i'm so lost

[Puddles]

i'm just saying, for a relationship to exist with this girl of yours, she and your son will eventually need to develop their own relationship of sorts, and the sooner the better

I was thinking the same thing.

We don't know all of the particulars of the situation, but as times goes on, if you plan on being with this girl long term or marrying her, then keeping them apart will not work well. I would imagine you want your children to know one another, don't you?

[psyko1]

I was thinking the same thing.

We don't know all of the particulars of the situation, but as times goes on, if you plan on being with this girl long term or marrying her, then keeping them apart will not work well. I would imagine you want your children to know one another, don't you?

yes i do and honestly if i try and explain more about the situation and how i feel then you're all going to tell me how much this isn't going to work. not that it hasn't occured to me i think about it all the time. i just don't know anymore. what to do, how to handle it, how to forgive, it's like i feel that we're just not meant to be. but i'm afraid of that. i'm really just going to take it day by day. it may not be the best way to approach it but i need to keep a clear head and that's the only way i feel i can do that.

[bjbabe]

yes i do and honestly if i try and explain more about the situation and how i feel then you're all going to tell me how much this isn't going to work. not that it hasn't occured to me i think about it all the time. i just don't know anymore. what to do, how to handle it, how to forgive, it's like i feel that we're just not meant to be. but i'm afraid of that. i'm really just going to take it day by day. it may not be the best way to approach it but i need to keep a clear head and that's the only way i feel i can do that.

Psyko

If you feel that you and her are not meant to be, then why try to work things out with her. All your going to do is hurt her in the long run, and to be honest if i was your girlfriend and you were not sure about us, then i would appreciated you just telling me instead of prolonging the realtionship. Puddles is right your son and your child to be need to get to know one another. You can't keep them seperate, it would be like your leading a double life and thats is not fair for you, nor her, or them. But you do whatever is best for you!

[Slashmonay]

Your working hard and going to school.....things are rough right now for ya and i know nothing can change that, but i think that your going to be very sucessful and once u graduate ull be able to work a high paying job and support your whole family. Just stick it out bro your doing great.

[psyko1]

i appreciate the words of encouragement. i hope you're right.