met some girl

[Shibby]

update:

date went good though, saw the movie OMEN which i personally think it sucked. I needed to go out and date, but i dunno. This is the 2nd date ive gone out with, differnet girl. She's good looking, smart, and funny, but i dunno. I dont wanna get too attached soon, wanna get to know her more. Overall it was ok.

Juice, Maybe you shouldn't worry about "dating". Instead just go out with friends meeting new people and new "friends". For example with this girl. You should approach it more as gaining a new friend and just hanging out. If there is something there, let it develop on it's own and don't force anything.

[JUICE]

Juice, Maybe you shouldn't worry about "dating". Instead just go out with friends meeting new people and new "friends". For example with this girl. You should approach it more as gaining a new friend and just hanging out. If there is something there, let it develop on it's own and don't force anything.

shes cool and all, liked her alot but there were alot of red flags. I noticed that she easily gets attacthed, well to me. I met her family, I didnt feel comfortable, seem like good people but....

But yea, im seeing it more like gaining a new friend and to chill. Im not gonna say antyhing just go with the flow but to keep her as a friend.

[ROCKILLER]

Juice, you go on a first date to watch Omen? lol.....

I took my first long term g/f to see American History X when it came out for our first date. I was 16 I think.

Juice, my advice with any chick you are friends with or get closer to is to keep the contact from being to often. Say you go hang out, give her a day or two off . I wouldnt freak out and have like a schdule or anything but I used to (once I learned a few things) make it a point not to be with a girl too often.

[lxorl]

juice

i recently got divorced... and every girl i have gone out with has been under the pretext that we are just going to chill out for some drinks, and I am just trying to make friends. Its driving the girls crazy... the fact that i am not really persuing them is driving a couple nutts.

I know what you are talking about feeling like a new man. going out and hanging out with different girls... having them sweat me, has been a huge help to moving on. Have fun and enjoy it!

[Mr I]

The girls ive met before were in person. The last girl i ever met was my ex in person, introduced by a friend of ours.

I heard they were in prison not person :laughnew:

[babyblues]

shes cool and all, liked her alot but there were alot of red flags. I noticed that she easily gets attacthed, well to me. I met her family, I didnt feel comfortable, seem like good people but....

But yea, im seeing it more like gaining a new friend and to chill. Im not gonna say antyhing just go with the flow but to keep her as a friend.

I agree with Shibby. My advice would be to just enjoy your life as it is. Do all the things that you've wanted to do, go see the places you've always wanted to see, read the books you've always wanted to read, whatever it is, do it now. Enjoy being single now. Cause when you do find someone to settle down with, you're not going to be able to do most of it. That's not a bad thing, because you have someone to share your life with, but you're going to wish you had done those things when you had the chance. Don't be so consumed with "finding someone." No offense meant there. That's just my advice.

About the internet thing....I know a few people who have met people over the internet and it's worked out awesome. But for every one of them, there are a dozen horror stories. The problem is that when you're trying to meet someone with the intention of a relationship, it tends to be forced. That's why it appears that she gets attached quickly. She's looking for someone to get attached to. Just like Shibby said, you have to let a relationship develop on it's own. It should be a natural progression from an established friendship. I'm pullin for you man. Good luck.

[JUICE]

update:

every girl i have gone out with has been under the pretext that we are just going to chill out for some drinks, and I am just trying to make friends. Its driving the girls crazy... the fact that i am not really persuing them is driving a couple nutts.

