friendships

[house1]

you know this has been eating at me for a while --

i trained with a guy for over 3 years we were best friends my kids called him uncle shit he damn near lived at my house-- he was there at my side [at the hospital] when they thought i wasnt going to live through the night - he was like my brother
i trained him for a show in which he took the LH and overall -- he is a few weeks away from the jr nationals - i put more size on him then he thought was ever possible

my wife , my kids all love him! we did alot for him -- during this time i was watching him throw his life away - fucking around on his beautiful wife , just letting everything around him fall apart - so i told him everything is heading downhill for him if he continues on the path he is on --see when it comes to bodybuilding and the shows nothing else exists to him , bills, wife, etc,etc,
and in truth this is one guy that changes 200 percent when he is on!!

with the jr nationals coming up he was getting worse then ever as far as his marriage , bills, life as a whole -- so i told him -

well he turned his back on me , my family and the guys he was training with for the past several years - i am a big boy it is what it is but my kids ask where he is all the time - he treated my kids great , they miss him and thats what fucking burns me -- how the fuck after so many years can you turn your back on people and just walk away -

my hatred grows everytime i think about it -- i ended up moving his soon to be ex wife cause he left her high and dry for some pig -

i am hearing that he says things about me:mad: and the people he considered friends for so many years -

i want to pound his fucking head in but not worth it at this present moment but that may change-- someday he will heed the advice i gave him but it will be too late -- damage done -

i guess what it boils down to is that he was not a true friend in the first place -- he could have turned his back on me no problem but he turned his back on the 2 most important people in this world to me and thats my 2 daughters -- for that there will never be forgivness --

just wanted to get this off my chest

[Bouncer]

Fuck him bro. Your right, he is no friend. Thats tough when its someone you care about and they turn on you like that.

[MuGGsy]

It's amazing how hard it is to find a true friend bro, they only come out after years and years of trials, some people melt away when hardships arise, a real friend is there for life... I wish you the best in this matter bro, I certainly know how it feels to be burned by somebody you care about.

[Shibby]

I to have had a friend turn on my after many years. All this shit talking he is doing is just his way of trying to turn the fault away from himself. I know it's obvious to everyone else that if he is the one that no longer gets along with everyone else, that he's the one that has changed. As far as your daughters go, I'm sure it's hard to see them hurt. But they are probably better off also that they don't have that influence in there lives.

[Stonecold54]

that is why I have a hard time making close friends. I am young but I have already seen too much and I always think people don't have good intentions. I keep most people at a distance for that reason.

[JUICE]

i feel your pain bro. Ive gone through that with several people due to drugs & steroids.

I havent seen him ever after the incident. I could have fucked him up bad or had it taken care off by some fam but I just let it go. People like that will have it coming sooner or later and when it does they will remember who the true friends were.


Its like a friend once told me he dad told him "You only have a handful amount of friend" Meaning those close to you are ones u can trust. Not like the others who are just there. There are only 3 people i trust in this world, my girlfriend, my mom, and sister. But brother just blow that fucker off, it will come back to him

[Primal Instinct]

It's encouraging to know that you have such depth and compassion for family and friends to post it up here. That stuff wouldn't have bothered you if you didn't. I have seen friends do about face and change for many reasons, sometimes women, sometimes for money but in reality, they were never really that great of friends to me or they wouldn't have turned their back on me. Your girls might have enjoyed his attention but in the big picture, they are better off with you severing ties now because it could affect them worse later on. I know what you mean about some people getting mono-focused on their passion. They can't see anything else when they get fixated. The problem is that they blow the rest of their lives and relationships in the process. It could be gambling, drugs, booze, women, eating, whatever...it is basically an addiction. Crash & burn is their life story and you can't make everyone listen not to mention take action if they don't want to. When they get want they want and look finally look back, they realize what they've lost. It's the only way for them to learn.

You seem like a pretty stand up guy, House. He is the one who has lost a friend, not you. I'd take family or a true friendship over a championship anyday. Who's going to remember a title 15 years later? Championships/titles only last for a few fleeting moments but family and true friendships last a lifetime and are more fulfilling in the big picture.

[NYCmitch25]

sorry to hear that bro - I think your doing the right thing.

this sounds strikely similar to a situation I went through. but when I confronted him it got real ugly. i was so angry i did sleep for 2 days. he tried turning our mutual friends against me.

it turned out later he was going through depression do to stress, work, etc. secretely nobody knew not even his wife.