Swingers

[Ditsz]

Right, now I know Mrs P and Stromba share a bit and 'ol Timber is keen on this topic, but how about the rest of you?

Hubby and I have tossed the idea around a bit, however we still wonder whether it will be a let down to try out the fantasy, does it then become not so exciting once you've done it?

Do you think it would be better with strangers or people you know? Or is a 3some better?

Do you think it could ruin a relationship long term? What if one of you was really attracted to the 3rd party?

Give us the Goss.....:3some:

[jipped genes]

i would entertain the thought of having another woman with us but i dont think i could share my wife with another man.

[Puddles]

Just to clarify...we don't swing. We only do 3-somes where another girl is involved. :3some: I already have a man who satisfies me better than any new guy could so I have no interest in being with another guy, but I am bi so getting together with another girl is fun and different. Hubby is straight and enjoys (as probably any guy would) being with 2 girls at the same time. So, FFM 3-somes work well for us!

We enjoy the chase almost as much as the deed itself, but we've never done it with a stranger. It's hard to find someone who you can trust. You've got to make rules...and stick to them. If someone breaks a rule, foriveness and understanding are key in getting beyond it. If one of you feels it's not working out then you both have to be willing to stop and listen to how the other partner feels. Yes, it can ruin a relationship...not just for the couple, but if friends are involved, you may wind up loosing the friendship in the end if things go sour. If things go sour, it is hard to get over it, but as long as the couple is strong, they can work past any issues, just like any other part of their relationship. On the other hand, it can really be so much fun...and hot! If you can truly seperate your feelings of love and intimacy from sex...to enjoy it for purely the sexual gratification, the heat of the moment, thrill of it all...then it may be for you. Just keep it all in perspective and it should work out well. :)

[Ditsz]

Thanks Mrs P, never meant to imply you do swing, my apologies if it came out all wrong. ;0)

I agree with you totally with regards to "rules" being discussed and keeping it all in perspective in terms of it being sexual gratification.

May I ask you if you ever get jealous watching your husband with another woman? If you don't want to answer I understand.
;0)

[Puddles]

No, if I got jealous then we'd have to stop. To me it's a twofold pleasure when I'm watching him with another woman...one is seeing the gratification he gets from being with someone new and the other is that it's like watching my own private porn. Most of the time I'm participating rather than watching...however it is awesome to get completely wiped out, take a break and get to watch them go at it right next to me until I'm recovered enough to join back in the game. :D Same thing goes for him...there's only so much physical activity a person can do before needing a break...he'll get to lay back while the girl and I are busy having fun too. It's just a great time for everyone involved! Having a "helper" is excellent...I really enjoy it when two of us are both working on pleasuring one person...that extra mouth and set of hands comes in handy. ;)

[Ditsz]

Mrs P, Stromba is one lucky man to have a woman like you!!!

[Easto]

MrsP, what are your 3-some rules for you and Stromba?

[DJ_Rockett]

We do what's known as soft swing. and that is pretty much reduced to girl play. Watching, some touching, but mostly it's for the girls to play. Remember it's the women who make the rules anyway when it comes to this stuff!!!

[Gongshow]

gawd damn, what a lucky man

[Puddles]

Originally posted by Easto
MrsP, what are your 3-some rules for you and Stromba?

Rule #1 - We only play with her when we're all together. (ie. if one of us is alone with the person, no sexual interaction, but flirting is fine.)

Rule #2 - If something bothers either of us we need to discuss it.

Rule #3 - Have fun!

We don't have rules like...no kissing, etc.

[Easto]

Sounds like you two keep pretty busy :D

[Ditsz]

Mrs P, it sounds like you have an amazing relationship....

[Puddles]

We do...we're both very fortunate to have found eachother. This month we'll be married 19 yrs! :)

[Ditsz]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
We do...we're both very fortunate to have found eachother. This month we'll be married 19 yrs! :)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

Thats awesome, I admire how happy you two are - lots of hard work to get a relationship to where the 2 of you have it!

:D

[redsquirrel]

I admire your candor Mrs P- I know if it were me, there is no way I could get over the jealousy and feeling that he is cheating..I don't even know if I could ever come to enjoy watching. I have a lot of respect for you, girl!

And I know sonis WOULD NOT allow another guy to nail me!! So for sure no swinging..