i think i'm doomed to be alone

[mastakillah]

bjbabe, you sucked off your boyfriends best friend...............of course he was gonna break up with you! hahaha j/k

[JUICE]

Hey bro but why did u all split. I know she would tell u bad stuff like the word "sucks' and all. Like me ive heard that from my girl at times. The im boring and we need to go out more. She would tell me all i think about is working out and my body. At times we wouldnt do stuff, I would take her out to eat, bowling, and maybe a movie or 2 a month. But , I also felt it like if it was too slow at times.

What I started doing is giving her space, to think about her too. Chicks need that, time to be alone. I dont mean not see her for weeks, but like a pattern 1 day yes, 1 day no, 2 days yes, and so on. She also would tell me that we would always do what i wanted and go where i wanted. I had to listen to her, when she wanted to go out somewhere I had too take her and took her. That in a way made it better.

Also what helps is not talking about the same things over and over. Thats something i learned bro, i did thta mistake, bored the hell out of her too. But now i talk about alot of things.

I try not to call her alot too, only 1 or the most 2 calls per day too. You gotta make her feel like if she needs u too, so therefore her calling u too. I love it when my girl calls me too.

But, there are alot of reasons why thinks happen and relationships end. All people are different. Like girls being like that, some guys are like that too.

Sorry to hear that bro, just stay strong and like the saying goes "oNLY TIME WILL TELL", in meaning that just wait she will come back to u bro. Try to call her once in a while too, keep in touch as friends, at least u have her there.:D

[7lok4]

Sounds like you made a move a lot of people don't dare to make. That takes guts. You will be better in the end for having done it. Most people let their relationships go down in flames until there is no choice. Keep your head up.

[bhcpp]

I had to do the same thing this week. I had to cut my girlfriend loose after being together for a year. She wasn't just my lover but my best friend as well. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in a relationship. Our relationship was not working and I knew it would never improve. It was rough I just disappeared out of her life. I won't have to see her again or worry about running into her with someone else because we live in different cities. So anyway I know what you are feeling, I love her and really miss her but I have to tough it out and not go back.

[Face]

Psyko, you did the right thing if you thought she would probably end up hurting you. Its better this way in the long run. I had a similar problem once upon a time, but i didn't break it off and she did end up hurting me, and I think its much worse that way.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by bjbabe
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j/k sorry to hear about that.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by bonebreaker
and finally I said to her, and I think it's the most pointed and cruel thing anybody could say to another, but I did it anyway. I said, "I would rather spend eternity alone in Hell than in Paradise with you". The line was quiet, then click

try telling a girl that she's the worst thing that ever happened to you. that'll end the conversation real quick.

[psyko1]

juice i gave her plenty of space, hell i really only saw her on the weekends. and i wasn't up her ass either i'd call her maybe like once a week if that:rofl: wow it never really dawned on me how that was kind of fucked up till i wrote it now. see she works mornings and i work afternoons. and for the last several weeks i've been working a hell of alot, like 60 hours a week so i'd never really have time till the weekend. but it's not like i didn't miss her, or think about her, she has strict parents so i can't really just see her at midnight during the week. i know the fact that i didn't really show my emotions hurt us too, it's amazing just how much it means to say "i love you" to someone. or tell them you miss them. well i do now. i actually saw her at the bar last night. she was with some of her friends who ironically were with some of my friends i was like :hmm: when i saw her. like oh great i'm gonna have a fun time tonight. but we actually ended up talking the whole time we were there. it felt good to talk to her again.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by beefcake
Well, I guess bjbabe and psyko should hook up now.

:idea:
well bj? we're both on the rebound ;)

[JUICE]

Originally posted by psyko1
juice i gave her plenty of space, hell i really only saw her on the weekends. and i wasn't up her ass either i'd call her maybe like once a week if that:rofl: wow it never really dawned on me how that was kind of fucked up till i wrote it now. see she works mornings and i work afternoons. and for the last several weeks i've been working a hell of alot, like 60 hours a week so i'd never really have time till the weekend. but it's not like i didn't miss her, or think about her, she has strict parents so i can't really just see her at midnight during the week. i know the fact that i didn't really show my emotions hurt us too, it's amazing just how much it means to say "i love you" to someone. or tell them you miss them. well i do now. i actually saw her at the bar last night. she was with some of her friends who ironically were with some of my friends i was like :hmm: when i saw her. like oh great i'm gonna have a fun time tonight. but we actually ended up talking the whole time we were there. it felt good to talk to her again.

now thats tough bro. I understand 100%. Yeah im going through something similar right now, not in fighting nor ignoring her but our jobs, school, and stuff. I go to school on M,W,F and she goes all day. I only have one class with her on M,W,F. IM out of school around 12pm and shes out at 11pm. She goes to her house to rest, i go home to eat and get ready for work at 2:30pm. The sucky thing is she got a new job at the mall, Foleys. So now its a little harder for us to see each other like before. Im trying my best to keep us tight. I call her everynight now. Oh forgot to mention that she goes to the gym with us, me and my sister. So i see her for about 2 hours on the evenings. Since her new job, she will go to the gym 3 times a week, and maybe a weekend. So its hard bro, but im hanging there.

But dont worry bro, if its meant to be u will get her back if not theres other girls out there that wont mind u working hard. Even better they will miss u more.:D

[Keiser]

Originally posted by psyko1
:idea:
well bj? we're both on the rebound ;)

If you and her start dating, i'll be your best friend for a day. :rofl:

[notopher]

If he wanted you to blow his friend, id say he never loved you and used you. thats too bad but unfortunately theres alot of assholes out there doing shit like that to women. your much better off without him and deserve better.

[psyko1]

Originally posted by Keiser
If you and her start dating, i'll be your best friend for a day. :rofl:

:eek:
:drunk:

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by psyko1
juice i gave her plenty of space, hell i really only saw her on the weekends. and i wasn't up her ass either i'd call her maybe like once a week if that:rofl: wow it never really dawned on me how that was kind of fucked up till i wrote it now. see she works mornings and i work afternoons. and for the last several weeks i've been working a hell of alot, like 60 hours a week so i'd never really have time till the weekend. but it's not like i didn't miss her, or think about her, she has strict parents so i can't really just see her at midnight during the week. i know the fact that i didn't really show my emotions hurt us too, it's amazing just how much it means to say "i love you" to someone. or tell them you miss them. well i do now. i actually saw her at the bar last night. she was with some of her friends who ironically were with some of my friends i was like :hmm: when i saw her. like oh great i'm gonna have a fun time tonight. but we actually ended up talking the whole time we were there. it felt good to talk to her again.

Question Psyko, so you do admit that you also had a fault on your relationship not working. Just by what i read you stated that you only called her once a week and that you never realized that by saying that you love her and that you miss can have such an affect. If you love this girl and she is the one. Then why don't you try working things out. It takes two to make the relationship work and by the looks of things you really did not help the situation either. When you saw her at the bar with her and your friends. Did it feel akward or did you enjoy her company. Did it make you realize that maybe she is not asking you for a lot. Or do you still feel that you need to let her go. I hope everything works out between you's two. Good Luck.

[Stonecold54]

Re: i think i'm doomed to be alone

Originally posted by psyko1
well people i'm alone again. it seems that i'll just never be happy. it's a shame really, i actually cared and LOVED this girl more than i ever have for anyone else. but you see i had to end it. what would you have done? if you see the person you love be so unhappy all the time. complaining about your relationship and how "we suck" every other day. i feel it was only a matter of time before she went out and hurt me so i had to say goodbye. i'm a strong believer in that if you really love someone then sometimes you just have to know when to let go. what scares me the most is that i'll not see her or talk to her again. i really miss her already but i guess i just have to grow up and walk it off. i mean there's no point in dwelling over it is it? i know she'll have a mourning period of about 10 minutes, then she'll probably go out and have fun. throughout all this i know she'll be happy so in a strange way that makes me feel good. i hate for her not to be happy. sorry to just go on about this, i just had to get it off my chest.

it took me well over a year to get rid of my feelings for an ex of mine who I dated for about 2 years. even after I started a new relationship. its tough.