Y I do what I do its personal though...

[num1son]

Not running back but maybe keeping things open, she wanted me to move to NY with her but I said no.. this was a week ago... I can't leave my job I almost got the all or nothing type answer, but y move if A. I need to find a new job B. shes gonna move elsewhere for masters... Kinda see my point this was me extending my arm saying I will do anything I can but if it doesnt work I thank you for everything type letter, sorry no halmark card available

K

[num1son]

I'm not saying to give up at all. Just you sent the letter, you shouldn't expect her to come running back.

Can I expect her to leave the door open part of it is that I need to get what I want or move on, I'm hurting a lot and in a way its not fair to me but her needs need to come first, she really is fragile and I can't let anything happen to her on my account... I'd feel too guilty

K

[Shibby]

I follow you, but it's kind of wrong to try to convince her to go to grad school in Chicago if she's not already looking at it. But like you said you can visit alot and that may be the best choice anyways to make sure everything works out before making a life changing decision on eithers part.

[num1son]

Yah chicago grad school will be a dream haha, but it wont happen she actually has started the process and I think cal tech said yes with a provision of last yr academic success,
Yah there's always hope right... and if not there's always good memories

K

[Bouncer]

long distance relationships dont work bro. i think you should move on and find someone else.

[num1son]

long distance relationships dont work bro. i think you should move on and find someone else.

Is this speaking from bad exp yourself or from others, yah I will admit it messes up my dating life now cus I always have her in the back of my mind.

K

[bonebreaker]

we went diff ways with school I took sports school path she took school we kinda grew apart and it caused a lot of hurt too her, she has only kissed 1 guy and thats me, but i understand her hurt, but at the time i chose sports and school and u see how the sports thing ended up

K

:hmmm: A college girl and has only kissed one guy? BB

[num1son]

:hmmm: A college girl and has only kissed one guy? BB

Yah and that guy is me, I really can't tell u how nerdy she really is, her and I are so alike except for the fact that I was blessed with sports and that gave me my social outlet. See she's been pushed her whole life academically and has never had any sort of social experience except for myself but I treated her with more respect than any other girl I know. Yah its funny to hear that only kissed one guy line, but in a way its kinda kool, I didn't get involved with girls till I was 18 after h.s. when I had a small break with soccer and academics... So i was a late bloomer too but I atleast had sports to show me a social scene. She is the epitomy of NERD, but thats also the reason I really have strong feelings towards her cus in a way so am I

K

[coffee-guy]

The "nerd" factor can be really hot too :D

[num1son]

The "nerd" factor can be really hot too :D

Thank god I'm not alone... hahaha :inlove:

K

[bonebreaker]

Yah and that guy is me, I really can't tell u how nerdy she really is, her and I are so alike except for the fact that I was blessed with sports and that gave me my social outlet. See she's been pushed her whole life academically and has never had any sort of social experience except for myself but I treated her with more respect than any other girl I know. Yah its funny to hear that only kissed one guy line, but in a way its kinda kool, I didn't get involved with girls till I was 18 after h.s. when I had a small break with soccer and academics... So i was a late bloomer too but I atleast had sports to show me a social scene. She is the epitomy of NERD, but thats also the reason I really have strong feelings towards her cus in a way so am I

K

Not saying it's not true, only very different. A few years ago I met a school teacher, she taught biology, and told me before we first went out that she was "nerdy", in her own words, and dated very rarely. We went out and she WAS a bit nerdy, but ok with me. She also professed how much she was a christian, etc. etc. Well on the second date we were just fooling around after dinner at my house. I always try to see if I can make any sexual progress, (I'm a pig"), anyway, if it works fine, if it doesn't, that's fine too. Well, she turned into an entirely different person and the words that came out of her mouth while we were having sex, daayyyuuumm! Anyway, she sent me an e-mail the next morning telling me how ashamed she was for her action last night, and stated that's not how a good Baptist behaves, but thought it might have been God's will. Plus, she said that she just got lost and couldn't resist me, (give me a break). Well, to make a long story short, I found out later that she was screwing two or three other guys. She couldn't get enough, was a true nympho. I also found out later that she would have a date with another guy and have sex, then come see me like at midnight and screw me until she got too sore to do anymore, and that was a long time after she had about 15 orgasms. She truly was over-sexed. But to the point, I'm always sceptical about, once "kissed" girls. Not because of the teacher, but because I've seen the same things all my life. Again, I'm not saying your's isn't true, it's just very unusual for even a sheltered "nerd". BB

[num1son]

IF you saw her you'd understand her looks don't help either, shes not my usual arm candy gf... but the combination of odd looks with smarts with innocence just hit the right cords with me, her and I have been honest with each other since day 1 its a wierd bond, I dont doubt her only kissin me... but in a way its a wierd form of guilt that the girl never moved on... Yah my sister was one of those loser girls too, never kissed a guy going into college then 3 weeks in started being a literal cocksucker(my buddy at NIU tapped it then when he told the story I said umm thats my little sister, he felt so bad but he didn't know he never met my sis before)
But that's y I like B shes always sticked to her morals and always has been such a sweetheart. UPS confirmed delivery today at 1ish P.M. so who knows what will happen next

K

[bonebreaker]

IF you saw her you'd understand her looks don't help either, shes not my usual arm candy gf... but the combination of odd looks with smarts with innocence just hit the right cords with me, her and I have been honest with each other since day 1 its a wierd bond, I dont doubt her only kissin me... but in a way its a wierd form of guilt that the girl never moved on... Yah my sister was one of those loser girls too, never kissed a guy going into college then 3 weeks in started being a literal cocksucker(my buddy at NIU tapped it then when he told the story I said umm thats my little sister, he felt so bad but he didn't know he never met my sis before)
But that's y I like B shes always sticked to her morals and always has been such a sweetheart. UPS confirmed delivery today at 1ish P.M. so who knows what will happen next

K

Gotcha, what ever works for you, and her. Don't worry about her reaction to your letter, you can't change how she may perceive it, nor what she may or may not do about it. Just don't keep standing in the rain waiting on a bus that has changed its route and will never stop there again. BB

[num1son]

Gotcha, what ever works for you, and her. Don't worry about her reaction to your letter, you can't change how she may perceive it, nor what she may or may not do about it. Just don't keep standing in the rain waiting on a bus that has changed its route and will never stop there again. BB

Thanks BB in a way this is like my last attempt... will always have feelings but theres a time to move on if things don't work

K

[Stonecold54]

I have written a few of those letters in my time...good luck with it all. But I am with bouncer....long distance doesn't work anymore. Temptation is to great, even for the best or nerdiest of us :D