I just don't understand women.

[Timma]

So it all started Sunday morning. My gf stayed the night. I woke up and went over to the couch where she was sitting and went to cuddle. I told her "i love you" and she said the same. Then she began to cry. I asked her what was wrong and she said "nothing". I tried to drag it out of her asking all kinds of questions. Then i had this sinking feeling and asked her "are you breaking up with me?" She started to cry so hard. I sat there in shock and silence for a long time. We finally talked and she ended it with i just dont want the relationship right now, but we can still cuddle and everything.

That make me totally mental like how the fuck would we not be in a relationship then?

So the day went on and i went to the gym and to my friend's house to cool off. She called me and said she made a mistake and wanted to stay together. We talked a while and everything was ok.

Well cut to today and everything was going great but i woke up with this feeling in my gut. She said come on over and you can let out the rest of your issues and you can do your laundry and stuff. Well after lunch she texts me saying maybe i should go to the laundromat and she will come over to my place after. I say why the change? And then it started.

We went back and forth on how she can't do it anymore. She doesn't want to work at things. She's going off to school in August and she doesn't want the pressure of being with me and going to school and ll this other crap.

She had told me before we started dating that she was always afraid of past relationships so she would bail. This time she will not admit she is bailing.

Im just at the lowest point of my life right now and don't know what to do.

[Bouncer]

I almost said something in this thread to you. http://www.superiormuscle.com/forums...t-boston-today

When you said she is moving to Boston and you will go and visit I almost said, "long distance relationships never work." i didn't want to ruin the thread for you though so i didn't post it.

sorry to hear it bro but i think it is for the best. it would have ended when she moved away. she would have cheated, you would have cheated etc...

[Timma]

I know someone else said it too. We had already done a long distance relationship so we figured we could do it again. Thing is we aren't the cheating type of people, but i did have a feeling she would end up meeting someone there and dump me.

[Bouncer]

she just isn't the one bro. you will find what you are looking for, just keep your head up and keep moving forward.

[Timma]

she just isn't the one bro. you will find what you are looking for, just keep your head up and keep moving forward.

Thanks man. She still wants to be good friends but i don't know if i could do it after what she did.

[Bouncer]

Thanks man. She still wants to be good friends but i don't know if i could do it after what she did.

just tell her you met someone at the gym and the friendship with her would mess up things between you and your new girl.

stick it to the bitch, let her feel some pain. :D

[FrankTheTank55]

Hey bro I know its hard but just take of yourself and everything will fall into place. It takes time to get over this shit, but you will. And maybe oneday you guys will give it another try. Just stay busy.

[Timma]

Hey bro I know its hard but just take of yourself and everything will fall into place. It takes time to get over this shit, but you will. And maybe oneday you guys will give it another try. Just stay busy.

Thanks man. It's just so hard not to think about it or keep busy. She wants to stay friends so that once she gets her shit together we can try things again.

[Timma]

just tell her you met someone at the gym and the friendship with her would mess up things between you and your new girl.

stick it to the bitch, let her feel some pain. :D

Haha i can't do that to her. I love her too much.

[The_Grinder]

I know how you feel. I had a 3 1/2 year relationship end last year and it felt right someone ripped my nuts off. The best thing to do is just get it over with as quick as possible. It will never be easy, for you or her, but its just a shitty part of life. That thread I made about mine is down this section somewhere.

[The_Grinder]

http://www.superiormuscle.com/forums...-probably-over

[FrankTheTank55]

Thanks man. It's just so hard not to think about it or keep busy. She wants to stay friends so that once she gets her shit together we can try things again.

I know this isnt something you would want to do. But, if you meet someone else you would get over this alot faster. I always said "Nothing gets you over the last one, like the next one" even if you just have a female friend someone to do shit with. I think staying friends is hard, because it leaves so many things that could be mistaken for someone wanting to be more than friends again than the hurt comes back all over again. If that makes sense.

[Bouncer]

I know this isnt something you would want to do. But, if you meet someone else you would get over this alot faster. I always said "Nothing gets you over the last one, like the next one" even if you just have a female friend someone to do shit with. I think staying friends is hard, because it leaves so many things that could be mistaken for someone wanting to be more than friends again than the hurt comes back all over again. If that makes sense.

agreed 100%.

[alwaysgrowing]

just tell her you met someone at the gym and the friendship with her would mess up things between you and your new girl.

stick it to the bitch, let her feel some pain. :D

I have to agree with bouncer. but this would work better if you hit it one more time, then when you are done, you tell her you met someone else, so you can't talk to her anymore.

[Shibby]

Thanks man. She still wants to be good friends but i don't know if i could do it after what she did.

The only realistic way that could ever happen is to have enough time a part that you can rebuild it as a friendship. Otherwise you won't really talk to each other because you both aren't sure what is ok to talk about.