losing interest questions

[rude]

Originally posted by JUICE
i dont really know if this is true or not but like the saying goes "u are who u hang out with". I know shes not like her friends but the view, like as in me seeing her with them, makes me think.

Thats very true what u say, in the begining theres love and all, u like the persons ways and all. But after a time, things just change. Its been happening to us recently.

Just let her go bro, I have known you on these boards for over 2 years now and your always having problems with her and her friends. If she was going to change she would have already. Can you imagine dealing with that crap for the rest of your life?

It seems like the only reason you all stay together is becuase you all have years invested in the relationship instead of staying together becuase you love each other.

I bet once you let her go, you will be better off in the long run :agree:

[buccaneer19]

Originally posted by rude
Just let her go bro, I have known you on these boards for over 2 years now and your always having problems with her and her friends. If she was going to change she would have already. Can you imagine dealing with that crap for the rest of your life?

It seems like the only reason you all stay together is becuase you all have years invested in the relationship instead of staying together becuase you love each other.

I bet once you let her go, you will be better off in the long run :agree:

i agree, but i know this is hard juice

[bad14u]

There have been a lot of good ideas thrown at you Juice, but you are the only one that knows YOU and what is good for YOU! Take some time off from one another, like a week or two! While you are apart the first thing you need to do is go and get a nice long massage to help release the tention that has built up in your body! After that, take a walk or a drive somewhere and think about about what you want, what you need, where you are, where you are headed! Ask yourself "Can I keep doing this for the rest of my life?" Continue to focus on yourself while you two are apart, but do not lose sight of what you want from her either. Everyone has their bad habits or quirks that can really get on our nerves but that is no reason to break up with them. As for friends everybody has a friend or two or fifty that we do not like. Sometimes you just have to grin and bear it and associate with them though. My gf has friends and relatives that I just absolutely hate, but you know what, I will associate with them once in a blue moon just so she knows I am trying.

When you two get back together, remember this....a relationship isn't 50/50! You both have to put in 110%. If you are giving your all and she is not and the tention starts to creep back in................GET OUT OF IT! To love someone is awesome but sometimes love is not enough!

Best of luck Bro!

[dreamgirl]

to me the relationship with my husband is easy. I don't have to do much at all to keep him happy... and fr him to keep me happy, I don't think he has to do much either.

I think of all the past relationships that I had and WHAT A PAIN!!! I'm so glad Im not with them. ALl the worrying and crying and fighting... I wouldn't want it.

So to know that a realtionship can be pretty easy and work out is wonderful. Maybe just keep that in the back of your head.

[dreamgirl]

you know what else? I just thought of...

I've had problems that I brought up with my friends about all my past bf's and we talked about how to resolve them... I don't think I ever did that with my hubby. Every once in a while I ask someone for advice but never complain about my hubby to them.

That's the difference.... wow, look at what I came up with today... it makes me feel good knowing this is who I married...

[JUICE]

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[Shibby]

I'm dreamgirl, look at me wooooooo :rolleyes:

[BBAddict]

Maybe I'm :ghey:, but I'm happy she's so happy. As long as I don't have to hear about all that romantic crap!

[Shibby]

No, it's that Juice has something important going on and she keeps talking about how happy and how great she thinks her life is.

[BBAddict]

Originally posted by Shibby
No, it's that Juice has something important going on and she keeps talking about how happy and how great she thinks her life is.

Yeah, I wasn't exactly sure how it pertained to the topic of Juice's decision. Unless she was saying if you're not happy all the time and you complain, then you can do better. If that is the case then I would think the divorce rate would be at about 99%!

[Primal Instinct]

Just hang in there Juice and know that we're here for you...