Gf pissin me off

[num1son]

I'm getting fairly upset and I am trying my hardest to keep my kool but I feel like I'm being pushed to my limits. My gf can't seem to sit still, we have a movie nite and 10-15 mins in she has to do laundry(now wtf it can wait till the movie is done), bout 5 mins ago she said, "we are out of milk" I reply I will do it after my show is done(watching the movie rushmore), she gets all pissy and says you gonna get milk, I reply yes when the movie is done, her reply, FINE!!! I will get it myself, I told her " I'll fuckin get it when my movie is done.

These are just examples anything that she wants she has to do it now and its gettin so so so damn annoying. She can't be patient and always has to be occupied, I spend most my day at work then the rest at the gym, if I happen to have free time I try to spend it with her, but as of now my priority is my body goals, she comes second. But this whole prob has gotten worse and out of hand, she can't seem to sit still always has to clean, and just will not fricken relax if it were up to me I'd throw her out the window. I just feel like she is trying her hardest to get under my skin and end things with her, shes a nice girl but recently she's been gettin really difficult, I'm gettin upset and I'm using so much energy to keep kool and try my hardest not to tell her to go f*ck herself, I'm just so upset now. I've talked to her about it and she gets all pissy and leaves the room, leaves a note downstairs sayin she is sorry but thats the extent of it. I don't feel like I'm being treated right and feel like she better wake up and act better before I give her the heave ho and kick her ass out(sadly she has no where to go).
I'm just so upset and the gym was closed so I had no where to vent my release. so whats my next move?!?

K

[Shibby]

Sounds to me like you know what to do. How long have you been together? Has she always been like that to an extent? How long has she increased these actions? If she truly has no where to go, it may be that she isn't happy either but dosn't know what to do.

[num1son]

been together 28 months, moved in cus her dad was abusive so I gave her a place to stay, its only been the last 2 months like this, I spoil her and treat her well but in return she gives me so much crap but the last 2 months have been way worse

K

[Shibby]

What does she do daily? Have things been well for you two for the most part? Maybe she feels stuck in a rut and just needs some sort of hobby.

[Puddles]

I really doubt she's doing them on purpose to piss you off. She may not have a lot of control over these impulses and she may not know that they're really getting on your nerves.

She could by hyperactive, she could be OCD in an early stage, it could just be that you two have different priorities, but the fact that she's at least appologizing with a note is a real clue that she doesn't mean to be doing this to upset you.

Have you sat down and had a heart to heart talk with her about how much these actions bother you?

Another thing to keep in mind that when you're in a LTR there are bound to be things about the other person you find odd or not making much sense to you. But, we're all different, if you can learn to overlook, ignore, whatever it takes to let little things like this not get under your skin, your relationship will be better for it.

So what, she feels the need to get up and do laundry? She wants milk in the house and she doesn't want to wait for you to get it? No big deal, she'll do it herself, problem solved. You get to sit and watch tv and she gets the things done that she feels are important.

I read a parenting book that said to pick your battles with your child and let little things slide as we all see life differently...same thing applies to a couple's relationship, what one person finds important, the other may not and if their actions don't really have an impact on what's important to you then let them do their own thing, even if it's not what you would choose to do yourself. Just like you probably don't want highlights in your hair and pedicures but she may find these things important, your movie just isn't her thing. Take this time to enjoy by yourself and in time things will work out more smoothly.

[Gods Son]

I live with the same shit everyday bro.... My gf is bipolar i think but she gets mad as hell if i tell her she needs to see a doctor....I had an ex in the past who was bipolar thats why i think she is..She acts a lot similar.

[num1son]

its things like this, and OCD i looked up in the dsmIV that I got on the shelf and well nah its just her being too quick to do things like she can't wait has to do them now, not the most patient girl.

Here's a good example of something. Went to the store to get food and well I wanted a milk shake so I got one we are driving and I spill it all over myself(all over my fav adidas pants) and well she starts freakign out bout it gettin all over her car etc... starts yellin and gets all racy almost hits a car if I didnt tell her to slam on the brakes, then yells at me for correcting her drivin, word to the wise we would have easily creamed the other car and it wouldn't have been good, Its like nothing I do is right and nothing I do is any good,

another example I bought all new filters for my bedroom fish tank, we get inside the house and I tell her I'm gonna switch all the filters she goes on this big lecture how I shouldn't spill the water on the floor and that I better clean up etc... well I'm changing the filters and water spills on the floor(its a huge tank bound to happen) and she starts goin on and on how I better clean the floor etc blah blah blah.

I just feel like she is tryin to make me break up with her so that she doesn't feel the guilt of doin it herself

K

[num1son]

I really doubt she's doing them on purpose to piss you off. She may not have a lot of control over these impulses and she may not know that they're really getting on your nerves.

She could by hyperactive, she could be OCD in an early stage, it could just be that you two have different priorities, but the fact that she's at least appologizing with a note is a real clue that she doesn't mean to be doing this to upset you.

Have you sat down and had a heart to heart talk with her about how much these actions bother you?

Another thing to keep in mind that when you're in a LTR there are bound to be things about the other person you find odd or not making much sense to you. But, we're all different, if you can learn to overlook, ignore, whatever it takes to let little things like this not get under your skin, your relationship will be better for it.

So what, she feels the need to get up and do laundry? She wants milk in the house and she doesn't want to wait for you to get it? No big deal, she'll do it herself, problem solved. You get to sit and watch tv and she gets the things done that she feels are important.

I read a parenting book that said to pick your battles with your child and let little things slide as we all see life differently...same thing applies to a couple's relationship, what one person finds important, the other may not and if their actions don't really have an impact on what's important to you then let them do their own thing, even if it's not what you would choose to do yourself. Just like you probably don't want highlights in your hair and pedicures but she may find these things important, your movie just isn't her thing. Take this time to enjoy by yourself and in time things will work out more smoothly.

yah I've sat down with her, we talk and she just sits there and doesn't say a word cus she knows it pisses me off, then worst of all I tell her to tell me what she thinks and she just goes to bed, wtf. If i knew she had a place to go I'd replace her I'm that fed up

K

[Shibby]

Your the one living it and if you really feel that's where it's headed, maybe you should test it. Simply say that you have noticed things getting tense between you two. You have been thinking that you should take some time apart to see if you really meant to be together or are just comfortable with each other. It's up to you if you want to make it a dating other people also kind of thing.

[num1son]

Yah but she literally has no where to go, no place to stay etc... I'm heartless but not that heartless to send her out the door with no where to go

K

[Shibby]

My other thought is that you were there for her so much that she would do anything to keep you happy in the start. I have had expierence with this and then eventually they relize they have lost so much of who they were. Now they want to get it back and it takes her feeling that she has to take an independent stance. I relized my girlfriend was doing alot of this at the begining and kept my attention on it and made sure the relationship didn't become all about me. Not that anyone is doing anything wrong, but it does happen.

[num1son]

Yah i think she has lost her sense of self, she has no friends and just hangs with me.
Maybe I just need to get away and hit a vacation

K

[Puddles]

Yah i think she has lost her sense of self, she has no friends and just hangs with me.
Maybe I just need to get away and hit a vacation

K

That's weird. My brother-in-law's fiance is the same way from what I can see. She's constantly up his ass about things too.

Does she work?

[wheyman]

I had a gf like that once, she tried to act like my mom more than anything. Long story short the little arguements that we had heated over time and that's not good. There are too many speed bumps in life to waste your time with a dead end buddy. I say split and if you are meant to be together then you will find your way back to each other. If not, then you move on without worries or regrets.

Call girls are so much easier, lol.

WM

[Bouncer]

ha, i wouldnt deal with that shit. tell her the following, "listen, im not putting up with your shit anymore, i treat you very good and you are always giving me shit. either shape up or get out, oh thats right you have no where to go so i would suggest you SHUT THE FUCK UP".

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