I need some input!!!

[redsquirrel]

I just found out that my sister, who is in her 3rd year of college, went from 12 hrs this semester down to 6!!! WTF! And she has NOT told my parents yet. SHe ended up dropping Geology on the last day to drop in the Spring semester last year and telling my parents after she dropped that!

The first class she dropped was Sociology for 3hrs once a week. She said she took an evening course before and it was no problem. This time she said she just never went. Sociology is a cake walk, IMO.

The second class was computers!! You know, like computers are becoming so obsolete nowadays. She said she got behind so she just dropped it.

She just started working @ Buffalo Wild Wings recently to make a little extra spending money. I'm sure that has something to do with it.

It wouldn't be such a big deal if my parents weren't footing the whole bill for her. I don't want to look like a backstabber, but that's my parents hard earned money!!! At $7500 per semester just for tuition, I feel like I just can't sit back and watch her blow their money. Then, on the other hand I don't want to betray her.

[sekcbeast]

Has she applied for financial aid? If she is receving aid then she must remain a "full time" student to keep getting the money. At my school full time is 12 hours. Also, is this her first college? I would kind of understand the dropping of classes if it is. Personally, I am at my third college and in my fourth major. But since she is in her third year, then she needs to just stick it out.

I dont think you would be betraying her if you told your parrents about it. When my parents found out about my problems, they gave me exactly what I needed.....a swift kick in the ass! LOL

[Stonecold54]

Re: I need some input!!!

Originally posted by redsquirrel
I just found out that my sister, who is in her 3rd year of college, went from 12 hrs this semester down to 6!!! WTF! And she has NOT told my parents yet. SHe ended up dropping Geology on the last day to drop in the Spring semester last year and telling my parents after she dropped that!

The first class she dropped was Sociology for 3hrs once a week. She said she took an evening course before and it was no problem. This time she said she just never went. Sociology is a cake walk, IMO.

The second class was computers!! You know, like computers are becoming so obsolete nowadays. She said she got behind so she just dropped it.

She just started working @ Buffalo Wild Wings recently to make a little extra spending money. I'm sure that has something to do with it.

It wouldn't be such a big deal if my parents weren't footing the whole bill for her. I don't want to look like a backstabber, but that's my parents hard earned money!!! At $7500 per semester just for tuition, I feel like I just can't sit back and watch her blow their money. Then, on the other hand I don't want to betray her.

its not betrayal. Don't worry about letting your parents know. Or just tell them to tell your sister that they got a call from the school or they were just checking up on her since they are paying for it. She needs to learn to be responsible with other peoples money or to be on her own. Life is hard, don't pussyfoot around with it or she will never learn.

[bjbabe]

Re: Re: I need some input!!!

Originally posted by stonecold54
its not betrayal. Don't worry about letting your parents know. Or just tell them to tell your sister that they got a call from the school or they were just checking up on her since they are paying for it. She needs to learn to be responsible with other peoples money or to be on her own. Life is hard, don't pussyfoot around with it or she will never learn.

Some schools have a law that they are not allowed to discuss any information regarding the student with the parents unless the students okays it.

Red

I would tell your parents especially if they are paying for your sisters school. If your sister gets mad at you i am sure she will get over it in a couple of days.
Good luck!

[Stonecold54]

Re: Re: Re: I need some input!!!

Originally posted by bjbabe
Some schools have a law that they are not allowed to discuss any information regarding the student with the parents unless the students okays it.

Red

I would tell your parents especially if they are paying for your sisters school. If your sister gets mad at you i am sure she will get over it in a couple of days.
Good luck!

I was just saying that they make it up, it doesn't have to be true. ;)

[bjbabe]

Re: Re: Re: Re: I need some input!!!

Originally posted by stonecold54
I was just saying that they make it up, it doesn't have to be true. ;)

Yes, i understand what you were saying, but either way her sister will know it was her that said something to her parents.

[Shibby]

It sounds like she is getting burnt out. I would talk to your sister and see if she is needing a break. Things arn't the same now as they were 10-20 years ago. Just getting your undergrad is not enough. So knowing in the back of your head that your third year is only about half way, canget discuraging. I wouldn't say she needs to a whole semester off, but maybe only enrolling in 6 hours will help her to get re-motivated.

[Face]

RS, I would talk to your sister and once again and see if you can't make her come clean with your folks, that would be the best outcome for all. However, if she still refuses to, then you should tell them. She is as good as stealing the money at the moment, I had a mate who used to do this, and believe me, if they think they can get away with it the situation can turn very grave indeed after a while. She needs to learn some responsibility.

Anyway, no one can know what to do in this situation as you are in it, and nobody else will truly understand the family dynamics. Good luck!

[Bouncer]

Well she may have done it for the better. Like she said, she may have been falling behind with all those classes last year.

[Keiser]

RS, there is nothing you can do, if shes burnt out with college and doesn't want to take classes & doesn't want to go to class then she won't.

Dropping classes adds years and years onto the amount of time you'll be in school.

[Tinfish]

*Tinfish thinking dirty*

You still need some input? ;)

[Cory]

I don't think you should get involved. Your parents need to deal with your sister if they are still supporting her. It's their job, not yours. All of this will eventually come to a head, and they will deal with her and the fact that she doesn't have her priorities straight.

[ROCKETW19]

Originally posted by Cory
I don't think you should get involved. Your parents need to deal with your sister if they are still supporting her. It's their job, not yours. All of this will eventually come a head, and they will deal with her and the fact that she doesn't have her priorities straight.

:agree: very true not trying to be a dick but its not your business. like cory said they will find out and deal with her.

[hitmansb]

Talk it out with her....

If she was legitimately burnt out, overwhelmed, ect...I'm sure you'll be able to pick up on it from the conversation. If that's the case, keep the secret...pushing her at this point might mean her dropping out altogether.

However, if you conclude that she's just slacking, or has her priorities messed up, then consider talking to your parents...but not before hearing her out and giving it some serious thought.

Remember, if you go to your parents prematurely or unduly, she will NEVER trust you again, and your relationship will be forever altered for the worse.

[Stonecold54]

the whole point of this thread is that Reds sister is sucking money from her parents for school she is not doing. Bottom line its the parents money and they need to be informed on how its spent or wasted.