? I would not really mind doing it, especially since I am pretty much convinced that if my girl shits, she takes a shower at the same time.

Ladies, need an opinion here.. Do you like it that much, or is it a waste of time. Also, is it going to flip my girl out (in a bad way) when I do that for the first time..

Thanks,

Puma

Never came across a girl that didn't like it.

[GunzInCali]

Al Bundy style.

[Matt76]

Well while your going at it start doing long division in your head. Seriously this works. Luckily I don't have to do it anymore that shit is hard:D

[BodyJBbuild]

i can go at it for as long as i want before i cum....went for 2hrs already and the girl was sore....bc she cameand i kept going...couldnt stop lol

[GurlieGurl]

To be totally honest with you obviously if she married you she loves you, and altho we can all say pleasure is a good thing, guys get the idea too much that, that is what its all about. To share a momment with her like that means a lot to her and i dont think it matters how long you last, its the fact that you are sharing something so special with her.