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[JUICE]

Im still feeling it hard after almost 2 months me and my girl split up. I talk to her more than before and probably see her at least 2 times per week. The thing is i still want her in my life.

We spoke about everything a while back like 3-6 days ago. I told her if i can change everything in the past i would. But she said it was too late for all that. She just said to live a day at a time. She currently wants no guy, no compromises, no attachments, nada with any guy, including me. I dont understand why. Shes been going out with some skanky friends of her recently clubbin. I took her out last night to the big carnaval and had a good time with her, but it didnt feel the same cause the way she was sorta, distant. There was some huggin here and there. Later we went to some clubs here. Her skanky friend got fucked up real quickly, macking on every damn guy and giving away her phone number. My ex/girl was just there dancing, talking to her friends there, gave a number or two to some guys she knew. BTW THey were and looked like pussies, skinny shits. I sorta had a good time. The till a large group of friends of mine were all there tlaking and laughing. My ex/girls friend started flirting with them and they came over to them. Macking on her friend and shit. One guy started talking to my girl/ex and i dont know if they exchanged numbers or somehitng. That pissed the shit out of me and i walked away. She told me what wrong and i told her. She got pissed at me, started telling me to fuck off and leave her alone. I just lost it there. My ride had left so they had to take me home. I cried in the way home. They asked me why and i told them why, cause of her. It still hurts bad and i wished i had her again i told her. But she was like, u lost your chance cause the way i was and things i would say. We spoke for a long ass while. But fuck guys its hitting me hard.

Today i was at her house with her mom and brother, helping them move furniture cause they needed help bad. She wasnt there, she was at work. The mom told me she wishes me and her get back together. She loves me so much, so as her family. They love me cause im a good guy and trustable, respectful. She told me her daughter will realize. The mom hates her friends she hangs out with so does the brother. I dont know.

Also im lost big time. Valentines day is coming and im not sure to give her something. I gotta make her love me again or admit she does. Prides holding her back, cause pressure of her friends. I sure love her and shes a one in a million. At times i wish i have never met her not to feel pain. At times i dont even want to wake up. It all sucks. :(

[rude]

Im sorry to hear that bro, but maybe its time to let her go, Its been 2 months and she unfortunatly doesnt sound interested.

She told you she didnt want a boyfriend or attachements, yet she is giving her number out at the club???? then she has the nerve to tell you to "fuck off". With all due respect your right, she is a one in a million, a one in a million biatch to emberass you like that in front of her friends.

you blame yourself, her friends, and the past on why you aren't together anymore, maybe the person to blame is her. I bet it will be so much easier to get over her if u just start dating someone else. I have seen from many of the guys here on the boards laugh on how they never realized how bad their relationships were until they dated someone new.

I wish you the best bro, you dont deserve that type of treatment from anyone. PM if you need to talk.

[hitmansb]

juice....you seriously have to let go

The reason it still hurts as much as it did the day you broke up is because you haven't even given yourself a chance to move on; you still see her all the time and talk to her every day! How in the hell are you supposed to move on if you keep doing that.

I don't want to come off as a pessimistic ass, but she's made it very clear that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Deep down, who knows, maybe she does still have feelings....but it's clear that you always being around is starting to make her resentful towards you.

Think of it this way: how is she ever supposed to realize that she misses you/still loves you if you're always around??? You have to just break off all ties, no matter how hard it is for you to do so. That way, if she does still have feelings, maybe she will come around and want you back. But, if she doesn't have feelings, at least you've begun to move on / heal and arent' throwing yourself at her and looking pathetic anymore. One way or another, break off all communication and let whatever is supposed to happen take it's course.

And, to state the obvious, DO NOT get her anything for Valentine's Day, for God's sake! Don't even call!!!

[twizzbeats]

I feel for ya bro...good luckjust do what u feel is right.

[Puddles]

Juice, you are not allowing yourself room to heal from this relationship.

Also, from my own personal experience, I had an ex that wouldn't accept that our relationship was over and let me tell you, as a girl, that is the creapiest feeling ever. I felt intimidated and scared.

You need to stop keeping in contact with her, her family, and her friends. It will be the best thing for both of you.

I know you feel love for this girl but she isn't feeling it for you for whatever reasons. You can not make someone love you.

You need to be yourself or you will never be happy. Stop trying to be what she wants, be what you are and move on with your life. You will find someone who truly loves you just the way you are but you must allow yourself to end this relationship first, then heal from your broken heart, after that you will be able to let someone else into your heart.

Hugggs to ya. I know this is very hard.

[coffee-guy]

Juice -

You have some really good advice here. I really don't know what to say other than I am sorry and that I wish you the best...

Keep your head up and do what's in your best interest in the long run, not the short term....

[meat12]

Yeah bro, having her around still isn't going to make anything better.

