Hey sup my fellow sm buddies. Has this ever happend to you all before. Ive been with my girlfriend for about 3 years and 4 months now. We've had our ups and downs here and there. But for the past months its been like we are just there, to the point that maybe we were getting used to each other and not doing anything. There be fights, arguments, and talked about spending time apart and stuff. Until recenty, for the past month now, Ive been getting these awesome feelings for my girl I first had when we started dating. Its like I wanna be more with her than ever. Just thinking about her constantly and stuff. Now that I got a new job, even better, I get to take her out, something I didnt do for 3 months since I wasnt working for 3 months. Another thing is, she got a baby cat now, i just love going to her house and playing with it. Like things are going better between us, more communication, more spending time together and all. Anyone ever go through stuff like thise before.
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I wonder if it's not so much a change in your feelings for your girl specifically but maybe an overall feel-good change because of other things in life? Like the new job taking some pressure off things and enabling you to go out and have fun, the new kitten to play with, etc. and those feelings are just flowing into your feelings for your girl (which is a good thing).
Sure it's normal to have some fluctuations in your emotions towards your partner, as time goes on things aren't as new and as exciting as they used to be but for a solid relationship to flourish, there shouldn't be frequent drastic ups and downs IMO. I would take a good look at the time you've been together and see how much of it is good vs. bad, then try to dig deeper and find out what makes the good times good and the bad, bad.
When Stromba and I were first married we had some power struggles which were the causes of most of our arguments. Over the years we learned to work together and things go much more smoothly.
Communication is very important, the other person won't know what bothers you or what makes you happy if you don't express it. If they don't know what bothers you, it will be repeated. If they don't know what makes you happy, how can they be expected to do it?
Just like kids respond better to positive re-inforcement as opposed to punnishments, so do relationships!
Make sure you don't just verbalize the things that bother you, focus on the good stuff and express your happiness even more. It's just like if you come home in a pissed off mood, it will rub off on your partner but if you come home in a good mood, even if their not having the best day, seeing you walk in with a smile will help change their mood.Last edited by Puddles; 08-17-05, 12:08 PM.
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