So i'm at the driving range today...

[Timma]

I have to agree with Bouncer on this one. I would have come unglued if someone had said something like that about my son. Why didn't someone from the club ask the man to take the child elsewhere or inside?

No idea.

[bad14u]

No idea.

Other than the "kid" remark I believe you did nothing else wrong. I think I would have had to say something to the management about it first. If they were unable to do anything then I would have pulled one of the stuffed animals out of the trunk of the car and give it to the girl. And yes I keep extra animals in the trunk just for that occasion but for my child, not others, not that my child has had an episode like that but you never know. As you politely hand it to the kid, say something like...."Hope this helps. It bothers me to hear young ones cry/scream." Maybe the father would have gotten the hint.

[twizzbeats]

That would really piss me off... but what can you really do? If you beat him sensless, you'll go to jail and scar his kid for life.

I actually almost got in a fight at the driving range when I was 19, I was all skinny and some loser in a beer shirt said I was golfing in his spot and I needed to move or else. it really escalaated until I just left.

Some people need a beating but unless you like Jail your kinda out of luck.

[spidey]

The kid just needed some dicipline. A good swat on the butt will take care of that 99% of the time. And yes, I do have a kid (and another due this week). Everyone always comments on how well behaved my son is. There is a good reason for that. I don't tolerate that kind of behavior....and he knows it.

[hitmansb]

The kid just needed some dicipline. A good swat on the butt will take care of that 99% of the time. And yes, I do have a kid (and another due this week). Everyone always comments on how well behaved my son is. There is a good reason for that. I don't tolerate that kind of behavior....and he knows it.

Good for you, Spidey. Parents who just sit there with there thumb jammed up their ass while their kid is acting the fool deserve to be smacked upside the head for their inaction.

[Shibby]

I'm not sure how to word this so it dosn't sound to agrressive. So I am just going to spit it out and hope you get the idea.

I think that whole "time-out" phase that parents went through is diminishing. I heard about alot of parents that were like that growing up in school. Now I hear more people saying "if my kid did that he would get his ass whooped". I will be that dad. I think it teaches them who is in control/power and they learn respect.

[coffee-guy]

I'm not sure how to word this so it dosn't sound to agrressive. So I am just going to spit it out and hope you get the idea.

I think that whole "time-out" phase that parents went through is diminishing. I heard about alot of parents that were like that growing up in school. Now I hear more people saying "if my kid did that he would get his ass whooped". I will be that dad. I think it teaches them who is in control/power and they learn respect.

I agree...

It looks like you need to go ahead and get started though - damn kids nowadays have no respect :D

[Shibby]

:dancingne :laughnew:

[Bouncer]

shibby you have to be smart about it though. please dont be one of those parent fucks who beats there kid if they bring home a C from school.

also, i think there comes an age when you shouldnt do that anymore. i know my step dad stopped trying to beat me around age 15 and by the time i was 18 he wouldnt even look me in the eye. he would only give me a beating if i was really out of line though, like telling my mom to fuck off or something. lol. but you have to be careful about building a son that grows to hate you. just remember, they will take care of you someday. i dont really agree with hitting a child. maybe when they are really out of line but these people that spank there kids for saying the word "shit" or whatever are fucking jack asses if you ask me.

[Bouncer]

P.S. I dont have kids but I know alot about raising big dogs that can grow to be very dangerous. so i can offer this advice and you can kinda take it and apply it to your son.

A dog raised with fear, (as in hitting the dog) is a dog that grows to be unstable. when i say unstable i mean, agressive, dosent get along with other dogs or people, etc.. Now there are times that they need a little whack on the ass but those times are few and far between.

[Shibby]

shibby you have to be smart about it though. please dont be one of those parent fucks who beats there kid if they bring home a C from school.

also, i think there comes an age when you shouldnt do that anymore. i know my step dad stopped trying to beat me around age 15 and by the time i was 18 he wouldnt even look me in the eye. he would only give me a beating if i was really out of line though, like telling my mom to fuck off or something. lol. but you have to be careful about building a son that grows to hate you. just remember, they will take care of you someday. i dont really agree with hitting a child. maybe when they are really out of line but these people that spank there kids for saying the word "shit" or whatever are fucking jack asses if you ask me.

I absolutely agree. That's why I was hoping it wouldn't be taken in to aggressive of nature. Everything should be dealt with as much as reasonably possable verbaly. If that fails then spank them. But that has alot to do with how you raise them from day one and not letting them get away with everything "because they are too young to understand". They may not quite understand WHY, but they still can learn what not to do, they can figure out why in time.

[Shibby]

Oh and in Timma situation, the parents have to have respect for others that don't have kids or kids with them. They made that choice and if you are with your kid, you have made a choice to be with your kid. Can't always have your cake and eat it too.

[Shibby]

All these posts probably sound scattered. But I have lots of beliefs on how people should be with there kids and be responsible for the choice they made to have them. I am of course brand new at this, but I know what I think is disrespectful on the parents part to others. I also feel alot of kids these days don't understand what being part of a family means.

[Timma]

Oh and in Timma situation, the parents have to have respect for others that don't have kids or kids with them. They made that choice and if you are with your kid, you have made a choice to be with your kid. Can't always have your cake and eat it too.

That's the same thing my mother said, and she raised three of us. She says that's one of the big problems with this country is everybody has the mentality that the world should deal with my kids if I have to.

[spidey]

shibby you have to be smart about it though. please dont be one of those parent fucks who beats there kid if they bring home a C from school.

also, i think there comes an age when you shouldnt do that anymore. i know my step dad stopped trying to beat me around age 15 and by the time i was 18 he wouldnt even look me in the eye. he would only give me a beating if i was really out of line though, like telling my mom to fuck off or something. lol. but you have to be careful about building a son that grows to hate you. just remember, they will take care of you someday. i dont really agree with hitting a child. maybe when they are really out of line but these people that spank there kids for saying the word "shit" or whatever are fucking jack asses if you ask me.

I agree. There is an age when it isn't appropriate anymore.

When a child is young, I feel spanking (not beating) is the best form of punishment in many cases. It is over quickly and does not do lasting harm and it sticks in their minds that whatever behavior they were guilty of will not be tolerated. Until a better, more effective solution is discovered, I will spank my children when they are out of line. Again, there is a good reason why my son is so well behaved; not only in public but at home as well. I can spot kids a mile away who have never had a spanking and I would be a failure as a parent if my kids acted like that.

A spanking should never cross the line into a beating though. You should never leave a bruise or a mark that lasts longer than a few minutes and you should not just keep hitting them when they are already crying. I don't think I have ever given more than 3 swats and 99% of the time a single swat is sufficient. I don't pitty-pat now; he knows he has been swatted. but I don't hit hard enough to cause a bruise or a weal. It hurts his feelings more than it physically hurts him. A few minutes afterward (when he has had some time to calm down) I always give him a hug and tell him daddy loves him and calmly explain why how he was acting is not going to be tolerated and he nods his head and says "OK" and that's it; situation under control. When he gets older, I will never humiliate him by spanking him in front of his friends and when he gets to be a teenager, I will look for other methods of punishment such as grounding but a good butt-whoopin will always be there for extreme cases.

I got spanked when I was growing up too and I can honestly say I do not resent my mother for spanking me. I am thankful she taught me the right way to act. I feel that small children have such short attention spans that any punishment that lasts longer than 10 to 20 seconds borders on cruel. An hour is just FOREVER to a little kid. Punishments like time-out and silent treatment are too long and drawn out in my oppinion and are thus more abusive than a quick spanking. They are also MUCH less effective in controlling bad behavior.