So, I normally stay out of this sub-forum...

[NewbieChris]

Yes, this post is about sex...I'm being pretty open about this, so please don't make too much fun of me.







but I have a question and I'm not asking my buddies about this. I just got out of a somewhat long term relationship, roughly 2 years, and I have finally decided to go on a date with this girl. Now, here are some qualifiers for later. I come from a rather conservative home, and thus I've decided that vaginal intercourse is going to wait till the 'true' long term. Now, that doesn't mean I don't believe in giving and getting other fun treats.

The problem...This girl has, in no uncertain terms, make it clear she will most likely fellatio me on a first date. I feel so dirty even thinking about letting her do it. Is it a bad idea? Don't you think its just like...too much for a first date. Only hang up being...its been a little while.

[YellowJacket]

A chick who says she'll blow you on a first date, is a chick you dont want to call the next day.

[Timma]

He's right. Any time i've ever dated if the girl wants to put out something within the first date, she's not a keeper. I've always waited till I know she ain't no slut.

[dna9488]

A chick who says she'll blow you on a first date, is a chick you dont want to call the next day.

YJ hit the nail on the head with this



If a girl doesn't respect herself, how will she respect you???

Some girls are also out there to 'play' guys. She will use you for all you have and than dump you like a $5 whore on the corner of Broadway and 5th


You just got to be careful and talk to her, if you feel like she wants to have sex on the 1st date..........DUMP HER

If she is wearing slutty clothes, heavy make-up, and showing too much skin..........DUMP HER........finding a genuine 'good' girl is out there, you just got to look. Its good that your conservative, and your not into the WHAM BAM THANK YOU MA'AM on the 1st date

[NewbieChris]

Well, she never explicitly said it. Its just we've known each other long enough that I know she will, she has liked me for a while. What she sees, I'll never konw. Problem is I am having the moral dilema of not having had any nookie in 2 months and not wanting to be a whore myself and take advantage of this situation. All my brothers would say I'm being a pussy and to just do it and drop her off at home...but i just feel dirty doing that. Is that a better way of explaining the situation? I'm not even sure I see a real long term thing coming out of this date...but we're friends and I said yes because my mind was in the gutter at the time.

[ROCKILLER]

It all comes down to what you want. The other guys are right and while I would have no problem dating a girl like that, I would never really respect her or trust her deep down. And I would let her know that it was never going to be a permanent thing. I have in the past and some girls are cool with that. As for your situation and knowing the girl, you sound like youre going out with her because you feel bad that she likes you. If youre honest about your intentions with her, why not let her blow you?

[Shibby]

You used the word fellatio for what a new adventure my do, instead of getting head or getting blown. That in itself tells you what you feel about respect versus something slightly degrading. To me it sounds like there is a level of personal emotion that you take pride in when involved in intimate acts. All I can say is try to never sacrifice yourself for any excpierence, but don't be apposed to personal growth and change. As you get older you will notice that the pleasures in life isn't simply about what type of person you are, it's also about getting to know more of who you are and what really makes you happy. Don't let your culture decide what it means to be happy but don't be radical with your own life.

[Bouncer]

we are definitely different people chris. lol. i would be more like your brothers and say you are a pussy. :)

have you explored how you really feel about men? because anyone that uses the word "fellatio" is slightly gay in my eyes. :P

[NewbieChris]

I'm probably going to 'bitch out'. But hey, at least I'll get to eat a meal out for once!

[dna9488]

I'm probably going to 'bitch out'. But hey, at least I'll get to eat a meal out for once!

ya man, do what u think feels right.

[The_Grinder]

I've always done what I felt is right no matter what my buddies said. Personally, if a girl wanted to blow me on the first date, I'd let her. But I'd be damned before I'd ever get in a relationship with her. But if you don't want to do it then don't. Hell, I am engaged at 21 years old. I get shit about that all the time from my buddies. But I am in love with her and I know I want to be with her so I don't give two fucks what they say. Looking at your post, I can tell you already know whether or not you WANT to do it or not, so just go with what you feel bro.

[FrankTheTank55]

Just because a girl puts out on the first date doesnt always mean she is a whore. Now if she fucks you and all your buddies I might worry. I say chill out and go have a good time with her if something happens its cool if not who cares. Just be clear with her on what you are looking for. Good luck man.

[Nekrawulf]

You've already said that you have known each other for quite some time...

that completely negates any "whore" concept in my eyes...

just see what happens.

[alwaysgrowing]

I'm probably going to 'bitch out'. But hey, at least I'll get to eat a meal out for once!

in more ways than one if you want

[Bouncer]

in more ways than one if you want

:evil:

he doesn't do those kind of things though. :ghey: