Your friends, trust, and respect

[redneck99]

It's kinda a dreary, humid Monday in the SouthEast and I wanted to vent to everyone today

Over the weekend I found out from my girlfriend that one of my so-called "boys" had tried to get her to have sex with him one night after she followed him home from the bar she works at.

He said he didn't want to get pulled over and, being the sweetheart that she it, she agreed to follow him so that no cops would get behind him.

Apparently the whole way there, he was texting her and trying to get her to come up to his apartment to sex it up.

we've been together for over a year.

This was prolly 4 or 5 months ago but to me that doesn't make a difference. It's all about respect and that proved to me that he has none for me nor her.

So now I'm gonna have to go a slap him around a bit and make him piss his pants with the fear of God that I'm going to unleash on his punk ass.

What really gets me tho, it that he's totally a little fella and knows that I'm " enhanced"

One , what a dipshit, and two, are there really no true friends out there anymore????

Just because I have a hot gf ur gonna try to get into her pants regardless or our friendship. WTF???? Really?

What a true disappointment.

Just had to vent everyone..... hope you all have a great week.

[Bouncer]

not that he deserves any credit but.. was he drunk? maybe he doesn't even remember it. i would ask him about it and see what he has to say.

also, why are you just finding out about it now after 5 months?

[FitnessBrat]

Of course he's going to say he was drunk, didn't mean it, might say he doesn't even recall it, and would never do anything to disrespect you. Then what are you going to do/say?

I've never bought into the whole "bros before hos" - just seems like 9 times out of 10 people are caught up in the moment and the opportunity of sex wins....

[redneck99]

not that he deserves any credit but.. was he drunk? maybe he doesn't even remember it. i would ask him about it and see what he has to say.

also, why are you just finding out about it now after 5 months?

I've told my gf that if shit like that happens, not to tell me cuz, yes it's a little naive on my part, for the longest time, i didn't wanna know anything like that so I don't lose respect for some of my guy friends... but I just didn't wanna know.

kinda like myspace, my girl invites me to read her messages so that I know she has nothing to hide but I just don't wanna know how big of douchebag some of the guys in our circle of friends are.

me and my girl were having an indepth convo and she said she didn't wanna narc on my boy for his sake and for his gf's sake... yes he has a girlfriend and he cheats on her all of the time.... but she was asking how much I should trust my friends and that maybe some of them were not who I thought they were, long story short she tells me the whole thing

in the end i'm glad she told me.

it's just disappointing and shows his lack of respect. now i'm trying to decide how to approach the situation.

even drunk I would never do that to any one of my friends. and yes I've have plenty of opportunities like that.

i just thought that someone that I considered one of my few close friends possessed a stronger character.

[redneck99]

Of course he's going to say he was drunk, didn't mean it, might say he doesn't even recall it, and would never do anything to disrespect you. Then what are you going to do/say?

I've never bought into the whole "bros before hos" - just seems like 9 times out of 10 people are caught up in the moment and the opportunity of sex wins....

she saved the texts he sent. he can't deny that. and that to me proves that he had an agenda... it wasn't just the alcohol.

[FitnessBrat]

she saved the texts he sent. he can't deny that. and that to me proves that he had an agenda... it wasn't just the alcohol.

I didn't mean deny it happened - just that he doesn't remember doing it and that *sober* he wouldn't disrespect you or her.

[ROCKETW19]

most guys are like that! me personaly i wouldnt do it, not to a friend theres no reason to girls are a dime a dozen.
if he could text while driving like you said he wasnt drunk at all. if it happened 5 months ago im not sure how i would react maybe check him not sure if id beat him or not. in the last 5 months he hasnt tryed it again. maybe he got a wrong message from your girl i dont know. good luck bro.

[Bouncer]

ok then in that case, bitch slap him. :)

[beefcake]

How can you be surprised when you just said yourself you don't wanna know how many douchebags you have for friends? So technically, you never trusted any of your friends in the first place.

[redneck99]

well ur right on the money on that one....

u want to give "friends" the benefit of the doubt but in the end....

they're guys...and sometimes we know how we guys can be.... my roommate included.

and on a side note: today is my first day of PCT after a 14-weeker, so this also may be the hormones talking.

still disappointed tho.

thanx for all ur words and advice everyone. this is the exact reason, althought I may not be the most vocal member, i've come here for the past 3 years.... for the strong advice, guidance and support that the members of SM provide.

ur all very high class people.

[Bouncer]

redneck99 out with his girl..

[FitnessBrat]

lol - you have a picture for everything!

[redneck99]

redneck99 out with his girl..

:laughnew: damn bouncer!!!! bwahahahahahaha!

i needed that one =)

[JUICE]

thats messed up. Me being a guy, I wouldnt do that even being drunk, doing it to a friend. Good thing is she was honest and told u about it.

Something similar happend to me a few months back too, a so-called friend. I just decided to cut all ties with this piece of shit so-called friend. Comes from the worst of the worst kind.

[JUICE]

redneck99 out with his girl..

hahahahaha :laughnew: