Doctor thinks i am depressed!

[Shibby]

a fucking men! :bravonew:
some people just don't understand this and imagine it being an easy thing to do. quite frankly it's the most difficult thing to do. your entire life changes and you no longer think of yourself. everything you do from the time it's born is for your child, not you anymore.
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I have already learned that if you do it right and it's a happy life, there is nothing a friend or party can do to make you near as happy.

[tiny pinder]

i dont know any women that arent depressed some time or another, but you sound like you actually have a very good reason unlike the other 99%
if i was you id look to my family for help,they may be upset but theyd rather you come to them for help than dissapear.

[SuKaDaddio]

So your parents, friends, and boyfriend wont call you back.

Im going to be blunt here like always so please dont take offence.

From what I know of you from this board, your with a different guy every time I read a post from you, your having sex with one guy and then having sex with someone else. I think you have been pregnant 2 or 3 times since you have been on this board and your still going from man to man. Just going by what I know of you on this board, if I was your parents I wouldnt be very happy with you either. If I was your friend I wouldnt want to be around you because you seem to make the wrong decision with everything. As a roomate I would have booted your ass along time ago. And as a man I can tell you that I have zero respect for a girl like you come across as on this board. Now your going to bring a child into this world.

Im sorry to sound so harsh but you need to get your act together.

I agree. You can choose your actions but not your consequences. This will be a learning experience for you, be strong and handle your business.

[mastakillah]

sorry bj babe, but i agree w/ everyone else.
there's nothing worse than when you see grandparents always taking care of a baby because the mom and dad are out partying. you seem to me like your gonna be one of those mothers - out partying w/friends while you pass your kid on to your parents.

[Shibby]

It's getting close. How are things going now Bjbabe?

[bjbabe]

Things are better now, thanks for asking, I only have five more weeks. Still have no idea if i am having a boy or a girl.

I have had the worst pregnancy ever: Let me explain why.

For the first four months i throw up every day none stop, that i lost a lot of weight instead of gaining it. On my six month, i ended up in the ER i was having contractions and i would not stop throwing up. After a week in the hospital the doctors still had no idea what was going on with me, i start throwing up blood that they decide to put a pump down my nose to pump my stomach, so i would not continue hurting my throat. The doctors recommended me to have one X-Ray done, i did not want to have it. I was scared and did not want anything to happen to the baby. I finally agreed and they told me that i had a bowel obstruction and it looked like it was about to burst, scar tissue had wrapped around my bowel intestine twice. I had to have an emergency surgery, if i had the operation i was risking losing the baby, he or she only had a fifty percent of surviving and if i did not have an operation i could lose my life. After much crying and talking to my parents about it i agreed. Thankfully everything turned out ok, i was there for two weeks. Now i am slowly recovering and i am gaining the weight that i am supposed to. Its been very rough for me.

[Shibby]

Sounds intense, but it's good to hear everything is going well now. What about the father? Is he helping out at all? I take it your parents are being supportive now...

[bjbabe]

Sounds intense, but it's good to hear everything is going well now. What about the father? Is he helping out at all? I take it your parents are being supportive now...

After i got really sick my parents wanted me to move back home. So they could take care of me, i agreed i am thankful that they are supportive and not that upset with me as i originally thought. The father is there sometimes i am lucky if i see him once every two weeks, he works a lot and when he doesn't work he has no time for me. When i was in the hospital for two weeks he went to see me twice, and his excuse was that he had no transportation. I really do not know if we are together or not, we are fighting a lot its mostly me arguing me with him cause he has no time for me.

Oh well, to late now to dwell over it.

[Bouncer]

Things are better now, thanks for asking, I only have five more weeks. Still have no idea if i am having a boy or a girl.

I have had the worst pregnancy ever: Let me explain why.

For the first four months i throw up every day none stop, that i lost a lot of weight instead of gaining it. On my six month, i ended up in the ER i was having contractions and i would not stop throwing up. After a week in the hospital the doctors still had no idea what was going on with me, i start throwing up blood that they decide to put a pump down my nose to pump my stomach, so i would not continue hurting my throat. The doctors recommended me to have one X-Ray done, i did not want to have it. I was scared and did not want anything to happen to the baby. I finally agreed and they told me that i had a bowel obstruction and it looked like it was about to burst, scar tissue had wrapped around my bowel intestine twice. I had to have an emergency surgery, if i had the operation i was risking losing the baby, he or she only had a fifty percent of surviving and if i did not have an operation i could lose my life. After much crying and talking to my parents about it i agreed. Thankfully everything turned out ok, i was there for two weeks. Now i am slowly recovering and i am gaining the weight that i am supposed to. Its been very rough for me.

Im glad to hear that you and the baby are fine and im glad that things are better now. Let me also say that I have said some things to you in the past that have been kind of harsh. I want you to know that those things were said with the intention of trying to make you "snap out of it" and get on your feet. I wish you nothing but the best. Im glad it seems like you are growing up. :)

[Bouncer]

After i got really sick my parents wanted me to move back home. So they could take care of me, i agreed i am thankful that they are supportive and not that upset with me as i originally thought. The father is there sometimes i am lucky if i see him once every two weeks, he works a lot and when he doesn't work he has no time for me. When i was in the hospital for two weeks he went to see me twice, and his excuse was that he had no transportation. I really do not know if we are together or not, we are fighting a lot its mostly me arguing me with him cause he has no time for me.

Oh well, to late now to dwell over it.

just do what is best for you and the baby.

[bjbabe]

just do what is best for you and the baby.

Thank you Bouncer, for your kind words. Mines a lot to me!

[urso8up]

The father is there sometimes i am lucky if i see him once every two weeks, he works a lot and when he doesn't work he has no time for me. When i was in the hospital for two weeks he went to see me twice, and his excuse was that he had no transportation.

I am glad to hear things are good with you and you are on the right track but it just Pi$$es me off when I hear the father is there sometimes I mean that is a part of him and it is a little person he should be happy to see and spend time with no matter what. I know nothing about him or you or his situation but i can tell you right now i don't like him in timesa like this you make time to see the little ones because they are not little for long.
I was always there with my little guy those are the best times......

[NYCmitch25]

cogradulations on the baby! glad to hear your ok after the surgery. keep us posted.

[psyko1]

I am glad to hear things are good with you and you are on the right track but it just Pi$$es me off when I hear the father is there sometimes I mean that is a part of him and it is a little person he should be happy to see and spend time with no matter what. I know nothing about him or you or his situation but i can tell you right now i don't like him in timesa like this you make time to see the little ones because they are not little for long.
I was always there with my little guy those are the best times......

i don't think her kid's been born yet.

[dreamgirl]

oh bjbabe! I'm so sorry to hear all this. someone said that you need to make yourself happy first... and they are right! I think you should talk to a therapist and try and figure what you want out of life now. I really believe you should get rid of the baby's father out of your life... I think that he causes you the most heartache. Honest it's too bad he's the babies father, cause now you have to deal with him forever. He can't truely love you if he is constantly hurting you. It's not a good relationship and really you should end it. He can be in the babies life if he wants, but not yours. You need to stand up to him and not let him treat you like he does. Off and On relationships isn't one that's gonna withstand the tests of time. I do agree you should move in with your parents, they love you unconditionally and they can help you and belive me, once they see their grandchild, there will be no going back. Please let us know your doing ok.