kid needs his ass whooped

[Bouncer]

When I was growing up it was just me an my mom until I was about 11 years old. I was out of control and I said and did anything I wanted simply because I wasnt affraid of my mom. Then my step dad came into the picture and really put me in check. He never beat me or anything like that but he would grab me and scare the shit out of me. I was the type of kid that had to learn the hard way. You could have taken me to all the counceling and all that bullshit that you want amd I would not change. The thing that got me to change was my step dad being there and me knowing that he could beat my ass if he wanted to.

In other words, I dont agree with you fitnessbrat. Some kids are just very easy to raise and they never cause problems. Those are the kids that dont need a good spanking every now and then. But I was the kind of kid that did need a spanking. lol

[meat12]

I can't imagine what my parents would of done if I acted like that. I feared the wooden spoon

[babyblues]

I can't imagine what my parents would of done if I acted like that. I feared the wooden spoon

Ha Ha...I feared the metal ruler and dad's belt. That damn ruler is warped and I swear it's in the shape of my ass cheeks. I was a very angry child, but I never hit my parents or spit on them. I never dared. It's not that I was afraid of my father, I was afraid of the consequences of doing something that stupid. And those consequences could have come from my mother using the ruler or my father using his belt. Either was a very effective deterrant. The worst was when I actually stuck my hand back there once. Ever done that? Just instinct, but I couldn't feel anything in my pinky finger until the next day.

[urso8up]

I would say there fucking stupid. Anyone who lets there kid turn into that and hit them like he does is stupid. His ass would be black and blue if I was around.

:agree:

[babyblues]

Of course we can agree to disagree, I just was letting you know I wasn't being argumentative.
I don't mean friends you know, I mean studies and psychology - spanking is not the most effective. But by all means, you're going to do what you thinks best and same for me.
I personally was not spanked as a child and my behavior was wonderful. I had other means of punishment. I'd rather get my butt whipped for 5 seconds then not be allowed to do something I love. I was never afraid of my parents, nor do I ever want any child to be afraid of me.

Results from studies can be twisted to come to whatever conclusion is desired. And I'm sorry, but I'll trust personal experience over psychology any day. People see what they want to see. There are studies and pshchologists who say the exact opposite. I'm not saying that spanking is the only effective means of discipline, but it's not true that it's ineffective. No, corporal punishment isn't pleasant...it's not supposed to be. That's the point. What the hell good would it do if it was fun? There are other effective forms of discipline, I'll give you that. But a spanking is also effective. And that's the truth.

[AD1]

I was never afraid of my parents, nor do I ever want any child to be afraid of me.

I was very afraid of my parents. Afraid of my Mom telling my Dad I did something wrong and afraid of my Dad whooping my ass for it, so I want my kids to always be afraid of me.

[Bouncer]

Absolutely, some kids are simply better behaved than others.
The same sex parent is the most important influence in a childs life. You lacked a father figure, and by no fault of your own, you acted out. Once you had a father, it gave you structure, and you knew he was boss. I'm not trying to get into psychology, but that's what children need. They want rules, and structure. You also stated he grabbed you, that's not spanking, or belts or other household tools.

i can agree with that. :)

[AD1]

Rest assured, they will be... :thumbsdow

Dont get me wrong. The kid in this video has no fear whatsoever of anything his parents would do to him. If his parents put a belt to his ass the first time he did that do you think he would do it again?

[babyblues]

I actually said I'd RATHER be spanked for 5 seconds, than have something taken away from me for a week, or not be allowed to go or do something I loved. That's ONE reason it's not effective.

Again, it's not true to say it's not effective. Something else may be effective too, but it doesn't make everything else ineffective. It's still effective. Two things can be effective at the same time. You may prefer something else, but it's still effective. I'm not advocating that it should be used in every situation as the only means of discipline, but for many children it is effective. If it's not for THAT CHILD than yes, find something else that is. But don't determine that it's useless in all circumstances for all children because it wasn't AS effective for you or your children. Fear of consequences isn't a bad thing. You may even admit that you feared losing priviledges when you did something wrong. Fear of consequences motivates us to change our behavior. Even as adults when we're driving too fast and we see a cop, what's our reaction? Oh, shit! And we slam on our breaks. Why? Fear is part of it. We're not afraid of the cop, but we're afraid of getting a ticket. Any kind of discipline done out of anger is destructive. Even taking things away or not letting children do things can become vindictive and manipulating if done in anger.

[Motorcycleguy]

The most effective thing my parents ever did to me as punishment was take away things that I wanted really badly. I got spanked, spooned, belted, slapped (not visciously), grounded.... everything you can think of happened to me, but the most effective was losing what I wanted the most. Some kids don't have things they really love, so those kids might need a different discipline, but I know what worked best for me.

And yes I have put my had back instinctively.... Holy shit, ouch.