to all the ladies.......

[O2BESOHUGE]

when you tell a guy you need some "time" ... what does that mean?

is it over? i really love my girlfriend....and ill do anything to save our relationship.

what do i do? give her time? leave her alone? shes not wearingmy ring anymore, and it was an engagement ring.

what gives?

o2

[urso8up]

I have learned to give a girl time if dhe wants that way you will really know if you loves you. Time will always tell.

[O2BESOHUGE]

THIS IS KILLING ME!! I MOVED OUT THIS WEEKEND....
IT FEELS LIKE IM DEAD INSIDE!!

O2

[Starr]

I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak, it can really be tough. Easier said than done, but if there's nothing you can do about it, don't worry about it.

Give the girl her "time." Getting married is a huge step in life and a decision that should always be thought through. She's got to figure out whether she's ready for marriage, what her goals are, who she is and who she wants to be, and whether you are really the person she wants to do this with right here and now.

Have patience, and take this opportunity to give yourself some "time" too. Really think about who you are and where you want to go in life, and whether you're really prepared to share your entire world with someone.

It takes both of you to make the relationship work, and if one isn't prepared nor is ready and willing to make the changes and commitment necessary, let it be and don't force yourself on the other.

Again, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so low about this, but time heals all wounds.

[trip]

Originally posted by Starr
I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak, it can really be tough. Easier said than done, but if there's nothing you can do about it, don't worry about it.

Give the girl her "time." Getting married is a huge step in life and a decision that should always be thought through. She's got to figure out whether she's ready for marriage, what her goals are, who she is and who she wants to be, and whether you are really the person she wants to do this with right here and now.

Have patience, and take this opportunity to give yourself some "time" too. Really think about who you are and where you want to go in life, and whether you're really prepared to share your entire world with someone.

It takes both of you to make the relationship work, and if one isn't prepared nor is ready and willing to make the changes and commitment necessary, let it be and don't force yourself on the other.

Again, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling so low about this, but time heals all wounds.

Starr,

Nothing more can be said, this is an excellent post.

O2b,

Like Starr said, take time for you, do things for you, make it all about you, that is the quickest way to recover and heal, and too be ready for the future.

Good Luck

[O2BESOHUGE]

THIS IS KILLING ME...I CANT EAT, SLEEP OR ANYTHING. I CANT EVEN GET MY HEAD ON STRAIGHT ENOUGH TO WORK...I HAD TO MOVE OUT. AND ALL I HAVE BEEN DOING IS DRINKING BEER TILL I GO TO BED. IM IN SUCH A DESTRUCTIVE ORDEAL WITH MYSELF I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

O2

[turboguy]

go to a doctor and get something presecibed before your so destructive your gonna regret it.

i was with a chick for 4 years and found out she cheated on me. i wasn't the same for a year. but i never asked for help. go get help and make a effort to get better. if she said thatto you you don't need her. cause she is gonna do it again if she comes back.

[dreamgirl]

just always remember that as much as you love someone, you can't make them love you... obviously she has questions of her own love... don't rush it. sorry you are going through all this. I've been there.

[O2BESOHUGE]

THANK YOU GUYS FOR LIFTING ME UP...KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS.

O2

[xxjason]

same shit happened to me 3 years ago .was with the girl for 2 years .she started hang out with an old (friend)then 2 months later she said she needs spacewe split up but she finaly busted her self out when we were talking6 months later when he baled on here (booty call)the bitch came over for a piece!any way I told here I just got involved with someone and I wasent into her
the girl I blew her off for Im still with and shes the best woman
Ive ever met
Im pullin for you bro!

[JUICE]

:( I hate it when they tell me that, my girl only did it once to me, telling me she needed time but I DIDNT GIVE IT TO HER, and Im still with her, happier than ever.

[xxjason]

and cramin 100mg fina ed dint help the sitch

[longtimer]

o2 - Bro take it to the gym and work the anger there, it will be for the best. My prayers are with you.
lt

[Irishgirl]

Hey o2 good luck with everything. I obviously don't know you're situation, but speaking from experience, she might just need some time to get herself straight. One thing I've come to learn is that you need to deal with your own issues and problems and love yourself before you can truely give yourself to another person. And if you didn't give her time to herself to figure out what she needs, she might be worse off. If it was meant to be, you'll be back together. And if you don't get back together, you'll get through it. Everyone does. I know it doesn't feel like that right now, but we'll all be here for you if you need us.

[new231]

I think that if someone else is on her mind right now that complicates things very greatly. If not, then you should be ok with giving her the space and time she needs. Give her a couple of weeks on her own and hopefully you can trust her. If she is a good person and not seeing another guy then you don't have to worry about her finding someone else during these couple of weeks or making some drastic change to her lifestyle. Let her have some space to find herself and her true needs.