This just pisses me off

[buccaneer19]

i've dealt with the same situation before living in an apartment with a friend in college, who let one of our friends freeload off of us. it didnt last too long before i freaked out, i hate that shit worse than anything.

[dreamgirl]

tell him he needs to leave and he has a month to find a new place. That's horrible that he is doing that to you 2

[springman1]

Outta here, he is taking advantage of your kindness. Boot his ass. You have done your good deed-you and your bf need some private time. The two of you be firm and tell him to get out together.

[redMachchick]

Honey, kick his lazy ass out!! He is definately a "mooch" and is obviously not a good friend. A good friend wouldn't treat you like that. My husband would have kicked his ass--especially for letting total strangers in my house (if we were in that type of situation)!! I sometimes think people should choose their friends more wisely...you two seem to be giving and nice people, and the sad thing is that there are a lot of people out there who can pick up on that and try to manipulate and take advantage of you. This guy needs some attitude from you two and needs to realize you are serious. If he isn't, take his shit and put it all outside on the curb. Hope it works out!:D

[INTIMID8OR]

Kick that losers ass out ...





And all this time I thought Bouncer lived with Sana ...:rofl:

[Megiddo]

Just as an addendum to my above post.

I was on the other end of a situation like this. I moved from Pensacola to Panama City with no place to live as the housing situation down here sucks nuts. A friend offered to let me stay at his house no catches. No problem I thought as it was only a two week stay at the most (turned out to be just that). I planned on giving them some money for food that I ate and I also helped my bro out around his house while my fiance was at work. The straw that broke the camel's back was dude's wife. She never likes to eat at home, which is why she is severly overweight, and somehow I got asked to buy pizza or something. First couple of times was fine as I felt that hey I'm getting a place to crash what are a couple of pies? Then we went out to eat one night and when the waitress asked how we wanted the bill split my boy's reply was "He's got it." when I gave him a WTF look he said "man I'm letting you crash at my place." I paid the tab and the next moring before anyone woke up I had my shit packed on my Hog and was out of there.

I'm not trying to protect your friend because he seems l,ike a cock but it can go both ways.

[monkeygirl]

Originally posted by Megiddo
Just as an addendum to my above post.

I was on the other end of a situation like this. I moved from Pensacola to Panama City with no place to live as the housing situation down here sucks nuts. A friend offered to let me stay at his house no catches. No problem I thought as it was only a two week stay at the most (turned out to be just that). I planned on giving them some money for food that I ate and I also helped my bro out around his house while my fiance was at work. The straw that broke the camel's back was dude's wife. She never likes to eat at home, which is why she is severly overweight, and somehow I got asked to buy pizza or something. First couple of times was fine as I felt that hey I'm getting a place to crash what are a couple of pies? Then we went out to eat one night and when the waitress asked how we wanted the bill split my boy's reply was "He's got it." when I gave him a WTF look he said "man I'm letting you crash at my place." I paid the tab and the next moring before anyone woke up I had my shit packed on my Hog and was out of there.


I'm not trying to protect your friend because he seems l,ike a cock but it can go both ways.

In that situation, they should never had said you could stay in the first place if they weren't willing to actually help you. It sounds like the wife sucked and rubbed off on her husband. Having someone stay in your house is never a picnic, but I think you need to be willing to be inconvenienced a little for friends. We have had several people stay here before when they were down and out- it has never been like this. They have at least helped me cook a meal or vacuum or offered to do SOMETHING. When I am a guest, I insist on helping out as much as I can.
I don't want to kick him out, I just want him to start respecting us. He gets one warning (which he had), and then he has to go. He's really not a cock, either. I actually believe that he doesn't think he's a total pain in the ass. I know that sounds hard to believe, but he's just oblivious!

P.S.- one of the strangers used the shower and my scrubbie and loofah!!!!:mad: "I want my two dollars!!!!!" (from Better Off Dead:D )

[Megiddo]

It's a tough thing to be hard on your friends for disrespecting you and your home. You want them to respect you but you also want to keep the friendship. Goodluck and just do whatever is in your heart to do in order to preserve the friendship as well as your sanity.

[shortz]

I had a friend stay with me that needed to "get back on his feet again" too. He told me that he was making $1200 every two weeks and that he would save his money up and within a month or two, should have neough to buy evreything he needed to move out. Now, keep in mind that he had no car payment, but said he was paying insurance. He only had to pay for grocery bills and gas. Well, within 3 months, I was fed up. Not with his attitude or anything, but just the fact that I was ready to live by myself again and something was obviously going on. I talked to the woman that he was saving money with (it was a friend that was helping him with his saving) and she said he had not given her any money.

Well, I came to find out that he was spending all of his money on stupid shit, was not making as much money as he stated, had no car insruance and had about $100 to his name. I gave him 1 week to get out. Yeah, I;'m a nice guy. He ended up moving in with a bad gruop of guys, wrecked his car, was in trouble with the law and was living in his car for a while.

I see him every now and then. He; selling drugs to get by, liviing with someone different every month and never shows up at his job. So, obviously he can't keep them.

BOUNCER is right, the situation will only get worse. Be careful too.

[Cory]

He's definitely a big time loafer. Like DG said, give him a time period to either get his shit together or hit the road. Good luck, monkey babe!! ;)