Are you bitter?

[MuGGsy]

Almost everyday i get told I am the most sarcastic / bitter person somebody knows. Now I tend to do my own little thing, I'm very social with my close friends but for the most part I've seen and been fucked over enough to know that most people aren't worth trusting and they set themselves up with their stupidity for sarcastic comments. Am I alone with this or am I just more upfront about my feelings ? I guess I'm a true pessimist. Thoughts, comments all welcomed.

[bad14u]

I work with someone like that. He was a single child growing up and overweight. He is still overweight and his mother-in-law is one of our supervisors. I guess he married the first girl that slept with him and she must like them thick. The things he says and does around here would have gotten him fired anywhere else. I guess he feels the need to try and make others look bad just to compensate for his own lack of self esteem. When someone expresses their opinions and he doesn't agree with it he has to try make them feel like they are retarded for believing the way they do. We always clash on subjects and when he does this to me I just consider the source and tell him that once he stops working for his mother-in-law he will never make it and that he needs to sleep with more than one chick to play at my level! :P

[beefcake]

There's people like that. I'm not, but I guess you're just really blunt and a straight shooter. Consider all the crap you've been through from all the posts you put here, seems like karma is just really kicking you in the nuts, can't blame you for being a little harsh. Just don't let it overtake you dude. I've seen so many people live such stressed lives because they're pessimist. Life is just so much easier and fun if you're optimistic about things. Just don't be naive though is the key to not getting screwed.

[Bouncer]

I tend to do my own thing and not talk to alot of people. But at the same time, if your being told everyday that you are a bitter person, I would say you have a problem.

[MuGGsy]

I tend to do my own thing and not talk to alot of people. But at the same time, if your being told everyday that you are a bitter person, I would say you have a problem.

that's what concerns me, I have no problem with being blunt and being more to myself than the average, but being an ass to people on a daily basis is not who I want to be. Guess it's time to start rethinking a little :dunno:

[Megiddo]

dude just be you and ignore everyone else who gives you shit. It has worked for me for the last 28 years and I am pretty damned happy at disliking the world

[Scotland]

Are you unhappy? Do you go out of your way to be bitter to others?

If the answers are no, then move on and so will the others.

[MuGGsy]

nope, guess that settles that lol.

[GearTripper]

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[pierced one]

i get told the same thing. The happiness question should awnser it. I just have short fuse when it comes to stupid shit, which then makes me sacastic, so i go on my own and do my thing so i dont act like a prick.

:gives: be yourself and fuck everyone else

[pierced one]

i have no friends and it doesn't bother me :(

but you have a fineass chick so that should make up for it
:loveheart

[Taylor]

I'm very social with my close friends but for the most part I've seen and been fucked over enough to know that most people aren't worth trusting

i'm just like you in what i quoted, but i've also had family members lose my trust as well as friends...

i dont go around talking shit to anyone i dont like just for the fun of it tho, if i dont like someone i usually just try to stay out of there business so they stay outta mine

[Puma]

I am a bitter fuck, but I really think that is because I am so pissed about the injustices I see in the world. I am so mad at the "system" that I just have to take a breath sometimes. :) I want to be a political force, but I can't stand the games that every politician plays. And I work for the government. Man, my life is a real fucking loveboat.

Anyway, I think its normal, but I just would say don't let it interfere with your life. I put on my happy go lucky face all the time, and just let things roll of my back. Only occasionally will I really get fired up about something, and if I do watch out (I would suggest you read some of my old posts about sports and steriods of an idea of "fired up"). :)


The problem is that people are always always asking me questions about this or that. Lots of people at work ask me about fitness because they are so out of shape. And it pisses me off because I answer thier questions all the time and they make no effort to change it. I don't care if you want to be fat, but don't ask me how to change it and then do nothing about it. And I work in information technology, so people always ask me question about computers, and then don't follow my advice. You know what, don't fucking ask.

I get pissy when I am geared up too, but I guess that's normal.

What are you going to do? If your going to be a prick to the world, just make sure that you have the muscles to back it up. :devil: :devil: :devil:

[trip]

Allright Muggsy, I'll take a stab at this cause I was in a similar boat one time.

Good thing, is agree with Bouncer's theory on it. It took me several months and hearing the same statement lot's of times before I considered what I might be doing wrong.

Making it simple.

Well, I basically believe Actions speak louder than words. I never realized there are bunches of folks out there maybe like 40% that really believe words have meaning.

And what happens is they hear your sarcastic words as being mean spirited, insulting, etc. Such so, that they pay no attention, and discount all of your positive actions. Basically the words cause them emotional pain, as if you slapped them in the face, yup, that is their perception. Whereas I bet you or me could scream crazy shit at each other and it wouldn't bother me or you, it's all just bs, does that sound about right, lol

I must say I was happy too, yet, the downside was I was always getting in all the pissing contests because of my mouth, which never went anywhere, only got worse.

Who paid the price, me.

I cleaned up my mouth and it was a better life, that is about all I can say. And on some days, sarcasm pops up in my head like a tornado, yet, I have to refrain, just too much pain in the long run, even though most of them are funny as hell and accurate.

Of course being real, every now and then I find myself doing it, like once or twice every six months, and it really doesn't bother me now, cause it's a habit though no longer serves my purpose.

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Good Luck

[Puddles]

I've been screwed over pleanty by people I thought I could trust but I've learned that not everyone is an asshole, there are some really good people out there. Harboring ill feelings does me no good so most of the time I can just end my relationships with the people who are fucked up and move on. The one thing I will not tollerate is someone who lies. If you're my friend and you fuck up, admit it and I'll likely be able to forgive because we all make mistakes, but if you lie to me, that's it, we're done. I keep a wall up around new friends for my own protection and have learned that there are different levels of friendship. Some friends are fine for some things but there are those very few friends who I trust and really let into my heart, those few close relationships are important to me and I treasure them. For the friendships that turned sour, when I start to think of the things that wound up hurting me I force myself to think of the good times instead, it helps change my feelings inside and I'm in a better frame of mind remembering that we did have good times together, more good than bad. Life is too short to spend it feeling negative all the time.