Just when I thought things were great...

[The_Grinder]

It's always the same. We all want the fairy tail of being in love, but in reality what is great is someone to come home to that you love coming home to. Everything else is just a fantasy. Even those people who think they find the perfect harmony of a relationship realize life is life and having someone that you can laugh at and laugh at you is what is perfect. "Imperfection is perfection". (Some famous artist said it but I can't remember who).

Well said brother.

[caged]

that sucks grinder. sorry to here this shit- thats some hard stuff!
so you didnt see any attitude changes at all weeks before?
iv been in a few relationships like this before i think everyone has. sometime they think the grass is greener on the other side,with my experience they seem to all ways come back.
by then id could care less probably cuz i was with someone else or i just didnt want to (came to terms) deal with the person anymore anyways.
also the situations iv been in, 80% of the time it was becuz they started to talk to someone else.
not sure this is your case.. but hope shit gets better for you.

[Bouncer]

i wonder if her mother had anything to do with it?

i remember you having some problems with her with the dog situation.

she seems like a person that is very easily persuaded.

[The_Grinder]

Update:

Well I saw her this afternoon for the first time since she gave me back the ring. We were completely honest with eachother about all of our feelings. We came to a very simple conclusion. We both loved eachother, but we weren't sure if we should be together. So we decided although I am moving out, we are going to continue dating. Tonight we had a great night. We went to a nice dinner and then hit the batting cages and go karts. (Sound juvenille I know, but it was nice) Then we kissed goodbye and went our separate ways. We are going to continue seeing eachother for a little while and see what comes of it.

Neither of us wanted to completely END it, because we still love eachother. We figure that by doing it this way, one of two things will happen. Either we will figure out we don't need eachother as much as we thought, or we will grow stronger together than we had before. One thing is for sure though, there will be no more rushing into anything like getting engaged before we are damn good and ready.

[dna9488]

Damn bro, i am speechless. I remember you posting great things about your marriage, getting a dog, working, vacations, etc...

Your posts sounded like you two were meant for each other. I do not have any experience in this. Basically bro, good luck and I hope everything works out between you two.

[Nekrawulf]

Ill be the negative Nancy because I am a realist.

You said you guys have been dating for a while, and you/she just got out of college?

Sounds like someone isnt ready to live the adult life, and be "tied down".

Seems like you are at 2 different points in your lives.

I wont give any ill fated and unsolicited advice, just making an observation.

[The_Grinder]

Ill be the negative Nancy because I am a realist.

You said you guys have been dating for a while, and you/she just got out of college?

Sounds like someone isnt ready to live the adult life, and be "tied down".

Seems like you are at 2 different points in your lives.

I wont give any ill fated and unsolicited advice, just making an observation.

Actually if anyone is having second thoughts because of being tied down its me. She has been out of school for about a year now and I just graduated in May.

Actually last night she called crying asking me to come over there. She said she wanted to wear the ring again and she made a mistake. I went over there and stayed with her, and she went to work this morning. I think it was all getting too real for her that I was actually not with her. We are going to have to talk about some things though, because I'm not putting a ring on a girl's finger again until we are both READY. Me and her are not ready to be engaged right now. I do love her, but her doubts brought up any doubts I had. We just need to take a step back and slow down. Maybe not seeing other people, but definately taking some time to ourselves every once in a while.

[Timma]

Actually if anyone is having second thoughts because of being tied down its me. She has been out of school for about a year now and I just graduated in May.

Actually last night she called crying asking me to come over there. She said she wanted to wear the ring again and she made a mistake. I went over there and stayed with her, and she went to work this morning. I think it was all getting too real for her that I was actually not with her. We are going to have to talk about some things though, because I'm not putting a ring on a girl's finger again until we are both READY. Me and her are not ready to be engaged right now. I do love her, but her doubts brought up any doubts I had. We just need to take a step back and slow down. Maybe not seeing other people, but definately taking some time to ourselves every once in a while.

That's def a good idea bro. Like I said before you guys are still young and don't need to rush into anything. Believe me from experience that you need to make sure this is the right thing for the both of you.

[FrankTheTank55]

Always have that wall up. No matter how long you know a girl or how long you been together you keep that wall up. Im not saying be a asshole or anything but dont give a girl every ounce of you. If you give her everything if she leaves you are totally crushed. Im not good at putting my thoughts into words. Hopfully you see what I am trying to say. Good luck man one day you will look back and be thankful things worked out the way they did...

[Turbo3000]

Always have that wall up. No matter how long you know a girl or how long you been together you keep that wall up. Im not saying be a asshole or anything but dont give a girl every ounce of you. If you give her everything if she leaves you are totally crushed. Im not good at putting my thoughts into words. Hopfully you see what I am trying to say. Good luck man one day you will look back and be thankful things worked out the way they did...

Good advice.

[The_Grinder]

Always have that wall up. No matter how long you know a girl or how long you been together you keep that wall up. Im not saying be a asshole or anything but dont give a girl every ounce of you. If you give her everything if she leaves you are totally crushed. Im not good at putting my thoughts into words. Hopfully you see what I am trying to say. Good luck man one day you will look back and be thankful things worked out the way they did...

Totally understand what you are saying here. Even if I get back to this girl I will follow this advice...

[Bouncer]

Ill be Nancy

you play that role often don't you?

[redback]

Sorry to hear that bro, things will get better tho.

[ROCKILLER]

Always have that wall up. No matter how long you know a girl or how long you been together you keep that wall up. Im not saying be a asshole or anything but dont give a girl every ounce of you. If you give her everything if she leaves you are totally crushed. Im not good at putting my thoughts into words. Hopfully you see what I am trying to say. Good luck man one day you will look back and be thankful things worked out the way they did...

As much as I hate to say it and wish it wasn't this way I have to agree.

[The_Grinder]

Well I have moved back in. Like Frank suggested tho, I definately have my guard up. She might have enough of me to hurt me, but she won't be able to rip my heart out. She has mentioned wearing the ring again. This is something I'm definately not sure about. I just have no clue why shed want to anyway so soon after what just happened. I definately dont think its time for that yet.