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Well the last two weeks I have been working a summer job (second job) helping build a house. I last worked on Tues and had been so worn out. Missing workouts, not eating well. As of Wed the job was being put on hold and I was probably done helping. I felt relieved and happy. Throught the time I was depressed also and fighting with my girlfriend alot. Earlier today I found out my step-dad is diagnosed with prostate cancer. My mom was so upset and I was there while all she could do was cry. Couldn't get words out. He was at work. It got me thinking about my health and how I want to do everything I CAN to not create problems that can be some what controlled. I hate the thought of having a condition and my girlfriend being put through that kind of pain and my future son. Just a little while ago I found out the the job is back on come monday. It is good money and we are buying a car at the end of July, Moving into an apartment and the money would be helpful. I don't want to go back to building the house along with my job at the hotel because I was misarable before. My sleeping schedule was something like this. Work 11pm to 7am, sleep 8am-12pm (at best becuase it is hard to actual fall into REM), go work on the house 1pm-5pm, I want to work out after that, but to function I try to get at the most 5 hours more of sleep to continue to function (again having trouble falling into REM becuase it's still daytime.) As you read this I'm sure it seems cluttered but that is how my mind is going right now.
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priorites my freidn ive taken sum time off of the gym cuz i been busy wit shit that take spresidence over working out right now as much a si love it i know that eventually ill get back to it when i can so i said fuck it but im not u so u do what u think u should -
Yea, but I can't decide what is more of a priority. Skipping the gym, being exauhsed, getting depressed, fighting with my pregnant girlfriend, going to work making an extra $100 a week, or give up on the $100 with a baby on the way and be happy.Comment
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And when I think about doing the extra work and missing taking care of myslef, it goes back to the pain I saw my mom in today and is it worth it. I know I'm young but you never know about bad health until it's too late.Comment
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It dosent sound like its the best time in the world for you right now my friend. It sounds to me like you are way over worked and on top of that may have some depression going on. You might want to talk to a doc and see if medication would help. Weather or not you want to say so, im sure there is a part of you that wishes this baby wasnt comming at this rough point in your life. Stress can kill brother, that isnt just a saying. You need to change something in your life or else something will eventually break under the stress.Comment
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Plus, no offense, but 100 dollars a week doesn't seem like it would be worth it to me. But that is just me.
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It can be stressful having the baby come unplanned as far as money is concerned. But I can't wait until he is born. I have been fine until I started building the house. The last two weeks were hell. I thought after the first week I would start adjusting, but never did. My girlfriend has told me it would be hard for her to handle me like I was for another 6-7 weeks. I honestly don't think medication would help becuase it mostly come just from being exhausted and not having gym results to show for it. When the weekend comes and I can get some extra sleep, my mood almost takes a 180.Comment
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I could also tell that my mood was making my girlfriend upset and that bothered me also.Comment
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yea when I look at it like that I don't think so either. But when school starts I am done and I will have 700-900 dollars more towards a car. But I ask myslef is that really as much as it sounds?Originally posted by jwoodyComment
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Every time I think about my job or money in relation to choices with my family, I remember what my Grandpa told me--nobody ever says on their deathbed that they wished they had worked more!! Always choose family over job or money, IMO.Comment
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That's true. But I also think that I am just wimping out and I need to step up and deal with it since I am going to be a father soon. But that may be just be too much pride.Comment
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Every time I think about my job or money in relation to choices with my family, I remember what my Grandpa told me--nobody ever says on their deathbed that they wished they had worked more!! Always choose family over job or money, IMO.
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Wow man you sound just bogged... IMO I would try and stick with 1 job and then focus on you and your relationship, I believe that if you start taking care of yourself again you will feel better all around and then i would just try and keep you and the mother of your future child happy... If this is your first child it is mentally straining trying to prepare for him/her.
The whole car thing, do you really need a new car right now?? with all the things coming it might be somthing to think about later..
You ever think of leaving the hotel and getting a diff job??
Whatever you do I wish you the best of luck, just dont let the stress come home with you.. think of it as a place to escape the stress..good luck budComment
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no its not. 700-900$ isnt much of anything but a little bit of a down payment. hell we had an $11,000 incentive to buy our house that we could use as a down payment or upgrades or whatever. it was nice to have but if i really think about it, it didnt do much in terms of us buying the house and mortgage and so on.Originally posted by ShibbyComment
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Yes, we will need the car. I am using my parents work type truck ( there truck just for hauling trash, cut down trees ect. of there property) and will be moving about 20 mins away from them. The hotel job is perfect for while I am in school so there wouldn't really be a better job for me.Comment
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