Can't believe my girl

[dna9488]

Alright guys, my girl and I have been together for about a month. I don't see her that much, maybe one or twice a week. We always talk and text back and forth (Also explains why my phone bill has been over $100)

My friend calls me up last week, and invites me to a party at his house, and he told me not to bring my girl. I found that odd, but didn't ask questions. I go to his party and ask him why my girl wasn't invited. He told me to sit down and he explained a lot of stuff to me.

His friend was at a party recently where my girl went without telling me. It was about 6 guys and her. I was told she got DRUNK AS HELL, made herself look real bad and started acting weird. It got to the point where someone had to drive her home. I asked if anything happened between them, and he said no.

Since we began dating, she had told me to trust her, and let us be honest with another.
I want to dump her and tell her to fuck off, but on the other hand i know if I do that, she will come back and beg me to take her back

Need some help guy and girls.

[Bouncer]

dump her for what though? going to a party and NOT doing anything?

[dna9488]

dump her for what though? going to a party and NOT doing anything?

ya that hit me as weird man, i understand drinking, but i don't understand why she needed to get hammered drunk to the point that someone else had to care for her that night.

[mindstar]

ok so you go to a party without her and get hammered and your buddy has to make sure you don't choke on your own puke. She dumps you?

[NYCmitch25]

how close of a friend is this guy? he may not have the heart to tell you the true. your probably lucky someone told you at all. its usually a sign of problems in a relationship if shes doing shit like that. yeah nothing may have happened but she is thinking about it or being secretive. it doesnt mean YOU did anything wrong but she may want to date more ppl or is just immature, or inexperienced. do you want to be with someone who you have to watch all the time?

[NYCmitch25]

jesus christ we became a bunch of fruits on this site LOL

[Gecko1980]

Im confused, I can understand you being upset about her going to a party with a bunch of guy's or not telling you, but for getting drunk?? Don't know man, sounds like she wanted to get away for a night..

[Bouncer]

ya that hit me as weird man, i understand drinking, but i don't understand why she needed to get hammered drunk to the point that someone else had to care for her that night.

i would have fucked her if i was there. hope that makes you feel better. :)

[Stonecold54]

you've been with her a MONTH? that doesn't even count it the grand scheme of things. you are just friends really.

[Gecko1980]

i would have fucked her if i was there. hope that makes you feel better. :)

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[Bouncer]

you've been with her a MONTH? that doesn't even count it the grand scheme of things. you are just friends really.

havent had sex either. :rofl:

[dna9488]

ok so you go to a party without her and get hammered and your buddy has to make sure you don't choke on your own puke. She dumps you?

i don't drink man.

[dna9488]

how close of a friend is this guy? he may not have the heart to tell you the true. your probably lucky someone told you at all. its usually a sign of problems in a relationship if shes doing shit like that. yeah nothing may have happened but she is thinking about it or being secretive. it doesnt mean YOU did anything wrong but she may want to date more ppl or is just immature, or inexperienced. do you want to be with someone who you have to watch all the time?

thats exactly what i was thinking. The guy that was hosting the party, i had met him at another party, and he was the one that told me about my girl and what happened that night at his party. Like i said man, we talk every night, and she open with me. She has told me how she has been treated in the past, and i said I would never do that to her. She does work 2 jobs and also is taking a summer class, and all the free time she spends is usually with me if not with her family.

Im confused, I can understand you being upset about her going to a party with a bunch of guy's or not telling you, but for getting drunk?? Don't know man, sounds like she wanted to get away for a night..

It might be something like that, but how do i know this is the first time?

you've been with her a MONTH? that doesn't even count it the grand scheme of things. you are just friends really.

I doubt it, we have been friends since middle school man, and while hanging out a while back, she said she like me. So i was like fuck it, and i asked her out.

[mindstar]

i don't drink man.

you miss the point. is getting intoxicated worthy of getting dumped? if yes, then fine, but you should make sure to tell everyone you date that any more than three wine coolers and their ass is history.

if it's not about that, and i suspect it's not, then what is it about? is it a trust issue? if it is, i think it is important for you to interrogate why you have this trust issue. is it because she's given you cause not to trust her? has she cheated on ex's? has she been secretive toward you? If yes, then it's something you need to deal with. if not, then where is the trust issue coming from? from my initial reading of your post it sounds an awful lot like you don't trust her becasue she's a woman probably because you believe deep down that either a) all women are weak and unable to say no and display any sense of self-determination or b) all women are whores.

Of course, you're going to piss and moan about how you love women and you trust her etc. but seriously, she went to a party and had a good time without you. get over yourself.

[dna9488]

you miss the point. is getting intoxicated worthy of getting dumped? if yes, then fine, but you should make sure to tell everyone you date that any more than three wine coolers and their ass is history.

if it's not about that, and i suspect it's not, then what is it about? is it a trust issue? if it is, i think it is important for you to interrogate why you have this trust issue. is it because she's given you cause not to trust her? has she cheated on ex's? has she been secretive toward you? If yes, then it's something you need to deal with. if not, then where is the trust issue coming from? from my initial reading of your post it sounds an awful lot like you don't trust her becasue she's a woman probably because you believe deep down that either a) all women are weak and unable to say no and display any sense of self-determination or b) all women are whores.

Of course, you're going to piss and moan about how you love women and you trust her etc. but seriously, she went to a party and had a good time without you. get over yourself.

No its ok for her to drink. Its just that i am usually there with her, and making sure she doesn't mess herself up. I think that because i wasn't there this time, it kind of impacted me in a way.

I don't know man, i have been under a lot of stress lately, maybe i am just overreacting.