I have a new phobia...

[Shibby]

I'm sure it has alot to do with being a new father, but all I worry about is protecting my family and making my son's life as safe as possible. I'm getting involved in the martial arts available in this little town, but it's not my first choice for martial arts. I constantly think about changing my major to something completly different to possibly have a future in the FBI. I'm sure there are others that have been through this. What are your opinions?

[Scrumhalf]

The protective urge is hardwired and powerful, no question, but there are more ways to do this than to set off to rid the world of all evildoers, laudable a goal as that may be.

The best protection you can give your son is the gift of a financially secure future for your and your family. My advice to you would be to focus on establishing a career in a field you love for the long haul. If you love your job, you will be in a better mental state to be a good husband and father and to be able to give your son the support during his formative years that will help him be successful when he sets off on his own.

[Shibby]

That's my rational thinking :) I am chiping away at my classes slowly while my fiancee goes full force taking 15+ hours a semester and getting A's. I will finish up once she is done. The FBI thought is more a descriptive thought and meant as wanting to contribute to every other parents security. Cliche as it may be, a baby changes your life in unimaginable ways that only parents can understand. I knew this before but understand it now.

[Scrumhalf]

..... Cliche as it may be, a baby changes your life in unimaginable ways that only parents can understand. I knew this before but understand it now.

It is probably the single biggest life-transforming event in anyone's life. I mentioned this on the original thread you posted when you knew you were going to be a dad - when you are not a preent, it is hard to imagine life with a kid, and when after you become a parent, it is hard to imagine life without one!

[Puddles]

Becoming a parent really can change your perspective on life and your role in it.

I agree with finding a career in which you'll be happy, that makes a difference in your overall mood including the hours you're not at work. Being financially stable is important too, so trying to find a line of work that does both for you will make the many years you spend working and raising a family easier.

[bad14u]

Becoming a parent really can change your perspective on life and your role in it.

:bravonew: Amen to that.
Before Chase was born all I ever really wanted to do was go out and party, meet chicks and try to hook up. Now it seems all I want to do is work, to provide for him and his mother, who happens to be my fiance, and when I am not working I want to be with them. I don't want to miss out on the next word he picks up or his first forward pass, right now everything seems to go to the side or behind him. It is those little things like that, that aren't really that little anymore. I also want to stay healthy and in shape to be able to keep up with the little fella...when he turns 10 I will be 46, so my health is a big concern for me.

Shibby..as for protecting your family...there really is no way to protect them from everything in this world unless you keep them locked up in the house. To keep your family safe, just make sure that they are always aware of whats going on around them. Knowledge AND observation will always help keep them from harm. You say you want to take up martial arts to help, but if somebody has a gun and wants your child...martial arts won't do alot of good. As long as they know what to do in any given scenario, I think they will be fine.

[Timma]

It's not a bad thing that you want to keep them protected. IMO buy a gun and keep it locked away. If anyone wants to harm you guys, you'll have the protection. I've always thought like that since I grew up with my father having at least a dozen guns in the house.

[Shibby]

Thanks everyone, we will be financial secure. I refuse to fail at that. Plus my finace is working to get a masters in biotechnology and she can be my sugar moma :P But really with the money she will end up making I can really focus on doing something I like and we will be good. Timma, I'm not affraid of guns one bit, but I'm not sure I like the idea of having one in the house with my son around. Even locked up, it's something I would rather not worry about. If someone comes into my home, I want to be smart enough and trained enough to use that to my advantage. Bad14u, your old :D

[mindstar]

As a different perspective, it's been my experience that people who deal with the shit of society every day (criminal psychologists, police, etc) end up a litle skewed in their view of the world, and they tend to pass that on to their kids...not that you should ignore the ills of the world and pretend it's all hunky dory, but teaching a child to live in constant fear, by example or explanation, is, in my opinion, no way to live.

There are a myriad of ways you can contribute to your community, being a reliable coach/mentor for kids is one of the easiest things I can think of to put other parents minds at ease.

Just for what it's worth, I am in no way pissing on law enforcement, or saying that it will make you a bad parent...

[beefcake]

I'm sure it has alot to do with being a new father, but all I worry about is protecting my family and making my son's life as safe as possible. I'm getting involved in the martial arts available in this little town, but it's not my first choice for martial arts. I constantly think about changing my major to something completly different to possibly have a future in the FBI. I'm sure there are others that have been through this. What are your opinions?

The best martial arts you can get into is muay thai and brazilian jui jitsu. They are teaching law enforcement the bjj techniques because they work so well in real life situations. Are you just considering the FBI because you want to be in a position to protect your family, or is it something that you're really interested in? I'd like to be in that someday. It would require classes like criminal justice and what not as you probably already know. I'm trying my hand at law enforcement and then will try to work my way up through the ranks and try to make detective, and then hopefully, it will make it easier for me to get into the FBI. I think the pay and benefits are great for your family, but you also have to think that you won't be around as much and it's a dangerous job. It may put stress on your family situation.

[Gainward]

I'm getting involved in the martial arts available in this little town

if your really serious about geting involved in martial arts let me know, and i can point you twords the best trainer in the area. I also belive he is the highest ranked guy in the area. I trained under him for 11 years. Going back to class is my main motivation for geting in shape.

[Shibby]

if your really serious about geting involved in martial arts let me know, and i can point you twords the best trainer in the area. I also belive he is the highest ranked guy in the area. I trained under him for 11 years. Going back to class is my main motivation for geting in shape.

PM or I work 7am-7pm tomorrow.

[Shibby]

The best martial arts you can get into is muay thai and brazilian jui jitsu. They are teaching law enforcement the bjj techniques because they work so well in real life situations. Are you just considering the FBI because you want to be in a position to protect your family, or is it something that you're really interested in? I'd like to be in that someday. It would require classes like criminal justice and what not as you probably already know. I'm trying my hand at law enforcement and then will try to work my way up through the ranks and try to make detective, and then hopefully, it will make it easier for me to get into the FBI. I think the pay and benefits are great for your family, but you also have to think that you won't be around as much and it's a dangerous job. It may put stress on your family situation.

The FBI/ law enforcement is something I have always been interested in. But deep down I know I wouldn't be happy at home because I would miss too much. I want to be able to emotionaly support my family and teach my son stuff, go to all sorts of practices and games.

[bad14u]

Bad14u, your old :D

F*#k you very much! :spank:

[Shibby]

Packers Rule!!!