[JUICE]

thanx for all the kind words guys.

i've tried moving on, didnt speak to her for about amonth or so. Then I would talk to her every now and then. Just till these days i started talking her more a little. Ive taken her out to eat about 3 weeks ago. I went out with her this weekend.
Its fricken hard to let go to someone like that. I dont know how to do it. Man ive lost weight also 232 down to 218. Im feel like shit, im still doing good in school, got "a"'s on my tests but its been killing me bad.

Alot of people are angry at me for talking to her again. Some old friends and close peeps dont like her anymore or just think she is not right for me. Don't get me wrong here, shes s good person and all. But all she wants to do right now is go out and have fun, as in clubbin with her friends. I saw the way she was, she was buzzing, dont know if i can call that fucked up, but she was dancing around with her chick friend, just there talking to people left and right. Her friend was a total jackass, shes little as in petite. She tried too hard to get all the attention in the world, giving her number out and shit. I told my ex/girl that she was acting like a jackass. I guess that pissed her off. I told her not to be a follower. That got her madder.

[AsianPersuasian]

I agree w/Rado. The more you keep pushing to get her back right now, the more she will not want to get back together. Give her some time and space and if you were meant to be together, then she will come back to you.

I'm going through the same thing right now. It's hard but you just have to cut all ties. Everytime you talk to her or see her, it's only gonna make things worse for you and her. If she still has you around like you've been doing and knows that you will be there she will keep you like this forever and nothing will change.

[JUICE]

Space....It's what women need and want most of the time....Space will make it or break it...Like I said bro, if she's genuine about YOU and you give her the space, she WILL come back even stronger.....

thanx AP and Rado.

Her mother was having a talk with me yesterday and she knows her daughter like no other. They come from decent families, good people. She told me she wishesand prays that me and her daughter get back together. She said she would love seeing us married and happy in the future. They love me big time. Im like part of thier family, been to trips out of town with them, came out in wedding with them, stuff like that. Her mom just told me the same thing, just give her time right now. She going through some little stage, i guess rebelious. Shes never gone out like that before and shit, but she would learn from all that and who her friends are. I guess and know your right when it comes to give SPACE. Its just hard right now. Im gonna have to be a man about and hold tight as i can, wait till shes ready to talk to me or something. And its true, the more your with them, the more they wanna push u away. Been there. :(

[meat12]

Hope all works out well for ya bro, time heals all wounds

[ROCKILLER]

I dont know your exact situation juice but my girl left me at the beginning of last year and I deserved it big time. I just didnt appreciate her. She was mad and distant and tried to cut all ties to me to make herself fell better. I kept telling her how much I cared but at the same time I tried to give her some space too. I still hate to think about it but one of the things that I think helped us get back together was when she started hanging out with another guy. Basically, what it boils down to was, she tried to find someone to take my place so she wouldnt think about me so much but she said it just wasnt the thing. No one she finds is gonna be like you. Best thing you can do is keep working hard and eating and doing your own thing as best you can. Her leaving is actually what got me started getting into shape and eating right. Let her know you really do care for her and when you do get a chance to be with her, dont push it too far but try to do things that remind her of how good you are together. good luck.

[babyblues]

I dont know your exact situation juice but my girl left me at the beginning of last year and I deserved it big time. I just didnt appreciate her. She was mad and distant and tried to cut all ties to me to make herself fell better. I kept telling her how much I cared but at the same time I tried to give her some space too. I still hate to think about it but one of the things that I think helped us get back together was when she started hanging out with another guy. Basically, what it boils down to was, she tried to find someone to take my place so she wouldnt think about me so much but she said it just wasnt the thing. No one she finds is gonna be like you. Best thing you can do is keep working hard and eating and doing your own thing as best you can. Her leaving is actually what got me started getting into shape and eating right. Let her know you really do care for her and when you do get a chance to be with her, dont push it too far but try to do things that remind her of how good you are together. good luck.

Yeah, he's right. If you want to convince her of what she's missing, you need to show her that you're a strong, stable guy who can still live his life even through the pain. Be the guy she fell for the first time. And by strong I don't mean smell. :D Seriously, I know what it's like...all the best, man.

[Lmg2701]

Best advice I can give you is to plain and simple just avoid her. Don't call, don't write, don't visit. Do things to keep your mind off of her as much as you can. You have to create that space if you're going to let go.

In time your friendship may grow and you may become best friends, who knows. But for right now you HAVE TO distance yourself from her and that whole messy situation. It's as simple as that, leave her alone. You remind me of lots of friends that I have that were/are in the same situation and until they stopped being stubborn fuckers and started just putting that space in between them and the girl they could never let go.

When ya think about callin......DON'T.
When ya think about visiting....DON'T.
When ya think about writting....DON'T.

Good luck bro and you know you have a group of people here willing to help ya.

[JUICE]

Good luck bro and you know you have a group of people here willing to help ya.

thank you man