this is what has been happening to me recently. I met girls from time to time. We talk and all, but in a way I dont want anything with them. Dont get me wrong, these girls aint hot nor butt ugly but average good looking girls. The sweetest ive met in a while but i tired working things out with 2 of them, one quicky things just didnt work out. We were too different. This one girl I met, the one from above, she was cool, beautiful, we went out a few times. Would be with her on the weekends. But like i said earlier, there were some red flags, things i didnt like. Im guessing she isnt my type. But iam not going to be rude and tell her this. I just tell her that i do not want to be in a relationship, giving her hints. But the more I say things like these, she wants me more. Things about her, shes said and done have freaked the shit out of me and some things pissed me off.
I was talking to her last night, she says she went out with friends clubbin, drank a few. The im tlaking to her at late night, she was all sad crying. Telling me she like me, practially tell me she loves me. But Im not ready to be in another relationship, and from time to time I still think of my ex. So I do not want to hurt this girl by going into a relationship and not feeling anything for her. It hurts me too seeing her get hurt in a way she likes me but I cannot force myself or feel pitty for someone cause they like me.
In reality, I wanna do my chosing of a female and when Im ready, and when I least expect it, its just happens. Right now I feel obligated becuase this giril like me and shes going and doing crazy shit for me. She was crying last night that I heard a bottle of pills in the back, heard her open then, the faucet running, and like if she drank something. Then after minutes, she started talking nonsense and blurred language. She freaked me out and in a way I too got concerned for her. I told her if she did what she did its the stupidest shit one can do. Shes only known me for a month and shes doing crazy shit. Then I asked her if she did something and she was like "what if i did". Then she started spinning in her room from what she told me. She was like I feel drunk, then goes I need to throw up. Next thing u know it, I hear her puking. I was like fuck this shit, I gotta a psycho here. I spoke to her, she didnt wanna hang up on me, so i hung up on her.
What pissed the shit out of me was that today I didnt even call her at all, and she called me when I was in the shower. I told my dad that i was showering, so he told her that. She had the nerve to tell my dad if he was lying to her. My dad was like what the fuk. Nah never more meet people online, or dont even wanna be in a relationship until the time is right and the girl is right.

I agree with Shibby. My advice would be to just enjoy your life as it is. Do all the things that you've wanted to do, go see the places you've always wanted to see, read the books you've always wanted to read, whatever it is, do it now. Enjoy being single now. Cause when you do find someone to settle down with, you're not going to be able to do most of it. That's not a bad thing, because you have someone to share your life with, but you're going to wish you had done those things when you had the chance. Don't be so consumed with "finding someone." No offense meant there. That's just my advice.

About the internet thing....I know a few people who have met people over the internet and it's worked out awesome. But for every one of them, there are a dozen horror stories. The problem is that when you're trying to meet someone with the intention of a relationship, it tends to be forced. That's why it appears that she gets attached quickly. She's looking for someone to get attached to. Just like Shibby said, you have to let a relationship develop on it's own. It should be a natural progression from an established friendship. I'm pullin for you man. Good luck.

i will take you all's advice on this one. I am going to enjoy life for now and be single. Im concentrating on school, which I am almost done with, my new job, and life. Im going to concentrate on bodybuilding and my family. Just do things I wanna do for myself.

[Primal Instinct]

Holy shit, Juice! You're lucky to get out of it without waking up with a knife growing out of your chest, lol. You're attitude towards relationships is great though and you understand what you want and will find it soon enough. You'll probably end up meeting someone someday in a total random fashion and really hit it off well. I think that timing is everything in relationships. Hell, I wish that I had your outlook when I was in my early twenties and I could have avoided a lot of girl trouble, lol.

[SonofBone]

Yeah, that K. Clarkson shit was me. Last time I had looked she had finally put up her "real" pictures.

Sounds like your head is screwed on straight Juice and the best thing you can do is just avoid that chick. With about a year of you never answering the phone, she'll finally quit calling. Also, funny how things go and work out. I'm guessing if she'd not been so into and just been a bit more nonchalant about things you would have been all into her.

Best of luck in finding the right one.

[njjuicer]

get a foreign bitch make her cook clean and give butt then after a few years you get a ne wone like leasing a car beat the shit otua it for 2 years trade it in for ne wmodel at least thats as far as my brain allows me tot hink haha